Public Restroom Apparantly

[SSWonders]

Honestly? I run a business out of my home. Sometimes people need to use the bathroom. It's not a big deal to me at all. They always ask, and I always say "sure, but leave a quarter on the commode". It's something my GMA used to say...only it was "Ja sicher, aber las einen Groschen auf die Toliete".

I tell them to leave a quarter too. ::

[jenboo]

I was reading this the other day and thought to myself "what's the big deal. If you gotta go, you gotta go"

Then.... dcg's Sa sibling asked to use it. Sure no problem. He was in there 15 minutes while the other Sa kids rode their bikes around my car in circles

Well after they left, I went in there to make sure he didn't get into anything, and he has peed allllllll over the toilet and floor. He is 10!!!!! Learn to aim. It will be the first and last time I let anyone but dcks use it.

eww!!

my 6 yr old nephew is not allowed to use the bathroom unsupervised at my house. He wouldn't aim good. But the last straw was when he put syrup alllllll over the toilet seat!!
He said the toilet seat was too slippery

[Play Care]

I was reading this the other day and thought to myself "what's the big deal. If you gotta go, you gotta go"

Then.... dcg's Sa sibling asked to use it. Sure no problem. He was in there 15 minutes while the other Sa kids rode their bikes around my car in circles

Well after they left, I went in there to make sure he didn't get into anything, and he has peed allllllll over the toilet and floor. He is 10!!!!! Learn to aim. It will be the first and last time I let anyone but dcks use it.

This was my point. Everyone usually thinks the same thing until they find out a sibling stuffed the toilet full of paper towels, or the toilet clogs and no one says anything and you don't find out until there is water running out of the bathroom and down the hall...

I get a good chuckle out of the "what's the big deal" responses. I always think "just you wait" ::::::

[MarinaVanessa]

You can always have the last laugh by putting a note in the medicine cabinet that says something like "sneaking a peek?" or "sneaky peeking is rude" LOL. You know they look ... everyone does.

Or put a ruler along the edge of a shelf in the cabinet and then put marbles on the shelf. Close the medicine cabinet door and once its almost closed slide the ruler out slowly. The next time someone opens it the marbles will fall out and "plunk, plunk, plunk" all over the floor.

I'm so mean.

[Play Care]

Or put a ruler along the edge of a shelf in the cabinet and then put marbles on the shelf. Close the medicine cabinet door and once its almost closed slide the ruler out slowly. The next time someone opens it the marbles will fall out and "plunk, plunk, plunk" all over the floor.

I'm so mean.

My luck I'd forget I did it and I'd be the one getting rained on by marbles::

[NeedaVaca]

Or put a ruler along the edge of a shelf in the cabinet and then put marbles on the shelf. Close the medicine cabinet door and once its almost closed slide the ruler out slowly. The next time someone opens it the marbles will fall out and "plunk, plunk, plunk" all over the floor.

I'm so mean.

OMG I would totally do that if I had a medicine cabinet in my bathroom!! That's hilarious!

[Janiam]

I recently had dcg brother run in at pickup and pee all over the floor and trash can! Trying to find the words to post "not a public restroom" without being offensive. I dont't mind the occassional adult unless their in there for twenty minutes, then you kind of wonder what they're doing.

[Starburst]

At the church co-op I did my student teaching at they have a bathroom in the classroom that was just for the kids, it even had a sign that said that because of licensing the toilet was for kids only (15 children and 1 bathroom; licensing rules you need 1 toilet for every 15 people on the property; there were 3 adults every day including the teacher {4 if you include me}) and it said that the adults had to use the toilet in the church sanctuary.

There was one sink in the bathroom and one in the class room next to the bathroom door for cleaning up, so the sink wasn't as much of an issue.

That quarter or $1 might be justifiable around here because if it doesn't rain soon, CA (possibly other west coast states) might be in a drought this spring/summer. So for west coast providers there is a good scapegoat for water conservation or higher water bills. Of course, you can always blame licensing saying that your bathrooms are only for use of your daycare kids/ and your family/staff (could say because of the toilet capacity thing). You could also say your insurance won't allow it because of liability and will only cover your assistance and the kids enrolled. You know how many people sue businesses if they slip in the bathroom? Good thing about licensing and insurance, easy scape goats when you don't have the backbone or don't want to seem rude when enforcing personal reasons for rules.

[Mister Sir Husband]

My first thought is that I wouldn't really mind if parents occasionally need to use my bathroom. I mean suppose they are running late and stop somewhere else? Now they owe me a late fee of 10 bucks cause they had to pee.

But then again I am kinda not looking forward to them possible snooping in my cabinets. I do keep them locked so kids cant get in there, but adults are tall enough to open. I'm thinking maybe just stock them with some really weird stuff... ya know, almost almost to the point of embarrassment. Something like perhaps 20 boxes of condoms, a couple cases of adult diapers, maybe some fuzzy handcuffs.. I mean it WAS locked so the kids can't see it, and when the parents come out with that "oh my gosh" look on their face, I will know they peeked, and they will prolly know that I know, and unless they are brave enough to admit it and ask me why I have 36 jars of Vaseline in there... well my wife and I can chuckle about it after they have gone...

[nannyde]

I used to have a dcm who washed her hands in my kitchen sink everyday, too. Despite the fact that she had to walk right past myathroom when she came in, she always made a beeline to the kitchen sink. Her pick up time fell right after our afternoon snack so usually, I had just cleared the table and the dishes and cups were still in the sink. In addition to the thought of all those germs grossing me out, there were days when the sink was full enough that the water from the faucet and her hands would rickashay off the plates and all over my countertop. She never seemed to even notice the mess she was making.

It bothered me but my son has ocd and it used to drive him absolutely crazy. It got to the point where he would offer to rinse the dishes and cups off for me so he'd have an excuse to block her from using the sink. She came in one day and actually had the nerve to ask him to move so she could wash her hands. While I've never encouraged my kids to be rude to anyone, much less a dcp, I had to work really hard at stifling a laugh when he told her, "There's a perfectly good sink in the bathroom if you want to use that."

As for the bathroom, I'm not thrilled when dc parents ask to use it but I can't imagine not allowing someone to use it if they have to go. Like Luna, I usually just warn them that they may have to flush first or watch for sprinkles on the seat.

I have heard of the insisting on using the kitchen sink. It is a dominance move.

Where is the heart of your home? The kitchen.

Where is the central part of that heart? The sink.

If they insist on taking over the kitchen sink they are putting themselves on top of the center of your home. They are taking over the single most important piece of real estate in the home.

They are showing you they are the top dog at that moment.

I don't allow parents in my kitchen. Nothing personal. I don't like anyone in it. Only exception is my helper who cleans the floors when she cleans the house.

[KidGrind]

You can always have the last laugh by putting a note in the medicine cabinet that says something like "sneaking a peek?" or "sneaky peeking is rude" LOL. You know they look ... everyone does.

Funny idea! I just disagree with you. While visiting someone’s home I’ve never snuck a peek or even thought of it. I have with permission looked in a medicine with prior permission. My hope is most people do not snoop.

If it was a daily request, I wouldn’t mind. I have a client who insists I rinse her baby’s pacifier every time she picks up. The first couple of times, I went up back upstairs with a shrug. In spite of just rinsing it off or having taken it out of the baby’s mouth. The third time I literally questioned myself in my head, “What are you doing this extra B.S. for?!”

The third time I replied, “I just rinsed it off. I am not running up & down the stairs per your nuisances. Bring an extra pacifier at pick up, if you can’t trust it’s clean to your satisfaction. I also suggest you keep a pocket sized hand sanitizer. I am not bringing her downstairs for you to only need to travel upstairs and wash your hands. When you pick up, it your responsibility to be prepared. Thanks!”

I haven’t been asked to go back upstairs to rinse the pacifier off or received requests for hand washing. What tickles me is she is the same parent I had to instruct twice to use the infant car seat restraints. You drive around with your baby unfastened. Yet, you are worried about a pacifier being rinsed.

[Blackcat31]

Funny idea! I just disagree with you. While visiting someone’s home I’ve never snuck a peek or even thought of it. I have with permission looked in a medicine with prior permission. My hope is most people do not snoop.

If it was a daily request, I wouldn’t mind. I have a client who insists I rinse her baby’s pacifier every time she picks up. The first couple of times, I went up back upstairs with a shrug. In spite of just rinsing it off or having taken it out of the baby’s mouth. The third time I literally questioned myself in my head, “What are you doing this extra B.S. for?!”

The third time I replied, “I just rinsed it off. I am not running up & down the stairs per your nuisances. Bring an extra pacifier at pick up, if you can’t trust it’s clean to your satisfaction. I also suggest you keep a pocket sized hand sanitizer. I am not bringing her downstairs for you to only need to travel upstairs and wash your hands. When you pick up, it your responsibility to be prepared. Thanks!”

I haven’t been asked to go back upstairs to rinse the pacifier off or received requests for hand washing. What tickles me is she is the same parent I had to instruct twice to use the infant car seat restraints. You drive around with your baby unfastened. Yet, you are worried about a pacifier being rinsed.

I don't allow pacifiers to be brought back and forth.

I require any child that uses one to bring a new one upon enrollment and then it gets left here for me to be in charge of.

If parents have any hang-ups about sterilization etc...
I don't want any part of it. Plus, hauling it back and forth is just gross IMHO.

I'll handle things on my watch, they can handle things on theirs.

[Annalee]

I don't allow pacifiers to be brought back and forth.

I require any child that uses one to bring a new one upon enrollment and then it gets left here for me to be in charge of.

If parents have any hang-ups about sterilization etc...
I don't want any part of it. Plus, hauling it back and forth is just gross IMHO.

I'll handle things on my watch, they can handle things on theirs.

Amazing how little things like this make our dc lives much easier.

[e.j.]

I have heard of the insisting on using the kitchen sink. It is a dominance move.

Where is the heart of your home? The kitchen.

Where is the central part of that heart? The sink.

If they insist on taking over the kitchen sink they are putting themselves on top of the center of your home. They are taking over the single most important piece of real estate in the home.

They are showing you they are the top dog at that moment.

I don't allow parents in my kitchen. Nothing personal. I don't like anyone in it. Only exception is my helper who cleans the floors when she cleans the house.

Interesting take on this! I never gave it any thought beyond just the annoyance I felt with her but you know, when I think about it.....you're right on the mark! Ultimately, it was her attempts to control or "dominate" that got this family booted from my program.

[SignMeUp]

Okay I'll dredge up the old thread

If using the kitchen sink is a dominance move, then my recently-departed child care family thought the bathroom was the center of my house ::::::

I swear, they used that bathroom more than I did Mom, dad, school-aged sibling. Crimenently

And YES it did bother me.