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At drop off this morning DD told me that this Saturday was the DM's birthday. He asked me to do a craft with DG for a present. DG is 5 months old. I already did hand prints at Christmas. Does anyone have any ideas for a crafty gift I can make with a baby at short notice? I'll have to use what ever craft stuff I happen to have on hand. :confused:
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I would say, ""Um....no, sorry, that's your job."
or "If I do that for one, I have to do it for all and that's not something i'm going to take on."
or laugh at him and tell him it's a funny joke.
or just smile and say, "I think it would be more meaningful coming from you"Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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Oh thank you! I like the foot print butterfly.
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Ok, I'm sorry I don't mean to be cynical or unfeeling but I would be really offended if a parent asked me to do something like that.
Why doesn't that dad do or make something WITH his child for the mom?
To place that responsibility on you is asking above and beyond and not something I would agree to.
I'm sure a heartfelt craft that dad did WITH his child would mean so much more than something made while at daycare....kwim?Comment
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Honestly, I wouldn't do it- Id let DCD know that you probably won't have time to add that in, but you can give him some ideas for things he can do at home himself. Why should be assume YOU need to do it? I think that's a little overboard!Comment
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Also wouldn't do it. F that. Totally, absolutely, unequivocally not your responsibility - and completely outrageous that he even asked.Comment
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I would probably feel 'put out' as soon as dcd asked me but really, how long does it take to make a quick craft? Dcd probably feels inadequate as far as doing a craft with a 5 month old. There are still dads out there that get nervous just holding a baby. OP has showed her true crafty colors by already doing some at Christmas. I can see why dcd would ask...never hurts to ask, right? By the way, that butterfly page is adorable. Any one of those projects is going to be a winner!
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Oh, come on.... give him (and OP) a break.
He's probably just a clueless new dad. He saw that she had the kids do a craft for Christmas, and thought it would be cool to give something similar to mom for her birthday. He probably didn't come in demanding her to make one, he probably just assumes that that's the kind of stuff that goes on in daycares. (That's the clueless part
). I'm sure it was just conversation saying something like, "Hey, Wifey's birthday is coming up. If you're gonna do something like those handprint thingies you did for Christmas, could you set it aside for me? That would be an awesome gift for her".
I could easily see several of the dads I've dealt with saying that. Now, it wouldn't make it any easier for me to WANT to do it!!! I'd probably be rolling my eyes behind his back! I might even drop strong hints that we might not have time to do it, or maybe I'd say "oh, that was just a one-time thing for Christmas", but I certainly wouldn't think badly of him for asking. Guys just don't have a clue when it comes to Daycare, or gifts, or appropriateness of what to ask for, or much of anything to be quite honest!!! Especially if he's a young guy and this is his first kid.
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....and THAT is EXACTLY why some dad's don't have a clue.Oh, come on.... give him (and OP) a break.
He's probably just a clueless new dad. He saw that she had the kids do a craft for Christmas, and thought it would be cool to give something similar to mom for her birthday. He probably didn't come in demanding her to make one, he probably just assumes that that's the kind of stuff that goes on in daycares. (That's the clueless part). I'm sure it was just conversation saying something like, "Hey, Wifey's birthday is coming up. If you're gonna do something like those handprint thingies you did for Christmas, could you set it aside for me? That would be an awesome gift for her".
I could easily see several of the dads I've dealt with saying that. Now, it wouldn't make it any easier for me to WANT to do it!!! I'd probably be rolling my eyes behind his back! I might even drop strong hints that we might not have time to do it, or maybe I'd say "oh, that was just a one-time thing for Christmas", but I certainly wouldn't think badly of him for asking. Guys just don't have a clue when it comes to Daycare, or gifts, or appropriateness of what to ask for, or much of anything to be quite honest!!! Especially if he's a young guy and this is his first kid.
Because too many times women and mothers simply excuse their behavior as them "just not knowing any better".
Well, it's high time this dad learn what DOES happen at daycare and what is a parental duty and what can be sloughed on to the daycare provider.
I would NOT be rude about it but I would make darn sure he understood what I am saying.
It's the 21st century......Dads are EQUAL parents now days. I treat them as such.
(Lucy~ I don't mean this toward you personally...... just commenting on the words.)
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yup, wouldn't do it either. Maybe if she's your only kid... It's not your responsibility to make mom a gift.Comment
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Op, if it doesn't matter to you go for it! I would be doing something with them anyway with the kid just make it a little more special than usual. The butterfly is nice or I like the heart with hands. Go on Pinterest and do a search for infant crafts or hand prints. If you do the print thing put it on paper and hand it to dad and suggest he take it from there by getting a frame or something.I see little people.Comment
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If it were me, I'd probably keep it friendly with dcd but say something like, "You know, I try to make sure I remember each kiddo's birthday with a little something. There's no way I can keep up with all the parents' birthdays as well."
Because little requests just seem like little requests, until you multiply them out by everybody.Comment
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