What Do/Would You Do?

[ColorfulSunburst]

If I'm going to teach I want to be paid.

I don't want to teach. I'm a babysitter. I'm not qualified to teach. I don't have an education to teach. I'm the last person who should be teaching because I don't know how. I don't want to learn how. It doesn't interest me.

Early childhood CARE is different than early childhood education. They are NOT one and the same.

we teach children to love, to follow rules, to be polite, nice, to manage mood, to share ..... What can be more important?
We teach them even if we don't teach them to read and don't give them any knowledge in math or writing.

[nannyde]

we teach children to love, to follow rules, to be polite, nice, to manage mood, to share ..... What can be more important?
We teach them even if we don't teach them to read and don't give them any knowledge in math or writing.

Your version of teach and the parents and states version of teach are very far apart.

I have a problem with the abc, math, reading, etc teaching by providers who are not licensed teachers.

[Evansmom]

I have a teaching background and in my experience being physically affectionate to children in a classroom is frowned upon, at least in my state it is. It's usually limited to pats on the back. So I'm inclined to not kiss and hug my DCKs. I do allow them to sit on my lap and I am supremely positive, assuring, kind, gentle and praise them for accomplishments. But I don't snuggle. My child did attend my daycare but was too busy to ask for cuddling except for when all the others were sleeping at naptime so I didn't run into the OPs problem too much. But when I did I would give a kind word and a quick hug to the DCK. And then move on to other kinds of interaction and attention.

If I had a child in a daycare I wouldn't expect their teacher to cuddle them, I think I'd actually not be comfortable with that. But that's just been my experience.

[racemom]

we teach children to love, to follow rules, to be polite, nice, to manage mood, to share ..... What can be more important?
We teach them even if we don't teach them to read and don't give them any knowledge in math or writing.

This is how I feel also. Everyday the kids are learning new things.

[ColorfulSunburst]

I have a problem with the abc, math, reading, etc teaching by providers who are not licensed teachers.

I know this kind of problem. In Russia I used to work as an elementary school teacher. It is very difficult to teach child again if he has been taught wrong. I agree if person doesn't have knowledge or expertise in teaching he can give to children a big problem by teaching them.
But now I'm talking not about it.
If a woman make decision to work with children she must be able don't give more attention to own children in front of all other children. It is what I name "to be able to act as a teacher". And I know that it is not simple because I did it.

[MrsSteinel'sHouse]

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Maybe this will make you feel a little better- I am on the other end. My ds is 17 and has always had the littles here. Dd is 23 and I started when she was 6. Both were homeschooled throughout this process. The advantage to them, the huge benefit I see, is that both of my children truly love little ones. My son more than my daughter. I think it is because he has always had them here. He is the best at quieting a fussy baby! He is patient with them. My dd is finishing up her elem ed degree. I could only have 2 kids. This gave my kids the ability to be around small children and learn skills they would never have learned otherwise. It has taught them to share, not just toys but me. It has made them more generous and loving. They have learned to love even the kids that aren't so lovable.
That said, my kids had their own rooms and the living room/ dining room to be in. As my son got older, there were times when I would send him to his room to play. But, when he was preschool age he was here in the thick of it most of the time. He loved his buddies. Daycare toys were that, daycare toys. I did not allow daycare kids upstairs or for ds's toys to be brought downstairs.
Snuggle them, all of them. It will teach your child to love them too and that is a better lesson. My son (17 and 6 ft) will come into the playroom and mock sit on my lap and everyone piles on! He picks up each kidlet when he comes in and gives them a little hug and kiss on the head. When they get here in the morning I make sure I make a big deal out of getting my morning hug. Part of doing childcare is love. You can physically care for a child but without love, it will be meaningless to both you and the child. Kids know when they are loved!

[ColorfulSunburst]

MrsSteinel'sHouse
Thanks
Your post is priceless! It is what I try to say but don't have enough words to do it correct

[MrsSteinel'sHouse]

MrsSteinel'sHouse
Thanks
Your post is priceless! It is what I try to say but don't have enough words to do it correct

thank you. I just see the benefits looking back. I wouldn't change watching the little ones. My kids have gained so much.

[cheerfuldom]

I certainly don't have the right to judge anyone, but this truly made me sad for the kids in your care. I have my kid in day care 3 hours a day and just the thought of him being told something like that breaks my heart. I can't wait till my center is up and running.

you do realize that many centers allow teachers to enroll their own kids, sometimes in their own classroom? If that is a big concern for you, you had better ask the director the policy. Also, many teachers have favorites or kids that they just bond better with than others and so they treat them differently. I am not defending the teachers that do this, I am just saying that the parent/child scenario or the favortism is not exclusive to home daycares.