Logged Out, Would You Send Home?

[Unregistered]

I have a dcf that has their 2 children enrolled with me, however, one stays full time while the other one only attends when their preschool is closed.

the older child that is with me only when her school is out is here for the xmas break. I knew going into it that the child was going to be a bit of a handful, I had her full time before she started her preschool back in the fall and we had some mild issues, nothing super bad, just a handful.

Long story short, she hit one of the other kids and when my asst stepped in to correct the matter, DCG purposely spit in my asst face.

I so bad want to send this child home and not allow for her to come back, but I am not sure if I am just over reacting. I can NEVER imagine any of my other DCKs doing something like this. The family has already paid up for the days that they child will be attending during the break and there is nothing in our contract that says if the child is suspended from care that I would give a refund or not.

UGH...welcome back.

Help................

[JoseyJo]

I have a dcf that has their 2 children enrolled with me, however, one stays full time while the other one only attends when their preschool is closed.

the older child that is with me only when her school is out is here for the xmas break. I knew going into it that the child was going to be a bit of a handful, I had her full time before she started her preschool back in the fall and we had some mild issues, nothing super bad, just a handful.

Long story short, she hit one of the other kids and when my asst stepped in to correct the matter, DCG purposely spit in my asst face.

I so bad want to send this child home and not allow for her to come back, but I am not sure if I am just over reacting. I can NEVER imagine any of my other DCKs doing something like this. The family has already paid up for the days that they child will be attending during the break and there is nothing in our contract that says if the child is suspended from care that I would give a refund or not.

UGH...welcome back.

Help................

I would send home for sure. I don't know if I would ban her, depends on if I was okay with the family maybe pulling the other one.

[momofboys]

If this is the older child I would send home & put it on mom & dad to resolve things. Behavior/disrespect like that wouldn't be tolerated at preschool & neither should it at your house. I would send home but make it clear if it happens again care will be terminated

[MrsSteinel'sHouse]

hitting and spitting from a 3 yo .. seems normal behavior to me. Time out is what I would do. I would not send home.

[nannyde]

I have a zero tolerance policy for violence. She would be terminated today and I would refund any upfront fees.

[e.j.]

I've never sent a child home because of behavioral issues but I've also never had a child of preschool age spit in someone's face, either. Wow!

If it were just me, I probably wouldn't send the child home but she would be my shadow for the rest of the day and her parents and I would have an immediate sit-down meeting as soon as they arrived to pick her up.

I would warn them at that time that should she ever spit again or hit another child, they would be called for an immediate pick up and she would no longer be welcome in my home. I'd gladly refund any money paid for that child's unused care.

If I had an assistant and it happened to her, though, I'd talk it over with her to see what she thought. If she felt strongly that an immediate pick-up was in order, I'd probably do it just so she felt supported by me. It would be important to me that we maintain a good working relationship rather than worry about having to refund the money the family had already paid.

[Unregistered]

I've never sent a child home because of behavioral issues but I've also never had a child of preschool age spit in someone's face, either. Wow!

If it were just me, I probably wouldn't send the child home but she would be my shadow for the rest of the day and her parents and I would have an immediate sit-down meeting as soon as they arrived to pick her up.

I would warn them at that time that should she ever spit again or hit another child, they would be called for an immediate pick up and she would no longer be welcome in my home. I'd gladly refund any money paid for that child's unused care.

If I had an assistant and it happened to her, though, I'd talk it over with her to see what she thought. If she felt strongly that an immediate pick-up was in order, I'd probably do it just so she felt supported by me. It would be important to me that we maintain a good working relationship rather than worry about having to refund the money the family had already paid.

This is what I did. I called the parents to let them know what she did. The DCM was not very shocked. I was certain to tell them I would write up a report and that if it happens again that they would be termed.

I think that where I have the biggest issue is not necessarily the fact that she spit, but that I am fully supporting my staff. NO one should ever have to go to work and be subjected to any form of harassment of any kind whiter it come from an adult or a child. Keeping a safe environment is necessary for EVERYONE in my home, adults included.

Thank you all for your feedback. I am still jaw dropped by this. I have NEVER had a child do something like this ever.

[momofboys]

hitting and spitting from a 3 yo .. seems normal behavior to me. Time out is what I would do. I would not send home.

Maybe I missed the age? I thought she just said preschooler. That could be an older child - 4 or 5. Even a 3-year-old should know better IMO.

[Play Care]

In nine years I've never had a child spit in my or my assistants face. I've had 2 yo's try out spitting, but not purposeful spitting in the face because they were angry.
To me that is not normal or anything I would continue to put up with.

[coolconfidentme]

I send home for spitting & they cannot return for 24 hours. 3 times sent home for the behavior.., they are termed.