I Get It, You Miss Your Parents!!!

[farmgirl]

I had a DCG do this as well. She even vomited She started care at 22 months. Never had been in daycare before. Just gma's. I advised mom to talk with the ped doctor and they discovered she suffered from anxiety. So sad at such a young age

[angiescott]

Ugh, this has to be something that gets on my nerves more than a screaming kid. I had a girl who we just now got over it after three months of doing this since she started. You could hear her screaming in the car and sobbing at the stop sign two houses down from my house in the morning. She'd sob and wouldn't be able to catch her breath and then it was that she missed mommy/daddy. Every day she came here this is what happened, especially when she didn't want to do what I wanted her to.

One morning, I had a horrible day and it was only 730 in the morning. My oldest had missed the bus, my assistant called in sick and another child had dumped milk all over the table and floor, the whole brand new gallon. She woke up my own child who was sick all night, she woke up a baby and her own baby brother who is a screamer and only naps for 20 minutes at a time.

I lost it, it was a bad daycare moment. I turned cartoons on (which never happens) and told her I was calling her mom to come get her that I was done and couldn't handle listening to this all day, everyday anymore. She sat down and happily watched cartoons. Her mom works 30 minutes away so I knew it would be at least an hour before she got here. After 25 minutes the girls attitude completely changed. She asked if she could go play and was off. It was weird.

Ever since that day, she has stopped with the constant crying. It still happens every once in a while but it's maybe once a week. I just let her watch 5 or 10 minutes of cartoons in the morning before she starts her day to help her adjust, apparently this is what she does all day at grandmas house on Tuesdays and Thursdays.

[Play Care]

For me there is a big difference between a child who is genuinely missing a parent and a child who suddenly decides to miss the parent after being asked to do something they find undesirable (picking up toys, putting shoes on, etc.)

I have no issues giving some extra TLC to the former, but I am not about to be manipulated by a 3 yo whose real issue is that I had to speak to them about being nice to a friend, or told them we don't watch television here, etc.