Parenting

[TwinKristi]

Well these parent's did it again. Their older child had a birthday in early September and they celebrated it with 3 different birthday parties and 3 different cakes. I know this because my own dd was invited to each party and I was shown all the pictures of each party. The younger childs' birthday is today. I celebrated it here with him gave him a gift, we did fun stuff he liked, fixed hos favorite lunch and he blew out candles on a cake. He hugged me so many times and was so happy. At pick up his mom asked what the gifts were for and when he explained it wad for his birthday she says oh I guess it is. We'll have to get him something I guess. So how does a mother forget a childs birthday? I'm guessing that what we did was the only party he'll get.

THAT is horrible Today is my son's birthday and we had all sorts of fun today! I can't imagine him spending it with someone else and me not even acknowledging it or celebrating it. Some people just shouldn't have kids. There must be something underlying that you don't know about, maybe a traumatic birth? Maybe even as far as a twin pregnancy and one was miscarried? Maybe they told her it was a girl or she really wanted a girl and she was devastated that he was a boy? So sad... I don't know if I could keep from asking if there's a reason why?

[SSWonders]

Well these parent's did it again. Their older child had a birthday in early September and they celebrated it with 3 different birthday parties and 3 different cakes. I know this because my own dd was invited to each party and I was shown all the pictures of each party. The younger childs' birthday is today. I celebrated it here with him gave him a gift, we did fun stuff he liked, fixed hos favorite lunch and he blew out candles on a cake. He hugged me so many times and was so happy. At pick up his mom asked what the gifts were for and when he explained it wad for his birthday she says oh I guess it is. We'll have to get him something I guess. So how does a mother forget a childs birthday? I'm guessing that what we did was the only party he'll get.

That's pathetic. Some people just don't deserve the wonderful gift of the children they are given. This little boy is old enough to pick up on the fact that his brother is treated differently. My heart aches for him.

[childcaremom]

That breaks my heart. Poor little guy.

[melilley]

Well these parent's did it again. Their older child had a birthday in early September and they celebrated it with 3 different birthday parties and 3 different cakes. I know this because my own dd was invited to each party and I was shown all the pictures of each party. The younger childs' birthday is today. I celebrated it here with him gave him a gift, we did fun stuff he liked, fixed hos favorite lunch and he blew out candles on a cake. He hugged me so many times and was so happy. At pick up his mom asked what the gifts were for and when he explained it wad for his birthday she says oh I guess it is. We'll have to get him something I guess. So how does a mother forget a childs birthday? I'm guessing that what we did was the only party he'll get.

How? How could she forget? Poor guy!
What did you say to her?

[Laurel]

I stay out of parent/child relationships but in this case I would HAVE to speak up. That is beyond wrong. Wow.

Laurel

[Sunchimes]

Do you ever want to tell a parent, "No, go away. You can't have him back. You don't deserve him"? Hmm, no idea how to punctuate the end of that sentence. ;-)

I haven't done it for a daycare kid, but I've done it for a neighbor kid. He spent every Christmas and most other holidays with us. Even after we moved away, we would go back there, go to his house, tell a sibling we were taking him, and off we'd go for a weekend. Parents didn't care a bit. It's the only way that kid ever got any attention. I would have taken him to raise, but he loved his family and I don't think he would have been content. It's a puzzle to me, but even neglected, unwanted kids can't let go of that parental bond.

He's 20 now, expecting a baby this month, and seems to be doing ok. I think he is on the fringes of a gang-all of his uncles are in gangs, but so far, he isn't involved. I pray all the time.

[jenn]

That is horrible. My husband is the oldest of 7. They have a "golden child" in their family. He runs everything, and can do no wrong. The parents do all kinds of things to help him out, are very involved with his kids, ... My husband is the outcast of the family. The other 6 had cars given as gifts. Not my husband, they didn't even teach him to drive, another family did. The others received full paid college educations. Not my husband, they wouldn't help him with a dime. Our daughter is 5 and "grandpa" has seen her maybe 5 times, "Grandma" has never seen her. They live in the same town as us. I will never understand how they can treat the others so well, but act as if he and his daughter don't exist. It's crazy!

[Msdunny]

I was this child. My little sister was/is the golden child, while my mother could ignore me for weeks and months at a time. As a result, I am extremely independent, and don't have much of a family bond with my childhood family. I am extremely close to my own children, and would never intentionally hurt one of them.

My heart absolutely breaks for this child. I will tell you that I am a somewhat well adjusted adult because of adults who loved me outside of my family. Teachers, church families, even people I babysat for as a teenager. Please, please, please love this child and show him what 'normal' care looks like.

[Josiegirl]

I don't understand some people. It's so sad what this little guy is going through. Yes, shame shame shame on his mom. Wish I could give him a huge hug and fill his Christmas tree with all kinds of gifts, just for him. Speaking of Christmas, what will happen to him then? And as someone else mentioned, how is he treated at home? Ignored? Abused? Left to deal on his own? Is he in danger? I would have to speak up and if I saw any signs of neglect, abuse, definitely make a call.