Why Can't Parents...

[Shell]

Adequately prepare their children for group daycare? This question is for so many situations, but particularly, why can't parents understand that their child is not the only one we are caring for?

New dcg has a lot of adjusting to do after having a nanny for almost a year, and being home with dcm twice a week. Dcg was rocked or nursed to sleep daily, and can't self soothe for anything, won't take a bottle, and screams unless being held. I understand dcg needs extra love, being new and all, but we are in for a real wake up call around here!
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[preschoolteacher]

I think for the most part it's because they have no idea how to... and no idea that they should.

Honestly, I had never heard of "preparing a child for group care" before I started coming to this forum!

I never seriously considered putting my baby in daycare once I had him. But before I had kids, I assumed that getting the kid adapted to group care was the daycare provider's job OR something that would just happen naturally. (!!!!!!)

[Annalee]

Adequately prepare their children for group daycare? This question is for so many situations, but particularly, why can't parents understand that their child is not the only one we are caring for?

New dcg has a lot of adjusting to do after having a nanny for almost a year, and being home with dcm twice a week. Dcg was rocked or nursed to sleep daily, and can't self soothe for anything, won't take a bottle, and screams unless being held. I understand dcg needs extra love, being new and all, but we are in for a real wake up call around here!
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I think parents do not prepare their kids for group care because dcp can't function in a group setting either. Society today is full of selfish/high-maintenance parents...Parents do not want rules/boundaries in their lives i.e. contract/policies of jobs, daycare, etc....

Parents resent any form of authority...I see lots of oppositional defiant disorder in parents simply because they want to do what THEY want to do regardless....not going to be told what to do. Therefore, THEY want us to do for THEIR KIDS as if their is no one else in our child care program....

Makes the future look even scarier.

[nannyde]

Adequately prepare their children for group daycare?

They don't want them to cry.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I think parents do not prepare their kids for group care because dcp can't function in a group setting either. Society today is full of selfish/high-maintenance parents...Parents do not want rules/boundaries in their lives i.e. contract/policies of jobs, daycare, etc....

Parents resent any form of authority...I see lots of oppositional defiant disorder in parents simply because they want to do what THEY want to do regardless....not going to be told what to do. Therefore, THEY want us to do for THEIR KIDS as if their is no one else in our child care program....

Makes the future look even scarier.

Ding ding ding ding.

To be fair, though, I never make my 3-month-old infant cry it out or go to sleep without being held ... and that's why I stay with her.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

They don't want them to cry.

Before this job, I never met people who were afraid of telling their 3/4/5-year-old no (even if the child would not throw a tantrum upon hearing it...).

[Blackcat31]

Someone posted this on another forum I visit. Thought it was worth saving. Maybe providers can post it on their websites, include it in their interviewing process and just share it to get the message out there.

[KidGrind]

Unless there is multiple children, it’s not a group care situation. Sometimes even if there are multiple children, the baby has a set of hands ready at anytime to hold, rock and cuddle at a moment’s notice. Older siblings make great helpers!

I don’t expect parents to prepare their babies for daycare. I would hope toddlers & preschool children by the time they have reached me would have been introduced to manners & appropriate social interaction. However, I’ve witness The Boy Raised By Wolves, Tarzan and Nell far too many times.

Parents love their children. It is sometimes sad to witness their low/zero expectations of their little ones.

Truth be told often times parents are not prepared to place their children into group care. So if they’re not ready I doubt their kids will be ready.

[Blackcat31]

Unless there is multiple children, it’s not a group care situation. Sometimes even if there are multiple children, the baby has a set of hands ready at anytime to hold, rock and cuddle at a moment’s notice. Older siblings make great helpers!
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I'm confused... (Which is more often than not )

What's not a group situation? OP is talking about a daycare child... I assume she has more than one... I don't know, maybe I am just reading wrong. ...

Also, I have a rule that siblings are NEVER allowed to "help" with their baby sibling... Way too much liability. Other DCK's rarely understand that relationship.

[Cradle2crayons]

I'm confused... (Which is more often than not )

What's not a group situation? OP is talking about a daycare child... I assume she has more than one... I don't know, maybe I am just reading wrong. ...

Also, I have a rule that siblings are NEVER allowed to "help" with their baby sibling... Way too much liability. Other DCK's rarely understand that relationship.

I am the ONLY one allowed to take care of the babies. No other helper kids or siblings.

[melilley]

I'm confused... (Which is more often than not )

What's not a group situation? OP is talking about a daycare child... I assume she has more than one... I don't know, maybe I am just reading wrong. ...

Also, I have a rule that siblings are NEVER allowed to "help" with their baby sibling... Way too much liability. Other DCK's rarely understand that relationship.

I think Kidgrind may mean that home isn't a group situation, that many children are only children or they may have older siblings that help with the baby at home. That's what I got from the post.

[Lorri]

I hear you. Mom travels all the time but when she got back from India, dad had help 11 month old all the time. She had to put her foot down which help so much. Usually she would sleep for a hour and then we would have to hold her for another hour so she can get rest. Today she slept 2 and half hours

[KidGrind]

I think Kidgrind may mean that home isn't a group situation, that many children are only children or they may have older siblings that help with the baby at home. That's what I got from the post.

Thank you!

Unless there is multiple children, it’s not a group care situation. Sometimes even if there are multiple children, the baby has a set of hands ready at anytime to hold, rock and cuddle at a moment’s notice. Older siblings make great helpers! I was referring to a family dynamic not a daycare situation.

I do not allow any daycare children in my care to handle babies, siblings included. It’s one of the reasons I prefer not to enroll siblings in my program. Some DCPs want their older children to help their sibling in my care. I do not allow it for safety reasons.