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Honestly, with the moms excuses and blame, I really doubt this situation will work out. But for now, I would not worry about teaching sharing or turns. He needs direct supervision and lessons on self control. I would not encourage playing together, I would separate. Every time he goes for another child or toy, I would tell him "no touch" and direct him to other toys, that no one is playing with. When he can learn to follow your direction and stay away from anything the other kids are playing with, then I would add in parallel play....playing beside each other but with different toys, THEN I would add in taking turns, and lastly, sharing. I would expect this whole process to take 6 months to a year of consistent direction. his current social skills and impulse control are very poor, even for a 2 year old. He needs a lot of work and you won't be getting much support if any from the mom.
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What your saying is probably right. I think that we often get caught up in the "sharing" and "taking turns" before children are developmentally ready. Most 2 year olds don't play TOGETHER. Parallel play is their stage of development, and that's ok.
Occasionally, you have a 2 year old that will play along with older children who are in the next phase. Usually, they want the 2 year old as a "prop" for their play. "You be the customer, and I'll take your order", etc.
Teaching him to just find something else is probably so much more appropriate. Basically, if it's in someone else's space, it's hand off. Find something else to do, here are some choices...Comment
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I feel better reading your responses knowing that a lot have been here before and also that what I am doing has been recommended. I will take your additional advice and put it to the test. Thank you all so much. Glad to have found this site. Happy HolidaysComment
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