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Okay now it's my turn to vent.
I just took in a sibling set and this week is their third week here. When talking with this family I spoke mainly with DCD because he was a SAHD. Everything seemed great, DCD was on his game, went over policies with me, asked a lot of the right questions etc. Generally I got a good feeling.
DCD was waiting to start his new job. He and his wife came for the tour, the kids were behaved (DCB 4yo & DCG 1yo) and they seemed really positive. They took home my parent handbook DCD filled everything out and returned it along with my 2 week deposit and 2 weeks worth of daycare.
So the last 2 weeks were great and then last Friday he came and had a talk with me about his children's diet. Get this, so my family and I cut out the majority of processed foods and eat "real food" and I incorporated that into my DC. When the DCK's started they LOVED the food but both began to get the runs. I had spoken to DCD about it and chalked it up to the change in their diet because they were now eating fiber and lots of fresh fruits and veggies. So when he came last Friday to talk said that although he appreciated that we fed the DCKs healthy food (which I advertise like crazy on my website and say it in my handbook) could I not give them so much healthy food. I just responded by saying that I would cut down the amount of fruit that they ate and would replace it with veggies but that I had to provide the minimum requirements for the food program. He left and DCM picked up later and had no check
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We went out of town for the weekned but I sent an email reminder on Sunday when we got back through MMK with another letter with their login and temporary password (when I checked in to the electronic payments section in MMK I had noticed that they never logged in so I figured they lost the letter with their login info). So Monday I was closed and still no payment and Tuesday I sent a reminder text in the morning and finally got an email saying that he paid. So he comes in and apologizes for not paying and then says "I started the process online on Saturday but didn't get a chance to finish but I finished it this morning and paid". First of all as of Sunday he still hadn't even logged in because MMK tells you if they ever logged in so the lie detector test determined THAT was a lie..
Today he comes in and he looks a little "off" and I ask how his morning is going and he says that he and his wife had a talk last night about how his paycheck is basically going towards paying for DC. Um .... correct me if I'm wrong but aren't these things that you should think about BEFORE you actually accept a job and get child care? Wouldn't you think that it would be important to figure this stuff out beforehand? He was a SAHD after their littlest one was born because he was laid off so that part I understand, he didn't plan on losing his job but he chose to remain a SAHD until she turned 1yo and took this job. He applied for a position and for a certain amount and they told him that they could not give him what he was asking for yet they convinced him to stay by offering him a different position for less money and he took it.
So he's looking at me like maybe we can work something out and I just responded with "Yeah it's tough. If it wasn't for me doing daycare I never would have had my other two kids. My husband and I sat down and looked at our finances before we decided to add more. Kids are expensive." He just stared at me. Now I'm just going to wait for their 2 week notice
I just took in a sibling set and this week is their third week here. When talking with this family I spoke mainly with DCD because he was a SAHD. Everything seemed great, DCD was on his game, went over policies with me, asked a lot of the right questions etc. Generally I got a good feeling.
DCD was waiting to start his new job. He and his wife came for the tour, the kids were behaved (DCB 4yo & DCG 1yo) and they seemed really positive. They took home my parent handbook DCD filled everything out and returned it along with my 2 week deposit and 2 weeks worth of daycare.
So the last 2 weeks were great and then last Friday he came and had a talk with me about his children's diet. Get this, so my family and I cut out the majority of processed foods and eat "real food" and I incorporated that into my DC. When the DCK's started they LOVED the food but both began to get the runs. I had spoken to DCD about it and chalked it up to the change in their diet because they were now eating fiber and lots of fresh fruits and veggies. So when he came last Friday to talk said that although he appreciated that we fed the DCKs healthy food (which I advertise like crazy on my website and say it in my handbook) could I not give them so much healthy food. I just responded by saying that I would cut down the amount of fruit that they ate and would replace it with veggies but that I had to provide the minimum requirements for the food program. He left and DCM picked up later and had no check
. We went out of town for the weekned but I sent an email reminder on Sunday when we got back through MMK with another letter with their login and temporary password (when I checked in to the electronic payments section in MMK I had noticed that they never logged in so I figured they lost the letter with their login info). So Monday I was closed and still no payment and Tuesday I sent a reminder text in the morning and finally got an email saying that he paid. So he comes in and apologizes for not paying and then says "I started the process online on Saturday but didn't get a chance to finish but I finished it this morning and paid". First of all as of Sunday he still hadn't even logged in because MMK tells you if they ever logged in so the lie detector test determined THAT was a lie.
.Today he comes in and he looks a little "off" and I ask how his morning is going and he says that he and his wife had a talk last night about how his paycheck is basically going towards paying for DC. Um .... correct me if I'm wrong but aren't these things that you should think about BEFORE you actually accept a job and get child care? Wouldn't you think that it would be important to figure this stuff out beforehand? He was a SAHD after their littlest one was born because he was laid off so that part I understand, he didn't plan on losing his job but he chose to remain a SAHD until she turned 1yo and took this job. He applied for a position and for a certain amount and they told him that they could not give him what he was asking for yet they convinced him to stay by offering him a different position for less money and he took it.
So he's looking at me like maybe we can work something out and I just responded with "Yeah it's tough. If it wasn't for me doing daycare I never would have had my other two kids. My husband and I sat down and looked at our finances before we decided to add more. Kids are expensive." He just stared at me. Now I'm just going to wait for their 2 week notice
so I really didn't realize what was healthy and what was not until a few years ago...
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not just tossing some chicken nuggets and French fries, but actually caring for them day in and day out. Changing their nasty diapers, wiping their snotty noses, hugging them when they're sad. I'm pretty average for my area, $225/wk. If it's PT it's more like $150/wk.
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