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I hear you! I am so exhausted by the end of the day, that by the time kids are in bed, dh and I watch shows we dvr 'd from the weekend. Dh works 6 days a week, so we hardly get any time together when we aren't beyond exhausted. We share common interest in a few shows, but little beyond that. I try to get out with ds once a week to Target and other shopping, and it lifts my spirits. I also try and grab dinner with friends from my old job here and there. I'm jealous of all the exercise you get walking, Blackcat -i've got to start exercising again.
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bc- you and your dh sound similar to me and my dh!
I close around 5:30, dh is usually home by then and has started dinner. The second the last kid leaves he turns on some music and we cook, set the table, dance and talk. We eat together as a family. Older dd does dishes, younger boys clear table. Dh helps me do end of the day cleaning, finish up laundry. We then usually play a board game or read to our little boys, check homework, give them baths and tuck them in bed.
Almost every single night dh and I take a bubble bath together. I LOVE that time! When we first started out together we had a crappy single stall shower only in our apartment and I always said I wanted a giant whirlpool tub we could both sit in comfortably, and dh bought me one 4 years ago and that has been our routine almost every night since!
After that we go to our bedroom (it's a master, so we have a small living room in it as well) and snuggle on the couch, we both love reading and often read the same books. Play xbox together, we love scrabble, risk and chess, too.
My dh is my very best friend, we get up together in the morning and work out, eat breakfast together, pack his lunch and our kids lunches, and then dh helps me get our kids up before he leaves (if doing service) if he is at a commercial job, he has to wake our kids and then leave. He often is home for lunch and will cook or help me cook, or read to the kids (who all adore him).
It does sound boring, but we aren't go out on the town people, both of us are homebodies, so it works out. The last time we went out to dinner was for our anniversary in July. The food was amazing, but the restaurant was so loud we couldn't even talk well. We ended up having it packed up to go, tipped, left and went home to eat. :
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Last kid leaves a little after 4. Dh is home by 4:30. I make dinner and Dh keeps me company. We chat about our day as I cook. We have dinner with the kids and then play with them and help with homework for dd. Then kids have some play time with each other as mommy n daddy read, go online or what tv. Many nights we will do a special project like organize the garage or fix something around the house and we get the kids involved. Dh and I try to do a lot together so grocery shopping and errands are done as a family. We have parents who like to take the kids for weekends once in a blue moon so weekends like that we go away or spend the weekend as honeymooners.Comment
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wow, I'd say... Too bad you live in another state...you guys would be a great couple to hang with. In the summer we have bonfires in the back yard and my kids always say "Oh, who came over?" and I always laugh...no one came over...we just have bonfires by ourselves.bc- you and your dh sound similar to me and my dh!
I close around 5:30, dh is usually home by then and has started dinner. The second the last kid leaves he turns on some music and we cook, set the table, dance and talk. We eat together as a family. Older dd does dishes, younger boys clear table. Dh helps me do end of the day cleaning, finish up laundry. We then usually play a board game or read to our little boys, check homework, give them baths and tuck them in bed.
Almost every single night dh and I take a bubble bath together. I LOVE that time! When we first started out together we had a crappy single stall shower only in our apartment and I always said I wanted a giant whirlpool tub we could both sit in comfortably, and dh bought me one 4 years ago and that has been our routine almost every night since!
After that we go to our bedroom (it's a master, so we have a small living room in it as well) and snuggle on the couch, we both love reading and often read the same books. Play xbox together, we love scrabble, risk and chess, too.
My dh is my very best friend, we get up together in the morning and work out, eat breakfast together, pack his lunch and our kids lunches, and then dh helps me get our kids up before he leaves (if doing service) if he is at a commercial job, he has to wake our kids and then leave. He often is home for lunch and will cook or help me cook, or read to the kids (who all adore him).
It does sound boring, but we aren't go out on the town people, both of us are homebodies, so it works out. The last time we went out to dinner was for our anniversary in July. The food was amazing, but the restaurant was so loud we couldn't even talk well. We ended up having it packed up to go, tipped, left and went home to eat. ::
This part cracked me up because it again shows our commonalities as couples... Dh and I built a new house 6 yrs ago. We built the shower in the master bath HUGE! Our tile guy asked why it was so big and DH said "For two people" Because DH and I shower together every morning.
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That is awesome! What are some of the things that you have in common?after the last child leaves I let my dogs free, do the fp claim, make sure my youngest did his homework, make dinner, clean after dinner...then I can finally relax and spend time with hubby, we have a lot in common so finding things to do is never a problem......aww now I miss him
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Dh and I need to get better about spending quality time together.
Usually what happens is Dh makes dinner, I make sure homework is done, we eat and bathe the boys. Then we all watch a couple of shows before Dh takes the boys up stairs for a bed time story. I get in a shower at that time and when I get out I go kiss the boys goodnight. Then Dh and I will lie in bed and play on the IPad or watch a show then go to sleep.
Pretty boring,.
I am sooo jealous of the big showers/bath tubs! What a good way to spend some time with your Dh!
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My after work life with hubby is pretty similar to Blackcat's and daycarediva's - right down to the shared showers/baths. Hubs is my best friend and we do EVERYTHING together.
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My DH and I take showers together almost every night and have been doing this since we got married almost 3 years ago. We have the double shower head thingy..When we were looking to a buy a house I really wanted to find one with a big shower and/or tub..unfortunately, we ended up buying one with a little one person stand alone shower...We still squeeze in there together though and my DH isn't a small guy! Our other bathroom has a regular tub but DH can't fit in the tub sitting down ( half his body is sticking out the water) and there is no way I could even squeeze myself in there with him hahaComment
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I'm starting to feel bad here. We have a double headed shower and Dh still doesn't like to shower with me!
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End of the day, I clean up, help my child with homework, make dinner, if my husband is home from work, he eats with us, sometimes he has to work late. Then I clean up, wash my two kids, every other day, get them in bed. Then around 8 or 9, I hole up in my room, usually with a Netflix, or my laptop. My husband and I don't do much together. We don't talk. He usually gets on his laptop, does more work. He used to be a game addict, so I am used to this. He was also verbally abusive for a while, but since I filed for divorce (and changed my mind), he has backed off on that, and isn't, in general. He still seems a bit passive aggressive however. He makes promises, and takes forever to follow through, if he does at all.
We don't do much together. I have no desire. We used to do a few things, but he doesn't like to go out much. We would go see a movie, or play a game. He is a bad sport though, so I've learned not to play with him anymore. Whenever we try to go anywhere, he is chronically late, and then annoyed at me, for being annoyed that he is late. We don't talk much, as I try to avoid it, also we are both busy doing other things. I'm not sure how long we can keep on like this, and part of me keeps hoping that things will get better, and part of me doesn't want it to. We have a similar parenting style, and similar beliefs at least, so that helps. We both like mostly healthy foods. I miss snuggling. He had so many sexual issues, anxiety wise, that I've been rather put off of that as well. I'd like to be with a best friend, to hang out with, laugh with... but I've given up on that. I'm not ready to divorce either, and share the kids only literally, half of the time, as that is what he wants. My kids are 4, and 8. I also have on in college, from my first marriage, that only lasted a few months, when I was 20... we are paying for his college, or most of it, so he can get off to an easier start, and yes, we can afford that. I'm not ready either to give up the ease financially, for the strain of being a single mom in this economy, even though I am frequently sad. I wonder how this will affect the kids. Anyway, I do go on. I just work and veg out most evenings. I'm going to start karaoke a couple of times a month, to try to find some joy.Comment
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:wow, I'd say... Too bad you live in another state...you guys would be a great couple to hang with. In the summer we have bonfires in the back yard and my kids always say "Oh, who came over?" and I always laugh...no one came over...we just have bonfires by ourselves.
This part cracked me up because it again shows our commonalities as couples... Dh and I built a new house 6 yrs ago. We built the shower in the master bath HUGE! Our tile guy asked why it was so big and DH said "For two people" Because DH and I shower together every morning. lovethis: My Mom/dd say the same thing! When I am getting the hot tub prepped for a night and putting the fire pit together "Ohhh looks nice, who's coming over?" NOBODY! LOL!!! ::
I'm glad I'm not the only younger person perfectly content with an 'old lady' lifestyle. I wouldn't change a thing! lovethisComment
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we have the same beliefs, we appreciate the simple things in life we're both workaholics LOL
... we also hate shopping and crowds, we both love anything to do with nature....in the good weather we work in the yard or go hiking in the woods or find a place on the water to feed the ducks
..right now the days are so short, by the time I'm done settling things after dinner, we only have time for a Christmas movie or a board game before bed
my husband is the most gentle and kind person, I've never met anyone that didn't think soComment
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what do you do after work
Head for the alcohol( not the rubbing kind either)!Comment
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