I have a dck who is almost 5. has been in my care for 3 years. Child is pretty shy, always has pretty good behavior, but ZERO ability to cope. child attend full time.
yesterday we had an incident where this DCK1 and another DCK2 were playing together and DCK1 called DCK2 a name. DCK1 was kind of joking, but DCK2 did not like it at all and did an excellent job of using their words and DCK2 says, don't call me that, i don't like it." DCK1 breaks down and has a crying fit for almost an hour. I don't feed into it at all. I tell DCK1, please come take a break and relax, you are safe, you are ok. I know you are upset, but you need to use your words. Well DCM comes to pick up and DCK is still crying about this. I tell dcm, she tears up?????? DCK1 comes around the corner and sees mom and begins a scream crying like someone hurt them.
I tell DCM and DCB, you need to relax, take a deep breath and use your words. BUT DCM is coddling DCK and just saying ahhh poor baby, are you ok.
Well they leave and I think it's done. NOPE this morning at drop off, DCK1 comes in and starts crying about the incident. DCM stays, coddles DCK for about 10 minutes (way too long) and just works them self up into a crying, sobering hot mess. I finally have a second to hop in and say, hey DCK you are ok, everyone is ok and we need to get ready for our day, say good-bye to mom. Ends there with mom, kid cried for another 15 minutes after.
This kid is going to start school in the fall. I don't know how to help this child build some coping skills. Obviously Mom feeds into it, so I can't do anything about that. BUT I want to work on it here. This kid is going to sink when they start school and be bullied if they do this every time something like this happens.
Any suggestions on what I can do to help DCK1???
thanks for still listening.
yesterday we had an incident where this DCK1 and another DCK2 were playing together and DCK1 called DCK2 a name. DCK1 was kind of joking, but DCK2 did not like it at all and did an excellent job of using their words and DCK2 says, don't call me that, i don't like it." DCK1 breaks down and has a crying fit for almost an hour. I don't feed into it at all. I tell DCK1, please come take a break and relax, you are safe, you are ok. I know you are upset, but you need to use your words. Well DCM comes to pick up and DCK is still crying about this. I tell dcm, she tears up?????? DCK1 comes around the corner and sees mom and begins a scream crying like someone hurt them.
I tell DCM and DCB, you need to relax, take a deep breath and use your words. BUT DCM is coddling DCK and just saying ahhh poor baby, are you ok.
Well they leave and I think it's done. NOPE this morning at drop off, DCK1 comes in and starts crying about the incident. DCM stays, coddles DCK for about 10 minutes (way too long) and just works them self up into a crying, sobering hot mess. I finally have a second to hop in and say, hey DCK you are ok, everyone is ok and we need to get ready for our day, say good-bye to mom. Ends there with mom, kid cried for another 15 minutes after.
This kid is going to start school in the fall. I don't know how to help this child build some coping skills. Obviously Mom feeds into it, so I can't do anything about that. BUT I want to work on it here. This kid is going to sink when they start school and be bullied if they do this every time something like this happens.
Any suggestions on what I can do to help DCK1???
thanks for still listening.
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