I Don't Understand Parents Today!

[Laurel]

I hear you all. I guess my point was that I hate it when parents will tell me that their child "won't let them". To me I don't care what they come dressed in, like today, my one daycare girl came in her jammies,which it is well below zero here and jammies would be so comfy to be in today so that is fine with me. But when parents say this statement to me about they won't let me, it just irks me because they are the parent and why do they let their child tell them what to do,if the parent doesn't want the child to do something, put their foot down and say No, but to say"they won't let me" is ridiculous. So that was my vent. It's like, who is the boss, the child or the parent! No way would I admit to anyone that my child"wouldn't let me",for heaven sakes, put your foot down and be a parent and parent.

I guess I just get so frustrated with how clueless parents can be today and let their child boss them around! I am from the old days where you are the parent and if you want your child to do something,yes you can give them a choice, but to allow your child to" not let you " is bologna, that is just the lazy way out and giving up on putting your foot down and disciplining. I'm not saying all parents do this, but just saying that in my opinion, It is so ridiculous to have a parent tell you that their child "would not let them"!
It's like Come on, your parent, put your foot down!
Sorry for the rant again. I'm not complaining about giving choices here, just how lame it sounds that parents use this excuse.

It is frustrating but it might be worth if to 'educate' the parent. At least it might cut down your frustration by trying. Say things like:

"Why don't you put things you don't want him to wear away somewhere where he can't see them?" Then add "That always worked when my kids were little."

"If he doesn't want to wear his shoes when it is snowing, let him walk barefoot in the snow to the car."

I noticed my daughter has a way of speaking to my grandson that does not produce good results. She'll say "Do you want to get your shoes on and leave now?" I told her no, no, no unless not leaving is an option. I told her to say "We are leaving now, go get your shoes."

Laurel

P.S. I think sometimes parents just need a little coaching. We shouldn't have to do it but it is worth it if they actually listen and do it and if they don't at least we vented it.