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dcm of dcb 2 brought him in this morning. after asking hows hes feeling meds etc(hes been out two days sick). i got a "by the way i think you need to teach the other kids to cough into their arms.we cant get n to do it at home but i really think you should be teaching them that." i hate when parents tell me how to do my job. if you cant get your child to do it how do you expect me to get 5 other children to do it? not like i dont mention 10 bazillion times a day.........
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we spend most of our nonsick season pretending to cough and sneeze into our arms but when they get sick it goes out the window..... -
When I hear that or something similar my standard reply is "Mom/dad, YOU are the child's primary and most important teacher. My role is to support the things YOU are teaching him/her to do."
Depending on my relationship with the parent and/or the mood of the conversation as well as how it was said to me, I will add a laugh or a joke of some sort to soften the message. But either way the point is the same.
YOU (that parent) teach your child basics and I support that process.Comment
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It is only a theory if you let it be.
I am REALLY forward about this practice and enforce it.
If a child needs to learn a specific skill, I discuss it with the parent and then provide resources for them (so they know how and why) and then track the child's progress.
It is SUPER easy to tell if a parent is or isn't doing what they say they are doing.
The LESS I take on or consider MY responsibility, the less stress I have and the MORE enjoyable MY experiences daily are with the kids.
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OMG! Such audacity :
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I would have probably said. "Ya, we'll get right on that" and laugh like she was telling a joke!Comment
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rude.
I agree with BC. i only support, I am not the primary anything for the child. I dont start the potty training process here, I dont transition to beds here, all that is done at home first.Comment
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Interesting perspective...
While I agree that the parent is the primary guardian, I do not agree that I am my child's primary caregiver. The majority of my son's awake hours are spent at his daycare, not with me. Having said that, I would not presume to give my daycare provider's the instructions the parent in this case did. That was unnecessary and certainly uncalled for.Comment
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You may not be the child's primary caregiver but regardless of how much or little time your child spends in daycare, you are still your child's primary teacher.
What YOU teach your child will always override what anyone else teaches your child.
Parents are THE biggest influence and role models a child can have.
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Although, we may be the primary caregiver, as we are with the kids the majority of awake hours, ultimately, it is the parents responsibility to teach their kids what is important to them. A better way that the parent could go about this would be to say something like, Jimmy (DCB), show Miss Mary how we cough into our arm! And Miss Mary can say something like- Great job Jimmy! Thank you for coughing into your arm, germs are not for sharing!
It's all about proper communication. The parents shouldn't dictate what you teach all of the children, instead it is perfectly fine to say, "we've been working on this at home", etc. The same way I let parents know what we are working on so they can practice at home.Comment
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I think I would have said you are right I just do not understand parents that can not teach their children how to cough into their elbow. And I can't seem to get the adults to wash their hands when they enter the childcare either. Most of the germs come from adults who do not wash hands or work with people who do not wash hands.It:
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