DCP's Can Be So Rude!!

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Well, unfortunately I did not get advance notice that my mother is dying. I am not trying to be dramatic here, but she is being moved into hospice care and I would like to spend more time with her if I can.

My parents are all aware of my situation with her. Also, I should have said that two families told me that they have lots of time off over the Holidays. I am trying to find out from them what days those are so I can inconvenience as few people as possible.

I looked this morning and not a single family responded with their schedules. Isn't that nice? So I am going to go ahead and take the time off I want without giving a **** about their schedules, since they don't give a hoot about my situation.

I usually give at least a month notice out before taking time off and I have had only 2 unscheduled sick days in 2013. I am just so tired of the disrespect.

I am sorry about your mom. I stand by what I said - take the time off. As someone here once said, in a few years, you won't even remember these families, what they did, what their kids looked like, etc. Essentially, it won't matter. But the time you spent with your mom will :hug:

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My DCP's have been bugging me to make a decision about what days off I am taking for the Holidays. I have told them about the paid Holidays and one other day. I give a 2 week notice, so I need to decide today.

Personally, I think it's kind of rude they have to bug you for a decision. It is your business and they are at your mercy right now. What are they supposed to do if you decide to take days off, they have no backup care and they can't get the day off? Or if they arrange backup care and you don't take off and then have to pay double? Email is very impersonal and kind of unprofessional. They should have been handed a sheet to fill out with days off or asked personally at pickup. If your taking a full week off I don't think 2 weeks notice is sufficient. JMO

As for your mom, I'm really sorry you are going through that but since it wasn't in your original post it seems as it's more of an afterthought now that your upset. And if it were my mother I wouldn't find out what works best with parents, I would just take off the week and spend our last Christmas together.

[e.j.]

Well, unfortunately I did not get advance notice that my mother is dying. I am not trying to be dramatic here, but she is being moved into hospice care and I would like to spend more time with her if I can.

I'm sorry about your mom. I've been in your position and know how difficult it is to want to spend as much time with a dying parent as possible and still try to balance the needs of family and a day care business along with that. Add that to the already stressful holiday season and it can feel even more overwhelming.

I would just hand out a memo to all parents stating the dates you will be closed and leave it at that. If there are any complaints, you can say that you had tried to get input from them but received no response and had to make a decision. Then, don't second guess that decision. Spend as much time as you can with your mother. You'll never regret that.:hug: