Have You Ever Been So Upset...

[nannyde]

ABSOLUTELY! We are just human.

I have never spanked my own kids.

I had a child I cared for, around 5 years old at the time, once bite my pre crawling infant (my now 5yo) so hard it drew blood. The sobbing gasps from my own child, the BLOOD, I was RIGHT THERE and he refused to unclamp his jaws. I had to pinch both sides of his cheeks and stick my fingers in his mouth, in between his teeth and wiggle/open his jaw to make him stop. I had my dd and older dcg move him into the kitchen, to top it all off, he actually said "haha" once he stopped biting him. I didn't even look at him again. I called his mother for immediate pick up, packed his things and that was that. I termed them IMMEDIATELY. I will never forget that feeling. I was shaking like a leaf, my heart started to race and I KNEW I would not be able to control myself. Very scary feeling to KNOW that you are out of control. I have plans in place when I feel stressed or overwhelmed now. I have people to call, grab bags for things for the kids to do.

OMG OMG OMG

What gets a kid THAT old to act THAT crazy? Please tell me about the kid... everything you can think of.

[mountainside13]

I have felt that way a few times but of course never acted on it. I rarely spank my own children.

1st time was when a dcb (3) bit a daycare girl over a toy and left a mark. Thankfully no blood like what happened to you!

2nd time is when a dcb (4) was here. His first day and my son started crying when I left to stir lunch. He stopped crying then right after dcb says shut up! I ran into the room and he was choking my then 6 week old son! Mom came right away and I terminated. She never did say sorry or ask if he was ok. The mom had a 2 week old baby at home

[TaylorTots]

daycarediva, I just about cried I was so livid when I read your post! OMG.

We've all been there to different degrees. Sometimes I miss working in a childcare center for a moment because I would remove kids into another classroom if I felt like I was loosing control (or sanity).

[melilley]

Oh yes, I have definitely thought about it. Of course never acted on it though. I actually quit yesterday morning. I had 3 dcb's and they were all screaming and throwing fits at the same time. I looked at my husband and said, that's it, I quit!! LOL! It's only natural that we feel that way sometimes.

I have said before that as frustrated as we get and as much crapola we get from some of these kids, I totally get how some people that you see on the news lose it. Seriously look how frustrated we all get and we're not off balanced. Imagine being just a little off in the head and having a child screaming all day. I am deeply disturbed by people that abuse children, but honestly if you're not 100% right in the head, I can see how it happens.

:: I've "quit" before!

[SunshineMama]

ABSOLUTELY! We are just human.

I have never spanked my own kids.

I had a child I cared for, around 5 years old at the time, once bite my pre crawling infant (my now 5yo) so hard it drew blood. The sobbing gasps from my own child, the BLOOD, I was RIGHT THERE and he refused to unclamp his jaws. I had to pinch both sides of his cheeks and stick my fingers in his mouth, in between his teeth and wiggle/open his jaw to make him stop. I had my dd and older dcg move him into the kitchen, to top it all off, he actually said "haha" once he stopped biting him. I didn't even look at him again. I called his mother for immediate pick up, packed his things and that was that. I termed them IMMEDIATELY. I will never forget that feeling. I was shaking like a leaf, my heart started to race and I KNEW I would not be able to control myself. Very scary feeling to KNOW that you are out of control. I have plans in place when I feel stressed or overwhelmed now. I have people to call, grab bags for things for the kids to do.

Just reading this, and the other post about the older dck attacking the little one brought tears to my eyes. I would have such a hard time overcoming my instinct as a mom to protect my baby. A child like that has severe issues.

[JenNJ]

Yup! Multiple times. And I fully believe it makes me a good provider for admitting it. I tell all incoming clients that too. I know my triggers and know when to walk away. I would never hurt a child becaue I know when I need a break.

I'm so proud that you walked away! You are amazing!!!

[BrooklynM]

that you literally had to walk away for fear of spanking a child??
O M G the 3 yo is throwing a major temper tantrum right this minute. Smack dab in the middle of naptime. I had to turn around and walk away, which of course didn't help her mood any.

Honestly...no. I've been frustrated but the reason I like working with babies/toddlers is because they are learning and we have so much influence in their life. I worked with adults for 20+years and they were the ones that I thought about smacking (not really).

I have one now that is 19 months and when is is good, he is good and sooooo cute, but when he is bad, oh he is terrible. I just remain consistent and never let up or give him any slack.

I think it's fantastic you are admitting this because it's very important to talk about and get help should you feel like you may ever harm a child. :hug:

[Kaddidle Care]

For sure! I've been known to say "you're lucky you're not mine!" LOL

It's the hardest when it's something that you would never tolerate from your own children and caring for others - you are very limited on what you can do.

You done good honey!

[dave4him]

Yes i have

[Unregistered]

Only once! I was young and I was watching my little cousin.She wouldn't stop screaming for her mom.She was all red faced,sweating and every time I came near her to calm her down she would kick,hit,bite and pinch me. I had an image of me just kicking her across the room in a fit of rage so I called my Aunt and told her to come back because I was afraid I was going to hurt her. I was only 12 at the time so I took a few years off from babysitting and took courses again before I ever watched anyone else.I truly was a second away from hurting her. I'm glad I listened to my next thought "What would Jesus do?" That was a big saying back then!,Lol

[GKJNIGMN]

I have been lucky that I have never really had kids with aggression issues but I had a 3 year old who spent his entire day cursing at me. He would just repeatedly scream stupid B whenever he was asked to do anything. He poured milk down my vents and the final straw was when he told me he was just going to kill himself if I put him down for a nap.

Unfortunately, they were the first family I ever had and I had 4 of their children. I figured it must just be because I was new so I stuck with it for 3 entire weeks where I honestly cried in the morning because I knew I was going to have to spend the day with them.

Not anymore. I no longer have a problem giving notice

[sharlan]

Yes, I have, but I wanted to do more than spank him.

I had an 11 yo slug my 9 yo dd in the chest because she got a drop of water on his new jacket. We were in the car and I hit a bump as she was taking a drink of water. I slammed my car into park in the middle of the street and made the kid get out and sit on the curb until my dd could breathe right and I could calm down.

I termed him that day. I was so happy to never see him again. His parents were beyond ticked at him.

[Josiegirl]

For sure! I've been known to say "you're lucky you're not mine!" LOL

It's the hardest when it's something that you would never tolerate from your own children and caring for others - you are very limited on what you can do.

You done good honey!

Haha My most often used line is "It's a good thing you're so darn cute". Course I've used your line a time or two also.
High five for all of us getting through the day. But I had an appt. at 5 tonight and they took my blood pressure. Not good. It's the highest it's ever been.

[Angelsj]

ABSOLUTELY! We are just human.

I have never spanked my own kids.

I had a child I cared for, around 5 years old at the time, once bite my pre crawling infant (my now 5yo) so hard it drew blood. The sobbing gasps from my own child, the BLOOD, I was RIGHT THERE and he refused to unclamp his jaws. I had to pinch both sides of his cheeks and stick my fingers in his mouth, in between his teeth and wiggle/open his jaw to make him stop. I had my dd and older dcg move him into the kitchen, to top it all off, he actually said "haha" once he stopped biting him. I didn't even look at him again. I called his mother for immediate pick up, packed his things and that was that. I termed them IMMEDIATELY. I will never forget that feeling. I was shaking like a leaf, my heart started to race and I KNEW I would not be able to control myself. Very scary feeling to KNOW that you are out of control. I have plans in place when I feel stressed or overwhelmed now. I have people to call, grab bags for things for the kids to do.

This brought tears to my eyes. Hugs to you and your little one. Good Lord.

[ihop]

I have felt that way a few times but of course never acted on it. I rarely spank my own children.

2nd time is when a dcb (4) was here. His first day and my son started crying when I left to stir lunch. He stopped crying then right after dcb says shut up! I ran into the room and he was choking my then 6 week old son! Mom came right away and I terminated. She never did say sorry or ask if he was ok. The mom had a 2 week old baby at home

Wow.....