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I must have a sign on my door that I cannot see that states "Angry soon to be divorcees all welcomed. Come on in and argue!"
I have been dealing with one family for a year. In that case it is mainly the mom. I know the circumstances and who is doing/not doing what. Things are fairly quiet here on my end though once I put my foot down.
Now I have a new one. This time? Oh my......The mom says nothing. The dad is always fishing for information. Calls me. Texts. Comes and picks up to ask questions when he isn't supposed to pick up. Halloween mom goes out drinking and dad finds her in bed with someone else (or so I am told by him!) Then next thing I know he is calling DYFS and calling me fishing for information every other day. Seriously! What part of I do not and will not be in the middle of this mess!? I sent them the 'divorce letter' but he still fishes. I try telling him that if I find something amiss I will call but it won't be HIM. It will be DYFS and then he can take it from there but I am not offering him info to use as a weapon! (Not that I have any really) Well he says the baby hasn't been to the dr since April so the dr told him to call on the mom. (I am pretty sure drs are mandatory reporters so why wouldn't the dr call?) Whatever. Dr visits do not involve me. He went to court for sole custody Monday. The courts says no. He is going to take her again and he says with DYFS's help. He keeps telling me they are involved and they might call me but I am not getting in the middle of this poo. I won't speak with DYFS nor will I with him. Done. I feel like his sole purpose it to attack cause he is mad and is trying to push me up front so I can tell on the mom something I have nothing to tell! This continues he will be getting notice. I hate to do it. I love this child. She is so sweet and I like the mom but I am not dealing with this mess. The first family understood and pulled back. This dad is obnoxious! I now have him programed in my phone so I do not respond back. He will text and call all day when he is on a tirade. I hate to lose the money but enough is enough. Today the gmom comes in (his mom) to tell me DYFS is involved and might call me. Seriously??? After I told the dad no!? Just done done done.................
These people need to fight their own battles on their own turf and at this rate just might be starting Monday!
Does anyone or should I say CAN anyone end a relationship with the kids best interest in mind rather then fighting like mad dogs? Is it done? I haven't seen it.
I have been dealing with one family for a year. In that case it is mainly the mom. I know the circumstances and who is doing/not doing what. Things are fairly quiet here on my end though once I put my foot down.
Now I have a new one. This time? Oh my......The mom says nothing. The dad is always fishing for information. Calls me. Texts. Comes and picks up to ask questions when he isn't supposed to pick up. Halloween mom goes out drinking and dad finds her in bed with someone else (or so I am told by him!) Then next thing I know he is calling DYFS and calling me fishing for information every other day. Seriously! What part of I do not and will not be in the middle of this mess!? I sent them the 'divorce letter' but he still fishes. I try telling him that if I find something amiss I will call but it won't be HIM. It will be DYFS and then he can take it from there but I am not offering him info to use as a weapon! (Not that I have any really) Well he says the baby hasn't been to the dr since April so the dr told him to call on the mom. (I am pretty sure drs are mandatory reporters so why wouldn't the dr call?) Whatever. Dr visits do not involve me. He went to court for sole custody Monday. The courts says no. He is going to take her again and he says with DYFS's help. He keeps telling me they are involved and they might call me but I am not getting in the middle of this poo. I won't speak with DYFS nor will I with him. Done. I feel like his sole purpose it to attack cause he is mad and is trying to push me up front so I can tell on the mom something I have nothing to tell! This continues he will be getting notice. I hate to do it. I love this child. She is so sweet and I like the mom but I am not dealing with this mess. The first family understood and pulled back. This dad is obnoxious! I now have him programed in my phone so I do not respond back. He will text and call all day when he is on a tirade. I hate to lose the money but enough is enough. Today the gmom comes in (his mom) to tell me DYFS is involved and might call me. Seriously??? After I told the dad no!? Just done done done.................
These people need to fight their own battles on their own turf and at this rate just might be starting Monday!
Does anyone or should I say CAN anyone end a relationship with the kids best interest in mind rather then fighting like mad dogs? Is it done? I haven't seen it.
It takes a village to raise kids and it's so much easier when you have support. We have always put our kids first. It's a shame that others cannot put their feelings aside and become a great co-parent because the rewards are beyond worth it. We all spend the holidays together which is wonderful for us and the kids! 
: will wait
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