What Do You Do When...

[MamaBearCanada]

I called her and was just honest- We don't feel we are the best fit for your family, it was nice meeting you and best wishes on your search for childcare.

It was uncomfortable, but at least I am done with it now!

:hug:happyface

[daycare]

I know that you have made your choice that you don't want to enroll. BUT hear me out.....

I never try to monitor or gauge the children's behavior when the parents are present. Children always behave differently for their parents than they do providers.

I am not too sure if you have a trial period, but I have a two week paid trial and this is what I use it for.

If everything checks out. Parents on same page, ages fit, hours fit, etc. then I move forward and we test it out.

That I can recall, I have only ever had one child that did not make it through my trial period. The child was so sweet and loving at the interview, but on his 3rd day of care he blew up in anger, flipping over one of our HUGE DC eating tables. I can barley lift those tables....

Anyways, there's my two cents......

[JoseyJo]

I know that you have made your choice that you don't want to enroll. BUT hear me out.....

I never try to monitor or gauge the children's behavior when the parents are present. Children always behave differently for their parents than they do providers.

I am not too sure if you have a trial period, but I have a two week paid trial and this is what I use it for.

If everything checks out. Parents on same page, ages fit, hours fit, etc. then I move forward and we test it out.

That I can recall, I have only ever had one child that did not make it through my trial period. The child was so sweet and loving at the interview, but on his 3rd day of care he blew up in anger, flipping over one of our HUGE DC eating tables. I can barley lift those tables....

Anyways, there's my two cents......

There were other issues also I just didn't put them all together into a picture of what it would be like with this family enrolled until after. I have found that a lot of parents have a bad habit of saying the right thing (like how they handle discipline, their views on education, what they allow/don't allow, what hours they need, etc) but then after they enroll they try to push every boundary and I just don't have the time for that!

I really dislike terming so I would rather weed out families that aren't a good fit before I enroll

[daycare]

There were other issues also I just didn't put them all together into a picture of what it would be like with this family enrolled until after. I have found that a lot of parents have a bad habit of saying the right thing (like how they handle discipline, their views on education, what they allow/don't allow, what hours they need, etc) but then after they enroll they try to push every boundary and I just don't have the time for that!

I really dislike terming so I would rather weed out families that aren't a good fit before I enroll

got it..... if that is the case, then I would just be honest.

I learned the hard way to tell the truth. I interviewed a family and the child was one of the worst I have ever saw. He full on choked his baby brother, parents laughed, the child cleared my shelves throwing it all on the ground. Again parents did nothing. The final straw was when the child climbed on top of my kitchen counters and yes once again, parents said nothing.

I was new and didn't know what to say. The DCP called me a day later and said we want to enroll, I lied and said I decided to fill the spot with another family.

Well my ad was still up for an open spot for a few more weeks. The mother caught me, called me out on it and even threaten me with discrimination due to race.....UGH

So now when I interview I tell the parents this. "I am very picky about who I let into our program. I take pride when I say that we don't have kids who bite, hit or are hurtful to one another, so I really try to look at the over all picture when I am selecting families to enroll. I want to make sure that your child will fit into our program with ease and be successful here. So I will let you know in a few days my decision.

Then if I don't chose them, I will say unfortunately, I don't feel that we are the right fit for each other, however, we surely do appreciate your time to come out of your way to see our program. Here is the number for our R&R, I am sure you will be able to find a great place for JOhnny using their services.