Mom is Dying..DCPs Mean

[sharlan]

In this case, your emotional needs have to come before your daycare families. Do not make their problems become yours. If you haven't already, close shop and head to the hospice.

My thoughts and prayers for you.

[itlw8]

I agree take what you need. Mother had hospice care sis was able to fly in and out for one day so I took it off. It was the last day we could all spend together. And a bonus Mother was able to talk a tiny bit that day. I only closed that day but spend evening with her. Sis took off work. infact they insisted. I was there that last day and glad I was.

[daycarediva]

CLOSE. I would send an email stating the situation and that you are closing, and using your 10 days to care for your mother. Period. Dcps will ALWAYS do what is in their best interest and rarely consider you/your needs.

I am so sorry for your situation ((((HUGS)))

[Josiegirl]

Still thinking of you and wishing you peace and comfort. I know your heart must be breaking watching your mom like this. Give her as many hugs as you can and tell her you love her.

Kimsdaycare, your story makes me so sad.

[dalman]

My heart goes out to you. You are a wonderful person. Compassionate and caring, but this time, to a fault. Put you and your family first. As the others have said before me, CLOSE EFFECTIVE NOW! Do it now, so you have no regrets later. Spend as much time with your loved one now because you can never get that time back. You can always, yes always, get new dcf later. Financially, it will all work out. Don't worry about it. Send them all a text tonight and close up shop. Take your vacation time so they have to pay you for it. Hugs.

[MissKrys]

I thought parents used a home provider to get a small, intimate environment . That works both ways, the parents should be prepared for and help out when something happens and the provider needs off. Otherwise, they may as well be at a center.

This is how I feel as well. It's a double edged sword and parents should know the pros and cons of center vs. home care. So sorry that you have dcps that aren't understanding. It's just adding more stress to an already heartbreaking situation. I would send a text or email about taking your deserved time off, and if there are families that won't return, then best of luck to them finding other care. Being the holidays, it shouldn't be too difficult for them to take time off or find a family member or friend that could help them out. Hope you can spend as much time with your mom as possible. lovethis

[momofboys]

I'm sorry for what you are going through. I lost my dad 3 years ago sort of unexpectedly although he was in a nursing home & had Alzheimers so we knew he would die from it at some point. He passed on a Friday & I took the next M-Wed off. None of my DCP gave me any problems about it & one even brough us a meal. If they had I would have termed them. I am sorry about your mom & I am sending prayers of peace for you & her!:hug:

[kitykids3]

CLOSE! They don't care about your circumstances so really, just to be blunt, why care about theirs right now. You are going thru a horrible thing right now, you have the 10 days, take them off and spend time with your mom. You won't ever be able to get that back. So sorry for what you are going through right now. :hug::hug:

[saved4always]

:hug:

So sorry you are going through this right now. I'll be praying for you and your family. Try to focus on what is important right now, your mom, and try to ignore the selfishness of your dcp's. Some people just cannot, or refuse to, look beyond themselves. I would take that vacation time right now and be with your mom and take care of yourself.

[Unregistered]

reply to meeko

Sounds like you have some real sub human daycare families

Time to clean house when you are able.

Until then, much love to you as you go through this time. Try to focus on YOUR needs and on your sweet mom. :hug:lovethis

This is so true sometimes. I had a parent tell me one day, "i don't care". I care about and love there child and then they said that. It was like oh you .........., if I was not depending on some sort of livelihood and ability to pay my bills you would be gone.

When I get a chance I am out of this profession. My reason is the parents. Fifty percent of them are ok. The other 50 percent don't last here. Some think money solves every problem. If I pay her for being late then it is ok just to not call and tell me. It is ok to show up whenever. It is ok to send your kid here with crap and I have to fend off others so your child can eat whatever crap you sent with her. It is ok to send a damn cup to spill all over. No respect for your space. No respect at all. The generation and personalities of some of these people are just s$%^. It is ok to come too early and talk to me about yourself and then show up at pick up defragmenting from your work day. Get the .....out of my house.

[Unregistered]

bad parents

My Mom had a stroke last weekend, and is now determined to have a poor prognosis and is in hospice. I took Monday off to deal with moving her to hospice and spend time with her. She probably has less than a week to live.

I worked both yesterday and today, and my DCP's are being so disrespectful. I asked them to please try to be on time and understand that I am going through a lot right now. I apologized for the inconvenience to them. Nothing I do is ever enough.

Today, two parents were late picking up. No-one bothered to ask me how things were going. One parent who picks up early asked if her infant got taken outside today....we usually go out after she goes home. Like that is my priority right now, to make sure a 4 month old gets some outdoor time on her limited schedule. Sheesh.

I am so sick of my DCP's being so selfish. It's not my fault they used their 4-5 weeks of vacation time for traveling and not for kids' illnesses and planning for my time off. Oh, and I have plenty of vacation time left as I have not used my measly 10 days yet. I am just completely fed up.

Ok seriously, I don't know were you are at. but it is too cold right now for infants to be outside. Really? C'mon.

[kitykids3]

Ok seriously, I don't know were you are at. but it is too cold right now for infants to be outside. Really? C'mon.

parents sometimes

[wabbittrouble]

I had the same issue when my dad was dying - take the time off and be with your mother as much as you can. I feel terrible that I didn't take more time off but I was afraid I would lose clients. I can tell you now that I wish I could go back and do it over again and spend every minute I could with my dad. You'll never be sorry - daycare is just a job after all.

[Unregistered]

so sorry about everything that's going on.

To play devil's advocate a little- maybe the parents just don't know what to say and feel really uncomfortable. I'm one of those people- I just don't do well with emotions and am generally a very closed person. Some might take it as rude, but I really don't mean to be. When my own father in law's mother died I had to be pushed to call him because I just didn't know what to say. My little brother died unexpectedly two years ago and I had no idea what to say back when people gave their condolences. I said "thanks" but then just stood there. Do I hug them, keep talking, what? I will send cards and gifts and stuff but just really stink at the in-person stuff.

[Unregistered]

so sorry about everything that's going on.

To play devil's advocate a little- maybe the parents just don't know what to say and feel really uncomfortable. I'm one of those people- I just don't do well with emotions and am generally a very closed person. Some might take it as rude, but I really don't mean to be. When my own father in law's mother died I had to be pushed to call him because I just didn't know what to say. My little brother died unexpectedly two years ago and I had no idea what to say back when people gave their condolences. I said "thanks" but then just stood there. Do I hug them, keep talking, what? I will send cards and gifts and stuff but just really stink at the in-person stuff.

I was like this a little before I started daycare. Now I am exactly like this. I don't know how to interact with adults now.

Op- I am so sorry!