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i had a foster parent bring in their 2 foster kiddos this morning and very rudely say "well here the whiners." this isn't the first time I've caught a nasty vibe from her about the kids. they're usually dressed in clothes that are to big or to small. come in dirty, sick, snot crusted on their faces. yesterday she brought in the one yr old with a fever and said she gave her Tylenol and that shed just get over it. im getting concerned about their home life with foster parents. apparently there is another infant with them(i havent ever seen it) that they dont want to enroll in childcare cause it "such a good baby." would you report this to their worker or how do you handle it?
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I would put in a call to their worker. If they feel that way about the kids, they should not be in that foster home. Just tell the worker that you would like to share some concerns you have about the care and treatment of these kids. Who is caring for the infant if they don't want to enroll in daycare? Where I live, childcare is only available to foster parents who work outside the home (unless the foster parent pays out of pocket, and daycare costs more than the monthly reimbursement for children). -
Poor kiddos! They are in a rough enough situation without that sort of thing from the people supposed to keep them safe!
Def. call their social worker (I assume you probably have that contact info) and see what can be done.Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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I agree with the other 2 ladies. I would call it in just to be safe.Comment
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Foster parent here - and I would definitely call the worker on this!!Comment
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I would most definitely call the social worker. Somebody needs to stand up for these kids.
Of course they whine, they're in a home where they're not wanted. They're just a paycheck.Comment
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would you speak to the parent first before saying anything. ive honestly never had a foster situation quite like this oneComment
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k kiddos are going down now calling worker as soon as everyone is downComment
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This idea is horrifying. I am also a foster parent. I have never received enough "reimbursement" from the state to cover the actual cost of raising a foster child. To think that someone is able to profit from doing this scares me. I know that some states pay better than others, but IMO, that money belongs to the child, and I am donating my time.Comment
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I agree I would call her social worker and not feel the need to sit her down and "warn" her.
In the future I would probably address it when she says something right there. Even a mild "they don't whine here" might put her on notice that you are not someone she can get away with behaving that way with.Comment
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Poor kids. They have obviously been threw enough if they are in foster care and shouldn't have to deal with her snarky remarks and bitterness
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I agree!! To be honest, I was slightly offended by the paycheck comment, but I know it has nothing to do with me... If people only realized how little foster parents "get paid"... Especially considering that the children usually come into foster care with absolutely NOTHING - not even a change of clothes. But I guess if these foster parents are treating these kids this way, they probably are only viewing them as a paycheck.....
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talked to the worker. gave him all details that ive seen since the kiddos have started including foster moms snarky attitude and the comments that have been made(including the ones this morning) he is going to do a surprise visit there one evening this week and then stop in to see me. said he hasnt seen anything weird when hes there but they usually know hes coming. they have also been doing visitation with bio parents to get them transitioned back to them and is going to contact them to see what comments foster parents may have madeComment
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i actually have thought these kids may just be a paycheck myselves. the clothes are a big deal but theyve had them almost 6mnths so they should have had a chance to get them by now and foster mom dresses in namebrand clothes on a daily basis. I agree!! To be honest, I was slightly offended by the paycheck comment, but I know it has nothing to do with me... If people only realized how little foster parents "get paid"... Especially considering that the children usually come into foster care with absolutely NOTHING - not even a change of clothes. But I guess if these foster parents are treating these kids this way, they probably are only viewing them as a paycheck.....Comment
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