I Don't Like Surprises

[Kabob]

This is more of a vent than anything...

This morning dcg (2.5 yrs) arrives in underwear followed by a text from dcm (at work) TELLING me that dcg is in underwear since dcg was apparently dry all weekend despite traveling 16 hours and being sick over the weekend and despite dcm complaining that dcg never uses the toilet at home since she watches tv all day because dcm is tired.

My policy is that they need to discuss this transition first after I notify them that they have been dry and communicating the need to go at daycare. I told dcm this and reminded her that she will need to go back into pullups/diapers for 2 weeks if she has an accident. Dcm said she didn't want to do pullups or diapers anymore because she was almost out and didn't want to buy more. Ok so what happened to her being dry? Dcm said she figured dcg would figure it out if she put her in underwear. Uh no. We tried that before and it resulted in the policy I mentioned above. She pooped and wet her pants the same day and still does both at least once a week because they do nothing with her at home. But dcm claims she's doing this now for "consistency" although she just said she's doing it to rush dcg for savings on diapers.

So no. I don't need this on a Monday. I need parents that will talk to me....because apparently all I do is talk at them since everything I said to her has gone through one ear and out the other.

I told her I don't like surprises. Grrrrr....

I don't want to do this today...starting to think this was all a mistake...

[lovemykidstoo]

This drives me absolutely insane. I also had the same thing this morning. Must be a Monday thing! My dcb is 3 and went home Thursday in different clothes because he saturated his entire body during naptime. Mind you he even had a pullup on at the time, so that's how much he urinated. So I had to change him into his extra clothes and wipe him down. So grandpa brought today and said that he has underwear on. There is a pullup in his bag and guess what? No change of clothes came back today. So, if he soils his underwear I have nothing to put on him. Pullup is on now. ugh.

[Kabob]

I just don't get it. Parent your child! Don't dump all responsibility on us!

Btw this same dcg this morning showed up with blue all over her face and an extremely hoarse voice. I asked dcd about it at drop off and he said it was from a lipop they gave her for her hoarse voice. So I asked how new this was since she supposedly was just sick Saturday with vomiting and diarrhea (which I had too). He said she just started this morning. Yeah. Well. She has been just laying there this morning after not eating her breakfast. And if i send her home I can almost guarantee that I'll be down another family that I can't afford to be down. So frustrated.

[Blackcat31]

This is more of a vent than anything...

This morning dcg (2.5 yrs) arrives in underwear followed by a text from dcm (at work) TELLING me that dcg is in underwear since dcg was apparently dry all weekend despite traveling 16 hours and being sick over the weekend and despite dcm complaining that dcg never uses the toilet at home since she watches tv all day because dcm is tired.

My policy is that they need to discuss this transition first after I notify them that they have been dry and communicating the need to go at daycare. I told dcm this and reminded her that she will need to go back into pullups/diapers for 2 weeks if she has an accident. Dcm said she didn't want to do pullups or diapers anymore because she was almost out and didn't want to buy more. Ok so what happened to her being dry? Dcm said she figured dcg would figure it out if she put her in underwear. Uh no. We tried that before and it resulted in the policy I mentioned above. She pooped and wet her pants the same day and still does both at least once a week because they do nothing with her at home. But dcm claims she's doing this now for "consistency" although she just said she's doing it to rush dcg for savings on diapers.

So no. I don't need this on a Monday. I need parents that will talk to me....because apparently all I do is talk at them since everything I said to her has gone through one ear and out the other.

I told her I don't like surprises. Grrrrr....

I don't want to do this today...starting to think this was all a mistake...

Are you leaving her in underwear today then?

Do you have supplies (diapers/Pull-ups) at your house or is it something the parent supplies daily?

No way would I waiver from my policies based on what the parent tells me.

I need to "see" that the child can be dry for 2 weeks FIRST before I would allow her to be underwear at my house.

If DCM doesn't care if child wets all over her house, that her choice but to expect you to deal with it is really rude and disrespectful.

I'm sorry your day started out this way...I hope it gets better!

[Unregistered]

Sorry, but children who do not come with the supplies needed for the day get sent home. In addition parents who do not abide by daycare policies, disrespect me, and impacts the cleanliness for all the children in care, may quickly find themselves searching for alternative care.

[nannyde]

https://www.daycare.com/nannyde/potty-training-letter-to-parents.htm#comment-18412

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It's all just WORDS. She is saying the WORDS that she doesn't want to buy diapers. It's cheaper to buy diapers than to pay for professional carpet and upholstery cleaning with each accident. You need to set up a financial agreement that she pay for emergency professional cleaning and put a deposit down to cover the cost.

A pack of diapers for six months won't be as much as one cleaning. If it's about money then make it about money.

[Kabob]

Dcm just sent a text back saying that she didn't call me first because she didn't want to disrupt my time. I am still so angry that I decided to think about how to discuss this with her later. She just doesn't get it. I went over this verbally and in writing and supplied nannyde's letter when she tried to do this last time. Now she's acting like she didn't know that I had this policy that I created because of her. She is downright lazy about potty training at home and has admitted it but wants me to deal with it. No. I said no so many times to this that I don't know why she bothered testing me. I said no today and whipped out a pullup. I have plenty from dcm in stock.

If she has an accident though dcm will blame me and say I didn't try hard enough even though SHE DOESN'T TRY AT ALL AT HOME. Sorry. So mad. Last time she had an accident she said it was because I didn't make dcg go potty every 2 hours. I asked if this is what she does with dcg at home and she said no...she just lets her watch tv. Literally her words. But then dcg has never ever ever asked to go potty...she ALWAYS asks after she poops her pants but that's it. So how can I get this across to dcm? I already am down to 2 families and I know this dcm will term over this since she is already mad I held firm on my payment policy with her last week (nothing new but for some reason it bugged her last week).

[Leigh]

Dcm just sent a text back saying that she didn't call me first because she didn't want to disrupt my time. I am still so angry that I decided to think about how to discuss this with her later. She just doesn't get it. I went over this verbally and in writing and supplied nannyde's letter when she tried to do this last time. Now she's acting like she didn't know that I had this policy that I created because of her. She is downright lazy about potty training at home and has admitted it but wants me to deal with it. No. I said no so many times to this that I don't know why she bothered testing me. I said no today and whipped out a pullup. I have plenty from dcm in stock.

If she has an accident though dcm will blame me and say I didn't try hard enough even though SHE DOESN'T TRY AT ALL AT HOME. Sorry. So mad. Last time she had an accident she said it was because I didn't make dcg go potty every 2 hours. I asked if this is what she does with dcg at home and she said no...she just lets her watch tv. Literally her words. But then dcg has never ever ever asked to go potty...she ALWAYS asks after she poops her pants but that's it. So how can I get this across to dcm? I already am down to 2 families and I know this dcm will term over this since she is already mad I held firm on my payment policy with her last week (nothing new but for some reason it bugged her last week).

The only way to get it across to DCM is to stick to your guns: "Until DCG is accident free at my house for 2 weeks, she will be in diapers at my home. If she doesn't show up wearing a diaper, with enough diapers for changes throughout the day, she will not come in my front door. It is YOUR job as a parent to potty train. It is my job to support your efforts in training. It is also my job to ensure a safe and sanitary environment for ALL of my DCK's, which is why your daughter will wear diapers here until she is accident free for at least 2 weeks and can communicate her need to use the toilet...me putting her on the toilet regularly is just hoping for luck...potty training is about more than just peeing in the potty every now and then."

[Laurel]

The only way to get it across to DCM is to stick to your guns: "Until DCG is accident free at my house for 2 weeks, she will be in diapers at my home. If she doesn't show up wearing a diaper, with enough diapers for changes throughout the day, she will not come in my front door. It is YOUR job as a parent to potty train. It is my job to support your efforts in training. It is also my job to ensure a safe and sanitary environment for ALL of my DCK's, which is why your daughter will wear diapers here until she is accident free for at least 2 weeks and can communicate her need to use the toilet...me putting her on the toilet regularly is just hoping for luck...potty training is about more than just peeing in the potty every now and then."

Laurel

[Kabob]

The only way to get it across to DCM is to stick to your guns: "Until DCG is accident free at my house for 2 weeks, she will be in diapers at my home. If she doesn't show up wearing a diaper, with enough diapers for changes throughout the day, she will not come in my front door. It is YOUR job as a parent to potty train. It is my job to support your efforts in training. It is also my job to ensure a safe and sanitary environment for ALL of my DCK's, which is why your daughter will wear diapers here until she is accident free for at least 2 weeks and can communicate her need to use the toilet...me putting her on the toilet regularly is just hoping for luck...potty training is about more than just peeing in the potty every now and then."

That's the exact conversation I had with her last time both in person and through texts. I still have the texts. She apparently "forgot". I feel like a broken record now because I sent her a text saying the same thing and will also be reminding her at pick up. She responded that I'm not supporting her efforts by not allowing underwear...she said "it has to be done eventually" as if she didn't read what I sent to her. I told her she's right...it will be done eventually...when she's ready as per my policy. Dh said I should hand her the wet/poopy pullups each time instead of throwing them away...

[Blackcat31]

Dcm just sent a text back saying that she didn't call me first because she didn't want to disrupt my time. I am still so angry that I decided to think about how to discuss this with her later. She just doesn't get it. I went over this verbally and in writing and supplied nannyde's letter when she tried to do this last time. Now she's acting like she didn't know that I had this policy that I created because of her. She is downright lazy about potty training at home and has admitted it but wants me to deal with it. No. I said no so many times to this that I don't know why she bothered testing me. I said no today and whipped out a pullup. I have plenty from dcm in stock.

If she has an accident though dcm will blame me and say I didn't try hard enough even though SHE DOESN'T TRY AT ALL AT HOME. Sorry. So mad. Last time she had an accident she said it was because I didn't make dcg go potty every 2 hours. I asked if this is what she does with dcg at home and she said no...she just lets her watch tv. Literally her words. But then dcg has never ever ever asked to go potty...she ALWAYS asks after she poops her pants but that's it. So how can I get this across to dcm? I already am down to 2 families and I know this dcm will term over this since she is already mad I held firm on my payment policy with her last week (nothing new but for some reason it bugged her last week).

NO amount of money is worth keeping clients that treat you like crap.

None.

:hug:

[Kabob]

NO amount of money is worth keeping clients that treat you like crap.

None.

:hug:

I know...just isn't fun worrying about money right now.

I just don't know why she blatantly ignored me...last time she at least asked beforehand and sent underwear in case I wanted to try it. This time she was more aggressive and got the same result: a big fat "no". What else can I do to get her to stop testing policy? I can't put parents in time out...

[Unregistered]

Perhaps she is testing with the potting training policy in retaliation to you enforcing payment policies last week? You could ask her if she needs a new outline of your daycare policies to review, or give out a warning letter regarding possible termination if policies are disregarded. If you have not already done so, I would start advertising everywhere possible for new clients.

[TaylorTots]

Your policy is that you discuss it first. You didn't. I wouldn't take dcg in underwear until I said it was ok. I'd send her home right away.

[melilley]

I can't believe that she just dropped off and then texted you! Yeah right, she didn't want to bother you pfft! I would be livid!

I'm a pretty laid back person, but I would definitely stand my ground on this one! I wouldn't want pee and poo all over my place!

I hope it gets better for you and this dcm quits being a pita mom!