Liar, Liar, Something Is Fishy Here! Kind Of Long

[melilley]

I don't get this at all!

One of my dcb's had a low temp. and is coughing a lot today. He has asthma and has an inhalor that I give to him. I took his temp and it was 100.7 so I call mom earlier this morning and tell her that dcb is coughing a lot and has a little temp. and if anything changes I will call her (my policy is 101 to go home). She says ok and mentions that she was just on the phone with the doc for her other son who is 3 for something and that she will make an appt. for my dcb if it doesn't go away by Mon. because the doc also said that dcb has allergies. Then she proceeds to tell me that dad is home with a migraine.

Well I just called mom again to tell her that dcb is breathing hard and now has a 102 temp. She didn't answer so I leave a message that I will call her other # at work. I call her work and to my shock they say that dcm went home! And the lady proceeds to tell me "I don't know if you know this or not, but her younger son is in the hospital so she had to leave. He has been there for a couple of days." I HAVE the younger son here now!!!! She does have a 3 yr old too, but when I called her earlier she mentioned something about the older one, but didn't mention him not going to preschool or being in the hospital-she would have said something.

So I then call dcd to tell him that dcb has a temp. and is breathing hard and what to do. He says that mom is home and that her school (where she works) closed down today! I don't say anything about the her school saying she went home. Dcd tells me to call mom so I tell him that I already did. He says he will call her.

Ok, I'm giving them 15 min. to figure things out and I mean it!!!!

Who's lying? I don't get it. Either they are lying to each other or there is major miscommunication!

Ok, she just called and said she fell asleep and her dh called her yelling about why she didn't answer the phone, that I was calling her. She said she told him that she thought he was home (In an overly dramatic sleepy voice)
Then she asks what they said when I called her work! She said well I'll put on my shoes and come and get him.

Something is fishy here! If you are home sleeping, wouldn't you have seen your husband when you got home?

WTH?

[BumbleBee]

I have a family like this. It's like, you are married & living in the same house, right?????

[melilley]

I have a family like this. It's like, you are married & living in the same house, right?????

Ikr!? This is the same family who lied about a check (I posted about it earlier this week). Dcm had one story, dcd another.

[melilley]

I fully believe in Karma!

Dcm just picked up and took dcb to the hospital. She must of told her work that dcb was already there so she could play hooky and now she really has to take him!

[Shell]

This is bizarre. Something is going on here, and it sounds like they are covering it up!

[Blackcat31]

Ikr!? This is the same family who lied about a check (I posted about it earlier this week). Dcm had one story, dcd another.

Sounds like this family is one "fantasy" story after another.

I'd almost require BOTH parents to be present for ANY future discussions.

[TwinKristi]

So they took him to the hospital, not his normal Ped?? That's so weird!!

[hope]

I would email asking for an explanation. It's one thing if they want to lie to work, but they can not lie to the person they are trusting to care for their child. I would be very upfront with them and tell them that their stories are not adding up and you need to know the truth. Any further lies will result in termination.

[KidGrind]

Mother is definitely lying.

Father may be simply regurgitating the lies told to him. Or he is lying and they didn’t get there story straight.

I have a suspicion but I’ll keep it to myself.

[daycare]

I have this family too...... just a few weeks ago Gma called to say that the kid is sick and not coming.

about 11am DCM text says just wondering how DCK is doing??? UM DCK is not here, your mom called me to say DCK is sick.

DCM oh, I didn't know that.

530pm rolls around, theres a knock at the door, it's DCD, he is here to pick up DCK. I am not just in shock. WTH your kid is not here.

So no one knew what the heck was going on at all. They all live in the same house and for this family it happens way way to much.

I don't get it

[MyAngels]

Maybe they are separated and never/don't want to tell you? Sounds weird to me too.

[melilley]

So they took him to the hospital, not his normal Ped?? That's so weird!!

Yeah, mom said their ped said to take him to the hospital. I have a feeling that their reg ped is getting sick of the family. Mom almost definitely had munchausen and EVERYTHING is wrong with not one, but both of her kids. She says they have some symptoms and I have never seen them or I will tell her something and she turns it around and into something bigger than what it is. Just weird!

[Childminder]

Sounds to me that she left work to meet her boyfriend and was making up lies to cover.

[Lucy]

The mom sounds like what you might call a pathological liar. She lies so much that it has become normal to her. She lies because she thinks she gets away with it. She lies so that she can do what she wants, but not have people think badly about her for it.

She told work her son was in the hospital so that she could play hooky. They might not have been happy with her if she said she was going home sick, so it was "safer" in her mind to say her son was sick. And it may have gotten her some sympathy she desired at the same time. She told her husband that her work was closed down for the day so that she could stay home, and he wouldn't think badly of her for doing so. She told you her husband was home with a migraine hoping you wouldn't call the house and discover she was actually home playing hooky from work.

She's not like us. When we tell even a little white lie, we feel like it's written all over our face. And we have guilt about it afterward. Not her. She has a sickness where she actually thinks people believe all her b.s. She lies to work, to her husband, to her DC provider, probably to her mom, sister, and everyone else. Whatever sounds like the best story and enables her to get the desired outcome.

I know this because I have a grown step-daughter like this. What she doesn't know is that we compare stories.

It's sad though, because I have lost all respect for my step-daughter. I would never just write her off. Life goes on as if nothing's wrong. But I just have no trust, faith, or confidence in ANYTHING she says or does. I automatically assume EVERYTHING's a lie.

Anyway, that's just what it made me think of when I read your description of her varying stories to everyone.

[melilley]

The mom sounds like what you might call a pathological liar. She lies so much that it has become normal to her. She lies because she thinks she gets away with it. She lies so that she can do what she wants, but not have people think badly about her for it.

She told work her son was in the hospital so that she could play hooky. They might not have been happy with her if she said she was going home sick, so it was "safer" in her mind to say her son was sick. And it may have gotten her some sympathy she desired at the same time. She told her husband that her work was closed down for the day so that she could stay home, and he wouldn't think badly of her for doing so. She told you her husband was home with a migraine hoping you wouldn't call the house and discover she was actually home playing hooky from work.

She's not like us. When we tell even a little white lie, we feel like it's written all over our face. And we have guilt about it afterward. Not her. She has a sickness where she actually thinks people believe all her b.s. She lies to work, to her husband, to her DC provider, probably to her mom, sister, and everyone else. Whatever sounds like the best story and enables her to get the desired outcome.

I know this because I have a grown step-daughter like this. What she doesn't know is that we compare stories.

It's sad though, because I have lost all respect for my step-daughter. I would never just write her off. Life goes on as if nothing's wrong. But I just have no trust, faith, or confidence in ANYTHING she says or does. I automatically assume EVERYTHING's a lie.

Anyway, that's just what it made me think of when I read your description of her varying stories to everyone.

Yes-to a T!!!!