DCP Calling Others...What Should I Do

[KidGrind]

Exactly!! It doesn't always have to be personal or drama filled.

Sometimes parents are more trouble/stress than their children could ever be!

I got the Holy Ghost reading that comment!

[Jack Sprat]

Exactly!! It doesn't always have to be personal or drama filled.

Sometimes parents are more trouble/stress than their children could ever be!

YES!!! I'm terming my first family and will be very sad to see the child go. But, NOT the parents!

[childcaremom]

One week, until the end of the month.
Daycare, I could put up with anything for a week. We've all termed and had just one more week of bad behaviours from both parents and children, but isn't this different in that she's going out of her way to wary parents of me. That seems a little evil to me, different than the parents who are late, flakey, not all there. This is just downright mean. I am livid right now, and am with Twinkristi that she shouldn't be able to do that with no repercussions. And do I really have to let this woman into my home knowing what I know. That's just demeaning.

I would term immediately and be done with it now. I wouldn't let her step foot back in my house.

I know you are worried about what she might do, and maybe she will wear out her fingers dialling other parents, but I would not let that fear control you. Get rid of her. Show her that what she did is unacceptable and she can't treat you like that.

Who's to say she won't do it anyways at the end of the week?

[Play Care]

I would term immediately and be done with it now. I wouldn't let her step foot back in my house.

I know you are worried about what she might do, and maybe she will wear out her fingers dialling other parents, but I would not let that fear control you. Get rid of her. Show her that what she did is unacceptable and she can't treat you like that.

Who's to say she won't do it anyways at the end of the week?

I agree. I am of the "no good deed goes unpunished" school of thought. So you keep her, either because you feel bad about terming or because your afraid of what else she will do/say only to have her behave badly at the end or still bad mouth you. Bottom line, she has already done those things and not EXPECTS you to put up with it because she has the upper hand (she'll just call the other parents and get them mad at you too! )
I love the advice cheerfuldom gave about how to talk to the other parents regarding the issue. It makes it clear that certain things are out of bounds in a professional way.

[coolconfidentme]

I'm VERY intolerant of lying, slanderous & libelous comments. I would term immediately & let my state consultant know. I would follow that up with a cease & desist letter to the DCP. Think of it this way; This is what she is saying to people you know. What do you you think she is saying to people you don't know? It will not stop when she leaves, she will continue with her remarks until you make it clear you may take legal action if she she doesn't stop. You really need to protect your business & brand. I went though a similar situation & it didn't stop until I made it stop. Good luck!

[Blackcat31]

Blackcat, sorry you went going through that. I've been reading your posts for ages and forget that you have the same problems we do Misery loves company Thanks for sharing!

Trust me, you are NEVER alone in the problems, situations and scenarios that happen in the world of child care.

We ALL have issues. It doesn't matter how long you've been doing this....parenting trends come and go but parents in general wanting "special" or behaving badly doesn't change.

It's part of the deal when we work with others.

I hope you are able to find a good resolution to your issue and I hope Karma finds this blabbing DCM fast.

It's hard to take the high road sometimes and even harder not to let your emotions cloud your judgment but it is best to always remember that the type of people who do such sneaky underhanded things in life WILL get "their's" eventually. Life is funny like that.....you get out of it exactly what you put into it.

Hold your head high, know you ARE a great provider and don't let anyone (spreading lies or whatnot) define you differently.

The families who are using your care KNOW that, the ones who feel the need to badmouth you are the ones that have something wrong. Whether it is them personally or just their moral compass having issues....it on them NOT you. lovethis

[Angelsj]

Trust me, you are NEVER alone in the problems, situations and scenarios that happen in the world of child care.

We ALL have issues. It doesn't matter how long you've been doing this....parenting trends come and go but parents in general wanting "special" or behaving badly doesn't change.

It's part of the deal when we work with others.

I hope you are able to find a good resolution to your issue and I hope Karma finds this blabbing DCM fast.

It's hard to take the high road sometimes and even harder not to let your emotions cloud your judgment but it is best to always remember that the type of people who do such sneaky underhanded things in life WILL get "their's" eventually. Life is funny like that.....you get out of it exactly what you put into it.

Hold your head high, know you ARE a great provider and don't let anyone (spreading lies or whatnot) define you differently.

The families who are using your care KNOW that, the ones who feel the need to badmouth you are the ones that have something wrong. Whether it is them personally or just their moral compass having issues....it on them NOT you. lovethis

Amen!!

[DaisyMamma]

I didn't read all the replies. But are you charging late fees? $1/minute would have solved this problem the first time. At least for most people it does.

[My3cents]

So DCD just came in and told me that another DCM had called him/his wife last night to complain about me. He wasn't sure of exact complaints, something along the lines of no communication on my part.
This mom was just here until she could get her boy into sisters daycare, started Dec, leaving at end of month. She's the first one here in the morning and always comes a couple of minutes after closing. I have missed countless sporting events of DS because of this (when you have to leave at 445, you have to leave, you ladies know how it is) so family has taken off without me.
So last night she texts that she's going to be late and ends of showing up almost an hour late. I didn't see her as her husband showed up at the same time and came in to get DCB. He mumbled something about "going to have a talk with his wife, she called me.." Whatever. So I ran to car, had to wait for her to move and left.
This morning she apologized and I was of course pretty blunt about all the lates and missing my class last night, and I 'accidentally' insinuated I only have to deal with this crap for one more week, I'm bad for verbal diarreah.
DCM came to pick up a little early today, I faked good spirits, DCB so funny today blah blah blah. And then other DCD told me about phone call last night and I'm beyond shocked. I can't wrap my head around why she'd feel the need to trash me to long term clients because she was late.
So what should I do? Is there liability issues by immediate termination or by waiting out the week. And I should add that she did try calling another DCP but she never accepted the call, thank god I only gave her two reference numbers.

Late fee after the 2nd time she did this! I think you let this parent walk on you long enough. Why would you miss your child's events repeatedly over a late parent? Once I can see letting it slide but then to keep allowing it, no wonder she did it, she knew she could.

As far as her calling your other parents. I would be livid. Term her and be done with this crummy client.

I suggest a good rule/hand/policy book and clear contract.

Some people thrive on mean drama, they always have to have a whirlwind following them in order to be ok in their own minds. Sometimes this comes out immediately and then other times as we get to know someone we figure this out or the true self emerges. having limits on what you are willing to put up with is key- Set clear boundaries with your clients from the get go no matter how long they plan to stay.

I wish you the best-

[My3cents]

One week, until the end of the month.
Daycare, I could put up with anything for a week. We've all termed and had just one more week of bad behaviours from both parents and children, but isn't this different in that she's going out of her way to wary parents of me. That seems a little evil to me, different than the parents who are late, flakey, not all there. This is just downright mean. I am livid right now, and am with Twinkristi that she shouldn't be able to do that with no repercussions. And do I really have to let this woman into my home knowing what I know. That's just demeaning.

do what you have to do. You know the situation and I believe down in your heart you know what is best to do. I agree with you. I would want to be done ASAP She has become a liability to your business. lovethis