Yup, DCM Again - Meal Schedule This Time

[QualiTcare]

Not to hijack the thread but.....

We once had a 12 month old. This baby was at the center 630 a.m. to 630 p.m., sometimes later (yes THAT family) All this baby had was formula all day. He would cry and cry because he would see the other babies eating. It would break my heart because he was such a good baby.

These parents also had a communication problem. Anyway, I purposely waited until a Friday to talk to the mother because that way it would give her the weekend to calm down

I just said, hey L, we need to talk. Is there a way you can bring K a little box of cereal? He really needs to be on solid food." Mom gave me this blank stare and I just wanted to slap her. I said.."K is here 12 hours a day, ALL day long, with no food. I don't think we would like that as adults more or less a baby would!"..Her response..."um yeah sure I will" She stormed off as usual.

I really didn't think she would. Come Monday, she brought in a HUGE WalMart bag full of (2nd stage with a few 3rd stages in there!) meats, cereals, fruits, veggies, etc.. I was like.."we request that you try a new food at home just in case of an allergic reaction." Her response, again I wanted to slap her..."oh he has been on this for months, we didn't think you guys would feed him!" I was so angry, I just took the bag and turned away from her.

on the flip side - the first daycare i took my daughter to (she only went to two - she and my son both went to the same one FOREVER after this) did a couple of things that annoyed me - one being mixing in her dirty, puke clothes with her clean clothes in her cubby. the OTHER being that when she started eating, i had been sending baby food on a regular basis and putting it in the fridge for about two-three weeks. i picked her up one day and there was a note that said, "does J eat baby food? she should be eating solids and we need you to send some," and i FLIPPED MY LID! i went into the director's office and had her follow me to the fridge before showing her the note. so, my kid had been basically starving all this time and they had the nerve to send me a note when they obviously had been feeding my food to some other kid!

that's when i took her out and went to a new daycare.

[MarinaVanessa]

Update

So DCM ended up coming to pick up DCB afterall (she had told me that she couldn't because she would be working). She knocked on my screen looking really embarrased and walked in with her tail between her legs. She apologized for what she said and did and pretty much chalked it up to her being stressed out (DCD is having trouble finding regular work and paying his share of the rent, her work has slowed down and has had to let DCD move in with her to split rent etc.). I chalked it up to ... lady is crazy and bi-polar and needs to be on drugs or has done way too many drugs in her youth .

I talked to her about how she needed to review the policies again and that I didn't appreciate her storming out each time that she didn't like something and then calling me on the phone to talk to me during DC hours instead of after-hours and about how I didn't appreciate her tone and having her raise her voice at me. She said that she wasn't trying to "yell" at me, that she was "being passionate". Good lordy, I just told her "Well I dodn't appreciate you being passionate towards me" and that if she wanted to talk we could do so but that she would have to stay calm and collected.

She then apologized again and told me that she appreciated me and that she was sorry and that she knew that she wouldn't someone that would take care of her son as well as I could or find a daycare that would spend as much time as I did with him and how advanced he is blah blah blah. Something about how I spend more waking hours with him than she does and how she feels guilty etc. then got all teary eyed and emotional and I just remember thinking OMG really? Lady, I was in your shoes 5 years ago, deal with it or change it. YOU decided to have the child, YOU decided to bring him into this world knowing your circumstances. It just bothers me that people can have kids and then think that because they have them and they have to sacrifice that it gives them the right to complain and play victim. How many mother's are out there that have had their kid "happen" to them and they just eccept it and deal with it? PLENTY!She left in better spirits and I went upstairs and my fiance just looked at me and told me he couldn't wait for the day that we could get rid of her .

[Blackcat31]

Glad it worked out for you!

[MarinaVanessa]

Glad it worked out for you!

HA! For now . Meaning until the next time she goes berserk!

[Unregistered]

Im wondering why is she giving him formula still even thou they make it for toddlers they DONT need it they need COWS MILK and if she is so worried about him having breast milk why doesnt she do half milk and half breastmilk when he is at your house. He NEEDS to eat 3 meals and 2 snacks a day. Mom should breastfed him in the morning and then give him some breakfest then bring him to daycare then you could do milk/breastmilk and food at lunch and same for dinner, an for snacks give juice or water. Some parents are totally CLUELESS.

[missnikki]

"Well I dodn't appreciate you being passionate towards me"

HAHAHA!!!! Had a good hearty laugh over that...good comeback! It sounds like you stuck to your guns (as we like to say here) and it worked out well. It's always nice to have the chips fall that way.

[MarinaVanessa]

Im wondering why is she giving him formula still even thou they make it for toddlers

Good question. I have no clue. I just give it because she wants me to. I mix it with the milk that I'm supposed to give him according to the USDA food program guidelines I received when I used to actually be in the food program.

they DONT need it they need COWS MILK

Not to completely hijack my own thread here (is that even possible??) but I hate to disagree here. Any good pediatrician will tell you that cows milk is just that, for baby cows. Yes it has some things that kids need but those needs can be easily met by other things such as fresh fruits and veggies and other healthy foods. We don't NEED milk and neither to children, plus it has cholesterol. If anything soy milk has just as much of what milk has and has absolutely no cholesterol.

if she is so worried about him having breast milk why doesnt she do half milk and half breastmilk when he is at your house.

Another good question. She used to pump at home and bring me the bottles of BM and I would feed him that here and she technically could bring me BM even now but I just don't think she wants to or can take the time while at work to do this (remember she lays tile for a living).

He NEEDS to eat 3 meals and 2 snacks a day. Mom should breastfed him in the morning and then give him some breakfest then bring him to daycare then you could do milk/breastmilk and food at lunch and same for dinner, an for snacks give juice or water. Some parents are totally CLUELESS.

I agree 100% with this. I mean really? Nothing but BM everyday until at least 9am? If he was sleeping I could understand but he's up by then. Why not give him breakfast first and then give him BM? Well then again this is the DCM that adamantly believes that BM magically gets better and better and somehow turns into some kind of super-BM as the child gets older .... I mean really? And my whole point to begin with was:

Why are you so upset that I am making him wait 45 minutes to eat a snack and not breakfast when you regularly bring him at 9am or later anyway and he hasn't eaten anyway?

Why is it my responsibility to make sure that he has had breakfast regardless of what time you bring him?

Why not get up earlier and make him breakfast yourself if you're so upset that a) he has to wait to have food and b) that he'll be getting a snack and not an actual breakfast?

I am not the parent, YOU are.

[momma2girls]

Good question. I have no clue. I just give it because she wants me to. I mix it with the milk that I'm supposed to give him according to the USDA food program guidelines I received when I used to actually be in the food program.

Not to completely hijack my own thread here (is that even possible??) but I hate to disagree here. Any good pediatrician will tell you that cows milk is just that, for baby cows. Yes it has some things that kids need but those needs can be easily met by other things such as fresh fruits and veggies and other healthy foods. We don't NEED milk and neither to children, plus it has cholesterol. If anything soy milk has just as much of what milk has and has absolutely no cholesterol.

Another good question. She used to pump at home and bring me the bottles of BM and I would feed him that here and she technically could bring me BM even now but I just don't think she wants to or can take the time while at work to do this (remember she lays tile for a living).

I agree 100% with this. I mean really? Nothing but BM everyday until at least 9am? If he was sleeping I could understand but he's up by then. Why not give him breakfast first and then give him BM? Well then again this is the DCM that adamantly believes that BM magically gets better and better and somehow turns into some kind of super-BM as the child gets older .... I mean really? And my whole point to begin with was:

Why are you so upset that I am making him wait 45 minutes to eat a snack and not breakfast when you regularly bring him at 9am or later anyway and he hasn't eaten anyway?

Why is it my responsibility to make sure that he has had breakfast regardless of what time you bring him?

Why not get up earlier and make him breakfast yourself if you're so upset that a) he has to wait to have food and b) that he'll be getting a snack and not an actual breakfast?

I am not the parent, YOU are.

I haven't served breakfast here for about 4 yrs. I have had many mothers come in and say oh by the way I haven't fed them their bottle yet, it's sometimes 8:30 drop off. They are just way too busy getting ready to feed them a bottle, so they thought it was my responsibility in the am. Until I had 2 mothers do it all the time- they came between 7:45 and 8:00am- Now both babies are screaming wanting fed, plus I have the school agers inc. my own daughter trying to get ready for the bus every am. Plus I have 2 parents still coming in the am- it was crazy, and they kept doing this, til I put my foot down and wrote them both letters and said I am only one person- please have babies dressed, changed, and first bottle given before coming to daycare. If that meant they had to get up 15-30 min. earlier every am, so be it!! I was so mad over all of this!!!!!