Guilt! I Need To Grow A Set

[Jack Sprat]

Why do I feel so guilty for terming a family? I feel I worked with dcm as much as possible on payment allowing her to pay late or not at all and letting her bill add up.
I printed out her invoice and stated that full payment was due the 11th or care would be terminated and from this point forward she would need to prepay like everyone else. If she didn't then dcb would not be a accepted into care.
I have a family wanting care at the beginning of the year. So his spot would be filled. I think overall this new family would be a better fit in general. I just dread this and honestly mad at myself for letting her do this

[MotherNature]

I dunno-you're not alone. I was anxiety ridden about terming my first family. I should've done it sooner.

[Blackcat31]

Why do I feel so guilty for terming a family? I feel I worked with dcm as much as possible on payment allowing her to pay late or not at all and letting her bill add up.
I printed out her invoice and stated that full payment was due the 11th or care would be terminated and from this point forward she would need to prepay like everyone else. If she didn't then dcb would not be a accepted into care.
I have a family wanting care at the beginning of the year. So his spot would be filled. I think overall this new family would be a better fit in general. I just dread this and honestly mad at myself for letting her do this

I dunno-you're not alone. I was anxiety ridden about terming my first family. I should've done it sooner.

Because child care providers are nice, caring and understanding people that appreciate the things people do for each other.

Because we believe in giving 2nd (and sometimes 3rd, 4th and 5th) chances...even when we get burnt doing so.

Because we have the ability to view things from other people's perspectives and realize and understand that things aren't always perfect all the time.

Because we know that OUR choices often times affect others even though the same courtesy isn't always shown to us.

Because the things we, as providers value (quality time with a child, good eating and sleeping routines/habits) are different things than working parents value.

Because we also understand that ALL our actions affect the little people in this world in one way or another.

Because we are able to do a million things successfully at once....this includes terming someone AND feeling guilty at the same time.

You can feel guilty. It just means you have a heart. Just don't let the heart talk your head into doing something you shouldn't.

[melilley]

I'm the same way.

I almost termed a child-that I still have- because all he did was cry and cry and cry when he was a baby. I didn't do it because I felt guilty and like I couldn't do this job and would fail if I did. I even had a letter ready (a nice one thanks to someone on this forum).

Well I was miserable for months because I couldn't go through with it, never again! (he doesn't cry anymore, thank goodness) Go with what your gut says...and go through with it.

I know, easier said than done though...right?.

[melilley]

You can feel guilty. It just means you have a heart. Just don't let the heart talk your head into doing something you shouldn't.

Isn't that the truth!

[Leigh]

Because child care providers are nice, caring and understanding people that appreciate the things people do for each other.

Because we believe in giving 2nd (and sometimes 3rd, 4th and 5th) chances...even when we get burnt doing so.

Because we have the ability to view things from other people's perspectives and realize and understand that things aren't always perfect all the time.

Because we know that OUR choices often times affect others even though the same courtesy isn't always shown to us.

Because the things we, as providers value (quality time with a child, good eating and sleeping routines/habits) are different things than working parents value.

Because we also understand that ALL our actions affect the little people in this world in one way or another.

Because we are able to do a million things successfully at once....this includes terming someone AND feeling guilty at the same time.

You can feel guilty. It just means you have a heart. Just don't let the heart talk your head into doing something you shouldn't.

lovethis You have to put yourself first, sometimes. You are caring for and paying to feed a child that is not yours. It's time you put a stop to it, and looked out for your own family and yourself. You're not a bad person, you're human, and you've let your caring personality get the best of you. It's OK to reach the point where YOU are more important.

[Annalee]

Because child care providers are nice, caring and understanding people that appreciate the things people do for each other.

Because we believe in giving 2nd (and sometimes 3rd, 4th and 5th) chances...even when we get burnt doing so.

Because we have the ability to view things from other people's perspectives and realize and understand that things aren't always perfect all the time.

Because we know that OUR choices often times affect others even though the same courtesy isn't always shown to us.

Because the things we, as providers value (quality time with a child, good eating and sleeping routines/habits) are different things than working parents value.

Because we also understand that ALL our actions affect the little people in this world in one way or another.

Because we are able to do a million things successfully at once....this includes terming someone AND feeling guilty at the same time.

You can feel guilty. It just means you have a heart. Just don't let the heart talk your head into doing something you shouldn't.

[Jack Sprat]

Thank you all! I feel better about doing this and keep telling myself that it is for the best. The best for all the dcks,my family and myself. Tomorrow I am giving her the invoice. Not sure if I should do it at drop off or pick up...

[KidGrind]

Thank you all! I feel better about doing this and keep telling myself that it is for the best. The best for all the dcks,my family and myself. Tomorrow I am giving her the invoice. Not sure if I should do it at drop off or pick up...

I am wondering how it went.