What Is Wrong With Parents Today?

[Cat Herder]

Does anyone else find that the older the first time parents are the more selfish they are they spend the least amount of time possible with their kids.

I have found the opposite. All of the Moms over 40 I have known (16 so far) were amazing lovethis None of them put their kid in daycare, though... They planned and saved $$$ to stay home. Maybe you are seeing more "change of life" babies than I am, though?


To the original question: What is wrong with parents today? I think it is a simple pendulum effect.

The kids who were ignored dote, coddle and pamper.

The kids who were ridiculed and made to feel unloved celebrate their kids most mundane accomplishments with a ticker-tape parade.

The kids who lived on eggshells let their kids free-range.

The kids who were made to feel stupid push their kids to succeed.

The kids whose parents forced them to supply constant validation of their parenting can be the most critical of their kids.

*** Some parents continue the unhealthy cycles of their own parents.

Some parents manage to break the unhealthy cycles and become golden clients.

Yes, Some parents are just born jerks.

[nannyde]

I have found the opposite. All of the Moms over 40 I have known (16 so far) were amazing lovethis None of them put their kid in daycare, though... They planned and saved $$$ to stay home. Maybe you are seeing more "change of life" babies than I am, though?


To the original question: What is wrong with parents today? I think it is a simple pendulum effect.

The kids who were ignored dote, coddle and pamper.

The kids who were ridiculed and made to feel unloved celebrate their kids most mundane accomplishments with a ticker-tape parade.

The kids who lived on eggshells let their kids free-range.

The kids who were made to feel stupid push their kids to succeed.

The kids whose parents forced them to supply constant validation of their parenting can be the most critical of their kids.

*** Some parents continue the unhealthy cycles of their own parents.

Some parents manage to break the unhealthy cycles and become golden clients.

Yes, Some parents are just born jerks.

Stealing ticker tape parade and pretending I made it up myself

[Cat Herder]

Stealing ticker tape parade and pretending I made it up myself

Go for it lovethis I never remember who said what first anymore, anyway.... the fog is getting thick.

Maybe I am oversimplifying, but Thanksgiving is coming and FB (with 85+ "kids" I have known since elementary school) is giving me much data to support my thesis. ::::::

My personal favorite passive aggressive post from this morning....

[Maggie]

Well because I have no social life, all the moms I know have their kids in daycare, mine. Three of the last four families that started with me were late thirties early forties before they had their first. They were struggling with one and then had another one! They just really don't seem to have a clue what to do with them. They cant take them shopping, cant clean their house or do laundry when they have them, they struggle to get ready for work in the morning, and some don't, they bring them here, go back home and then get ready. They have more money then the younger parents so they're always spoiling and bribing with things. They are afraid to tell them no because the tantrum that goes with it. My younger parents have no problem saying no, their kids are better behaved and they spend more time with them. My older parents seem to need way more me time then my younger parents. My kids are all grown but I really don't remember the parenting thing being all that hard when mine were young even the years I was working outside the home.

[Cat Herder]

Well because I have no social life, all the moms I know have their kids in daycare, mine. Three of the last four families that started with me were late thirties early forties before they had their first. They were struggling with one and then had another one! They just really don't seem to have a clue what to do with them. They cant take them shopping, cant clean their house or do laundry when they have them, they struggle to get ready for work in the morning, and some don't, they bring them here, go back home and then get ready. They have more money then the younger parents so they're always spoiling and bribing with things. They are afraid to tell them no because the tantrum that goes with it. My younger parents have no problem saying no, their kids are better behaved and they spend more time with them. My older parents seem to need way more me time then my younger parents. My kids are all grown but I really don't remember the parenting thing being all that hard when mine were young even the years I was working outside the home.

Social life... :::::: What is that :confused::confused: I do have a couple part time jobs.

My lifelong friend who owns a huge center (for 35 years now) tells me the same things you are explaining... she calls them the "change of life" moms.

She feels these Mom's really had little desire to be a Mother, but felt they would be missing out on a critical check box to being "successful in life" if she did not have a baby.

"Being a Mother" and "Having a Baby" are two very different things to this sub-group.

[renodeb]

Well that is certainly a loaded question! :: Parents dont get it! Its hard when a child has been gone for awhile. Good luck with the retraining!
Deb

[coolconfidentme]

Well that is certainly a loaded question! :: Parents dont get it! Its hard when a child has been gone for awhile. Good luck with the retraining!
Deb

HAHA! He g'ma dropped her off today & said, she slept in & she can just play though nap time. I told her, "We don't play though nap time. We nap." DCG is currently whining & has everyone else up.