Just Wow

[Bookworm]

SO I talked to the DCM for a few at pick up. I didn't bring anything up and just wanted to see if she would.

Well sure enough, she tells me that she is really overwhelmed at my TALL request that I have, after all he's only 4.5, what do I expect.

I stand there and think hmmmm ok, I might understand a little if it was your first child or something medically was going on, but you said there was not. Ok DCM go on... I continue to stand quietly and listening.

She said I just don't think that you are going to get far pushing him with all of those things right now. You are asking too much.

I stop her and said well, we really don't have a lot of time to work on these things and to be honest with you, we have a lot to work on. I would never push a child to do something that they are clearly not ready to do.

I know that YOU might me having a hard time with it, but DCK is READY and willing. I need you to also be ready and willing to help your son.

UGH...insert foot into mouth here.................

DCM goes off on me saying what makes you think that I am not willing to help my child? I am doing everything I can, including enrolling him here. Blah blah blah.

I just stand there and when she is done going on her rant. I looked her in the face and said, I am really sorry you feel that way, I can see that you and I are not a good fit for each other. I will have your refund for the rest of the week ready for you tomorrow, which will also be DCK last day.

DCM stood silent, saying NOTHING....... then says, well I hired you, I am the one who makes that decision.

I just tell her, I really don't think we have anything else to discuss right now, if you would like to call me later after 6pm to talk to me calmly I will be more than happy to talk with you then. I walked away.

She stood at the door for another 5 min, just saying my name ms. N, can I talk to you......

I just stayed in the backroom and played with the kids that were still here.............

DONE!!!

All I can say is WOW.

[daycare]

My husband say to me wow your super cute when your mad.

Then said it was nice to see me stand behind my policies and enforce them.

I feel good about my decision. I was upset most of the time.

[itlw8]

This really worries me. I think it is neglect. If there is a developmental delay he would qualify for help from the school district starting at age 3 But it sounds like it was and still is being caused by the parents. who ever said they had seen it in foster kids who had been neglected hit the nail on the head.

I think you really need to call the hotline and ask their opinion. These are basic skills that should have been mastered or worked on. My guess they have not had the child to the dr either in a few years. Call and let the state figure it out.

[Evansmom]

DCM stood silent, saying NOTHING....... then says, well I hired you, I am the one who makes that decision.
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What the what?!!!!
She is clearly used to "hiring" a nanny. Not working with a teacher like you and operating in a group environment. The DCM needs as much training as the DCB does.

[Josiegirl]

Did you say this woman has other children? Is there a dad involved? If so, wonder what his thoughts are?
This whole situation is unbelievable and sad. Seems like she's in denial or a mom in high need of parental skills training.

[countrymom]

omg wow, just wow. If this doesn't scream lazy parenting then I have no idea what does.

[Unregistered]

SO I talked to the DCM for a few at pick up. I didn't bring anything up and just wanted to see if she would.

Well sure enough, she tells me that she is really overwhelmed at my TALL request that I have, after all he's only 4.5, what do I expect.

I stand there and think hmmmm ok, I might understand a little if it was your first child or something medically was going on, but you said there was not. Ok DCM go on... I continue to stand quietly and listening.

She said I just don't think that you are going to get far pushing him with all of those things right now. You are asking too much.

I stop her and said well, we really don't have a lot of time to work on these things and to be honest with you, we have a lot to work on. I would never push a child to do something that they are clearly not ready to do.

I know that YOU might me having a hard time with it, but DCK is READY and willing. I need you to also be ready and willing to help your son.

UGH...insert foot into mouth here.................

DCM goes off on me saying what makes you think that I am not willing to help my child? I am doing everything I can, including enrolling him here. Blah blah blah.

I just stand there and when she is done going on her rant. I looked her in the face and said, I am really sorry you feel that way, I can see that you and I are not a good fit for each other. I will have your refund for the rest of the week ready for you tomorrow, which will also be DCK last day.

DCM stood silent, saying NOTHING....... then says, well I hired you, I am the one who makes that decision.

I just tell her, I really don't think we have anything else to discuss right now, if you would like to call me later after 6pm to talk to me calmly I will be more than happy to talk with you then. I walked away.

She stood at the door for another 5 min, just saying my name ms. N, can I talk to you......

I just stayed in the backroom and played with the kids that were still here.............

DONE!!!

Her attitude explains why she has a 4.5 year old infant....poor child.

Good Job showing her the door!!! This job is hard enough without clueless, rude parents. I hope you fill the slot with an appreciative, polite and cooperative family!

[SSWonders]

Did she bring dcb for his last day?

[CedarCreek]

So sorry you had to deal with all of that!

I can see where mom is coming from if dcb is not ready but if he clearly is then she is doing him a disservice by continuing to baby him. Poor child.

I can't believe she thinks she makes the decisions over you for termination! THAT is completely silly!

Good riddance!

[melilley]

My husband say to me wow your super cute when your mad.

Then said it was nice to see me stand behind my policies and enforce them.

I feel good about my decision. I was upset most of the time.

Had to smile at your dh's response, how cute!

I'm glad you stood your ground! The nerve of her to tell you that she hired you and it's her decision of if you dis-enroll or not. Pffft.... Good bye!

[MotherNature]

Doesn't seem judgmental to me :confused:, sounds like she is trying to help get him caught up to where he should be developmentally. This child is way behind.

I agree. This child is behind.

[Tay]

This DCK could have developmental delays that the parent might be intentionally ignoring or doesn't seem to have a clue!

[daycare]

BUSY day here.....

Well DCK came today. DCM brought kid in and didn't mutter a word to me. She then hands me a note card and said NOTHING.

I didn't say anything back, was not really sure I had anything nice to say so I kept quiet.

I did not open the note card until about an hour ago. Basically, it was an apology letter saying how bad she felt, she loves my program and really wants DCB to stay.

Well, I don't care if you made GOLD shoot out your nose, NO, it's too late. I am going to keep my foot down and continue on with the term.

I am about to write the check here in a few minutes along with a term letter. There is no amount of saying sorry that will make up for the words that came out of your mouth yesterday. PLUS, I know that this will not be the last time that we bump heads like this. I don't play games like that.

The best part about all of this, is that for once I am not scared to speak my mind, I am not saying sorry to her, I am not being a WIMP....

Back bone in full force. You ladies have been in the back of my mind pushing me to keep it in tact and do the right thing here. happyface

[countrymom]

good for you. Maybe next time mom will think before she speaks.

[daycare]

good for you. Maybe next time mom will think before she speaks.

Pick up is still 3 hours away. I can't wait to just be done with this. I will miss the child, despite the short time I got to spend with them.