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I have had a 12 month for several months, this is not a transition issue because he did well for weeks. Now he has escalated to an almost intolerable level. I say that because I cannot term. I already have one opening that I havent been able to fill for months so I cannot afford to lose him. Anyway, this child is crying so much, so long and so hard, it is unbearable. He now cries almost anytime he is on the floor, much of nap time, as well as in between bites of food. He will not do anything at all without crying. He may simmer down a bit if you hold him all day (which I dont) but anything he doesnt like or doesnt want to do and he is screaming. He will have a perfectly peaceful face and then before you can even blink, let loose a siren scream that is so jolting and makes my head throb and my ears hurt. It seriously sounds like a fire alarm and I have noise fatigue by the end of the day. I dont feel stressed over it necessarily, I am just tired of my ears being in pain, literally, and wanted to find a way to get him happy again. Never heard anything like it. Even my assistant, who has worked in a number of daycares and is almost done with her teaching degree, cannot handle it. I came home the other day and she had put him in a pack n play in the napping room because she could not handle the scream. She has never, ever done that ever and I have had a number of criers in the past before, including my own special needs daughter. The worst part though is that I have to go on a daily preschool pickup run and he cries in the car. I hate that the other kids have to hear that the whole ride but honestly, they seem to be holding up better with it than me or the assistant. They all ignore him and no one is really interested in playing with him, nor is he interested in anyone else. No one else is crying or upset about the screaming, surprisingly. If he does play, he will crawl around a bit but if you walk away from him or do anything else, he will scream up to high heaven. I have talked to mom and dad, separately, and they both say the same thing.....he does cry a lot at home but is sleeping more. They would like him to stay up but he won't. So he is exhausted here and at home. He also isn't walking or standing on his own. I am starting to wonder if something is going on here. He is extremely tall and pretty big for his age and I was thinking the physical delay could be just the extra time needed to coordinate that height (his dad is an athlete and a coach so this kid is tall and big in an athletic way, not chubby). I guess I just have to wait it out. Anyone have a similar issue with crying and increased sleeping (like the hours of a kid half his age)?
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I don't have much advise. Today I have a child that is screaming so loud and bad that its unbearable. I also have a child that doesn't like loud noise, so she is now crying because the other child is screaming. And both are so worked up that they are screaming during nap time so no one is napping. I hope lil one gets better. :hug: to you and thank goodness its friday! -
I have a 12 month DCG who is forever crying too. Other DCPs comment about her at pickup that she is always whining or fussing over something. They wonder how I take it all day long. Some days I wonder myself. I follow Nannyde's advice & she hasn't given up her crying ways. I asked DCG's mom if she gives her a bottle or blanket all day at home & she says no; she keeps her on my schedule on the weekends too. I believe her. I think this little girl is unhappy unless the attention is on her.Comment
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He can have a permanent ear-ache. When he doesn't cray try to cover his ear-hole by his tragus then press gently and quickly release. If he has ear problem this action will give more strong pain. Check so both his ears.Comment
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the thing is though that he really isnt that happy even when he has attention, he just is a bit quieter but it doesnt really seem to be about attention. he is just really unhappy.Comment
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Any person can not be happy if (s)he has some permanent pain. Even the pain is not strong. There is some reason. One of passable reason can be an ear-ache. It is very simple to check it out.Comment
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Could it be a food allergy/intolerance? Sensory disorder?
Sensory issues? My son with ASD/SPD was a MISERABLE infant. Screamed CONSTANTLY. When he was around 8-9m he started undressing himself, and then would INSTANTLY stop crying. We started realizing certain fabrics (polyester is a big one) would drive him crazy. Socks had to go on inside out (seams) etc.
Does ANYTHING distract him? TV?
Does he like outside?
What concerns me isn't the crying, it's that even when he does have attention he STILL isn't happy, kwim?Comment
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If you separate him from the group and set him in a crib or PNP, does he calm down at all?
I had a DCG who did this for awhile. I would let her cry for about 20-30 mins, if she didn't stop, she went in the crib. It was too disturbing to everyone else. She eventually would stop screaming or just fall asleep. I think she was just really overtired.
Every child is different and has different needs. You said he just started doing this ... Perhaps a growth spurt?Comment
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my daughter has sensory issues so I am familiar with the signs. the biggest thing is that this little guy was completely fine until this last month. i dont think that it is sensory issues that sudden came up that never bothered him before. he is not having any issues with vomiting, bad diapers, gassiness or any other indicators that it is food related. he has been on the same formula for months.Comment
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this is exactly what i have been doing. separating him and yes, he does calm down usually and has been sleeping here a lot. i talked to mom because i was worried he may be up all night at home but she says he is actually sleeping so much at home, they hardly see him. they try to keep him up but he is just too miserable to stay awake and enjoy anything.
never seen anything like this.....Comment
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Has he had his one year physical?
If so, he needs another visit, if not, it needs to be brought up. He should have his ears looked at, and for other causes of pain.
Maybe it is food related? Did he just come off formula to milk? Add meat? Add different grains? Citrus? This is the time where a lot of new foods are being introduced. Maybe there's a culprit.
If I ate bananas, I'd feel like screaming. They do strange things to my insides, but only because I'm old enough to say "no bananas" would you know that. There are no...ehem.."outward" signs.
How many hours a day does he seem to need to sleep?
Another thing for the doctor to check could be his lead levels. SOME of his symptoms fit. Maybe just a general blood workup.Comment
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screaming
I had to put a stop to having a screaming child in my care setting because I have a disabled son who needs his sleep and if he does not get it, he is likely to be more at risk. I just cannot have one screaming so bad that it affects all of the other children. It might work in another setting, just not mine.
Other children cry because one is screaming and they react in all sorts of strange ways and it just does not work.Comment
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