What Do You Do AFTER Work?

[DaycareMom]

I prepare dinner after the last DCK leaves, DH comes home and we eat together as a family. Then, everyone helps clean up, play or watch a show with my kids, pjs, brush teeth, story, prayers, then bed.

After my kids are in bed, I usually change into PJs, and watch some TV then sleep.

I am finding it difficult to spend quality time with DH - we don't have anything in common and I am so exhausted by the end of the day.

What do you do after DC hours? What do you do with your SO?

[crazydaycarelady]

We have dinner and then usually watch TV (I read,) play with our dogs, I was in a volleyball league so I would do that. We don't have little kids anymore. A lot of times I want to get out of the house so we end up going to dinner or running errands.

[itlw8]

What did you do together before you got married??? some time just being together is good sit next to him to read you book when he watches sports. or go do what he wants. head to bed early but not to sleep. That is the quality time he wants LOLlovethis

[Blackcat31]

I close here at 5:00, drive 7 miles home (stopping for anything we need on the way) and have dinner with my DH.

He does all the cooking so dinner is usually ready by the time I get off work. I do all the cleaning up then.

DH and I usually go for a walk around our property after dinner. We own 40 acres of heavily wooded land. We walk/hike in the nicer months and snowshoe in the winters.

After we go on our walk, I usually do some laundry, vacuum and then DH and I watch TV, use the computer, read or just chat. Sometimes we play cards or a board game.

DH is my best friend so we literally do everything together. We grocery shop together, clean the house together, exercise together, travel etc..

DH usually goes to bed though around 9-9:30 but I am a night owl so I stay up until atleast midnight reading or watching TV/movies.

In the morning, we both get up at 5:30 and go for another walk. Then DH makes breakfast and I head to work at 7:00 and he heads out to his woodshop to work.

He comes in to daycare at lunch time and helps me get the DCK's fed and laid down for rest time, then we eat our lunch together. He then heads home until I am off work and we start all over again.

....gee, when I lay it all out there...we are kind of boring or at the very least very routine.

[DaycareMom]

What did you do together before you got married??? some time just being together is good sit next to him to read you book when he watches sports. or go do what he wants. head to bed early but not to sleep. That is the quality time he wants LOLlovethis

Before we were married and had children, we had sex , or went out to dinner, movies, mini golf, etc. There were lots of things we did together, it was just out of the house. Now, being confined to stay home and working such long hours, it's difficult to find the energy to be intimate and we have children so we can't really leave them .

Spending time just next to him is awesome, but just getting a bit bored with it. Was hoping to get some ideas from others.

[Blackcat31]

Before we were married and had children, we had sex , or went out to dinner, movies, mini golf, etc. There were lots of things we did together, it was just out of the house. Now, being confined to stay home and working such long hours, it's difficult to find the energy to be intimate and we have children so we can't really leave them .

Spending time just next to him is awesome, but just getting a bit bored with it. Was hoping to get some ideas from others.

My DH and I have Wii competitions in bowling, baseball, tennis and golf.

We also LOVE board games. Some of those fun ones from when I was younger are really fun to revisit. Monopoly, Risk, Clue. Trivial Pursuit.

It's hard to connect with your hubby when your life is so much the kids...but just little things will help pave the way to being closer.

Find out the things you DO have in common and see if you can't build on those.

[jenboo]

DH and I do not have any kiddos of our own yet.
He gets home at 2:30pm and my last dck leaves between 430 and 530. Until I am off, DH either plays video games, puts laundry away, starts making dinner...
Once I am off, we usually eat dinner, maybe finish up a couple things around the house that I didn't get to. On wednesday nights we go to the dog park. Some nights we run errands. We don't have money at the moment to do things out of the house unless they are free (in Vegas there isn't too much night life thats free). Occationally we will go to my sister's for dinner or to church for an event.
Last night we decorated the house for christmas.
We try to be in bed by 9pm each night.

[Brooksie]

Kids leave at 5:30, I pack up DD and we head out to the grocery store or Target. If Target is the only thing on the agenda we tend to doddle and just walk up and down the aisles checking things out. I let her walk. After that its her dinner, bath and bed time with a few shows. Read a story and she's off to bed. After that its cleaning and cooking dinner for dbf and myself and then some quality time, generally catching up on shows with a glass of wine and couch time with the dogs.

[harperluu]

My DH and I have Wii competitions in bowling, baseball, tennis and golf.

We also LOVE board games. Some of those fun ones from when I was younger are really fun to revisit. Monopoly, Risk, Clue. Trivial Pursuit.

It's hard to connect with your hubby when your life is so much the kids...but just little things will help pave the way to being closer.

Find out the things you DO have in common and see if you can't build on those.

My husband and I are avid gamers as well. Once the kids are in bed, we enjoy cooperative games where we both can play at the same time. We've played Borderlands 2 together for months and months. It's just what we like to do to relax and kick back.

You are right on in finding something you enjoy doing together, and find time to do it. It doesn't even have to be conventional.

[MotherNature]

Last kid leaves around 6. My husband or I will have been making dinner by then, so we eat, do our shopping, though usually grocery shop on Sat. Then after our son is asleep around 8, we usually sit on the couch. My husbnad plays video games & I'll navigate or I'll watch a show on my laptop or play around looking at crap online. Then we go up to bed at 10. He reads on his kindle or looks at stuff online on his vita or phone & I watch shows on my phone. He goes to sleep around 1030-me about 1130. Some nights we clean floors after dinner or do chores, just depends on the day.. This is just the usual day-to-day. Sometimes we go do other stuff or I'll head out to Goodwill or an antique store to get out for a bit..

[Annalee]

I prepare dinner after the last DCK leaves, DH comes home and we eat together as a family. Then, everyone helps clean up, play or watch a show with my kids, pjs, brush teeth, story, prayers, then bed.

After my kids are in bed, I usually change into PJs, and watch some TV then sleep.

I am finding it difficult to spend quality time with DH - we don't have anything in common and I am so exhausted by the end of the day.

What do you do after DC hours? What do you do with your SO?

I find myself doing so much for my own children/home and other responsibilities such as church, school functions, etc. that hubby gets left out sometimes....ok a lot of times....not all my fault because he is not into what my kids are into sometimes....However, I do try to remember he takes care of us well providing what we need and want by working hard like I do...I am very independent and develop professional relationships easily no matter what function I am involved in and he is totally opposite that....makes our lives difficult at times, but when I look back and read what I have written, it doesn't sound that bad.... we do enjoy each others company and vacations, holidays, etc....I think I provided therapy to myself while putting my feelings into words... ::

[TwinKristi]

Dh & I have to make ourselves have time alone sometimes but it gets easier. As a provider it's hard to think of leaving your own kids with others but I suggest finding a good sitter and making a date night every 2 wks if you can swing it. We have a new casino here that we will go to and have dinner and play for a little but or go to dinner & a movie. We have 6 kids and are currently both self-employed so it's hard to shut off work sometimes but we have to!

But my evening is very much like your's!

[Maggie]

As soon as my last family walks out the door I open the fridge a grab a coors light ( sometimes before they leave if they try to linger too long that usually gives them the hint to go) I go out on my deck no matter what the weather and drink it. I need at least 5 minutes of no talking to me its my unwind time. Sometimes my husband will come out and ask if my 5 minutes are up so he can chat. After that we start dinner a quick workout hubby will watch Tv while I read or browse pinterest. I'm usually in bed by 8.

[Maria2013]

after the last child leaves I let my dogs free, do the fp claim, make sure my youngest did his homework, make dinner, clean after dinner...then I can finally relax and spend time with hubby, we have a lot in common so finding things to do is never a problem......aww now I miss him ::

[melilley]

The dcks usually leave by 5:30-5:40 at the latest. I then do clean the playroom (most nights), do my MMK stuff and sit on the computer for about 5 minutes to unwind. Then I make dinner (sometimes have a beer while I'm making it) and sometimes my sis and her kids come over for dinner. My dd and ds go to bed around 8:30-we put on pj's, brush teeth and read a book, and then my dh and I catch up on shows that we record. We are usually in bed by 9-sometimes we watch tv, sometimes other things or just go to sleep . My dh has to be to work some days at 4am and some at 6am so we are early birds to bed.

On Tues. my dh bowls so I do everything with the kids and every other Thurs. my sis in law comes over and my dh an I have a date night, which is nice.