Another What Would You Do

[daycare]

DOn't want to get to detailed about this situation, but basically I have a family that has several of their family members that participate in drop off and pick up time.

This just recently started when the parents had work schedule conflicts. I don't mind who picks up, as long as they are on the authorized pick up list and comply with DC rules/policies.

Long story short, the Aunt picks up off and on and she is not following my policies/ Licensing Rules. Again, I don't want to get to detailed about what happened, I think the DCM reads on here sometimes?????

Anyways, the aunt broke my policy, which I told DCP she can not do anymore. Ok let's drop it and move on. Well the aunt calls me up on the phone and starts screaming and yelling at me saying I said this and that, all of things that were NOT true. I ended up hanging up on the Aunt, because she was just screaming at me and I could not get a word in edgewise.

Well now I am very mad. DCM calls me right after, but I am steaming mad that I don't answer. I cool off and go back to taking care of the kids.

I talk to the DCM later in the day, she says sorry for her sister, she will take care of it, but the AUnt still needs to pick up from time to time, so we need to work this out.

I am really fed up. I know it was not the DCP doing, but I really want to term over this. Have any of you ever termed because of something a NON-parent picking up or dropping off did????

Thanks so much

DC

[sharlan]

I wouldn't term, just tell the parents that Auntie is not allowed to pick up. They need to make other arrangements.

[NeedaVaca]

I don't think I would term but I would no longer allow aunt to pickup/drop off. I do not tolerate that kind of disrespectful behavior.

[daycare]

I don't think I would term but I would no longer allow aunt to pickup/drop off. I do not tolerate that kind of disrespectful behavior.

I did tell the DCP that I would prefer that the AUnt not pick up anymore because of this, but they said that they really don't have any other options.

If I do decide to let the AUnt pick up, I want to let her know that I am not going to be giving her updates or anything regarding the kid since she can't seem to keep a story straight and tries to say that I told her to do things that are not SAFE for the kid.

Wouldn't this fall under confidentially? She is a 3rd party right??

[Unregistered]

It's your house and your business,YOU get to decide who comes on your property.If they can't find somwone else to pick up they may have to find another daycare.It's as simple as that! Don't ever let anyone disrespect you!

[daycarediva]

I told a dcp that if the dcgrandma did what she did again, I would term. She literally walked in my house, saw dck without his binky, asked if I had a spare for her (no) and proceeded to walk through my home and go through my cabinets. He was 3, he used it at nap ONLY at that time and I did NOT have a spare. If I didn't get mine back, he would NOT NAP and *I* had purchased it for my house. I told her to GET OUT IMMEDIATELY and called the dcp.

Grandma picks up from time to time now and it is stone cold silent from her but whatever!

[butterfly]

I have termed over issues I had with a grandparent's pickup/drop off. If they can't make other arrangements so the aunt doesn't have to come to your home, then I'd consider terming. I wouldn't put up with the disrespect - and then to call me and yell at me... nope, not going to happen!

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[daycare]

I told a dcp that if the dcgrandma did what she did again, I would term. She literally walked in my house, saw dck without his binky, asked if I had a spare for her (no) and proceeded to walk through my home and go through my cabinets. He was 3, he used it at nap ONLY at that time and I did NOT have a spare. If I didn't get mine back, he would NOT NAP and *I* had purchased it for my house. I told her to GET OUT IMMEDIATELY and called the dcp.

Grandma picks up from time to time now and it is stone cold silent from her but whatever!

I do have this feeling that it will be very awkward, but at this point I am so angry that I just don't even want to continue with care. BUT then I go back to well it was not the DCP fault.............

[CedarCreek]

Is it the dcps fault? No.

Is it now their responsibility to find alternate arrangements because their representative is no longer welcome? Hell yes!

Plain and simple, you don't deserve to have someone scream at you like that. Since it was dcps representative that disrespected you, it's now up to them to find a replacement. If they decide to pull, oh well. At least you stood up for yourself and got rid of a bad egg. (The aunt)

[MamaBearCanada]

If you want to keep the family & the Aunt absolutely has to pick up have DCM or DCD text when she is 5 mins away. Have DCK ready and hand off silently at door. She doesn't enter. She doesn't talk. You will text or email anything the DCP need to know. You don't have to tell the Aunt you will or won't do anything. She has no right to enter your house. I would warn the DCP that if there is another issue with the aunt she will not be allowed to pick up.

[daycare]

If you want to keep the family & the Aunt absolutely has to pick up have DCM or DCD text when she is 5 mins away. Have DCK ready and hand off silently at door. She doesn't enter. She doesn't talk. You will text or email anything the DCP need to know. You don't have to tell the Aunt you will or won't do anything. She has no right to enter your house. I would warn the DCP that if there is another issue with the aunt she will not be allowed to pick up.

FUNNY that you should write this, it was what I was thinking about doing. I already did tell the DCP that I will NOT for any reason share any information with the AUnt. That if there is anything the parents need to know that I will email or call them. I also told them this is the last time. It happens again they are done.