I Get It, You Miss Your Parents!!!

[ihop]

I have a new dcg,2.5. She cries each morning at drop off for a couple of minutes then is fine. But all day every day for the last two weeks she repeats that she misses her mommy and daddy. Non stop. She does it over and over until she makes herself cry. She get a over it. Rinse ans repeat. I have tried reassuring her,being sympathetic, ignoring it, redirecting,. Nothing is working and she is starting to drive me bonkers.

Any advice?

[DaycareMom]

I had a DCB do this a lot. It definitely can get on your nerves.
Whenever she starts it up, tell her "I know, mommy (or daddy) will be here later to get you, but let's have fun now"
If it continues, I would separate her from the group and put her somewhere comfortable - maybe with a favorite animal and tell her she needs to stay there until she calms down.
That usually would work for me. Once he realized no one was paying any attention and it wasn't fun to just sit, he wanted to get up and play.
Good luck!

[preschoolteacher]

I read on this forum elsewhere that one provider had the child Skype with mom every day at a certain time (for like 5 minutes). They eventually moved it to once a week and then it was only needed every once in awhile. I wonder if this would work for you?

What about having the parents send a mini photo album with some family photos? The child could go sit in a quiet place with the book to help them calm down.

[Cradle2crayons]

I read on this forum elsewhere that one provider had the child Skype with mom every day at a certain time (for like 5 minutes). They eventually moved it to once a week and then it was only needed every once in awhile. I wonder if this would work for you?

What about having the parents send a mini photo album with some family photos? The child could go sit in a quiet place with the book to help them calm down.

That was me with the skype child. Worked wonders. Of course, not recommended for every child, but for a select few of certain ages, works perfect.

[coolconfidentme]

I have a new dcg,2.5. She cries each morning at drop off for a couple of minutes then is fine. But all day every day for the last two weeks she repeats that she misses her mommy and daddy. Non stop. She does it over and over until she makes herself cry. She get a over it. Rinse ans repeat. I have tried reassuring her,being sympathetic, ignoring it, redirecting,. Nothing is working and she is starting to drive me bonkers.

Any advice?

I don't give those things any energy. I just say ok, go play now.

[cheerfuldom]

i had one child do this so bad and it was mentally exhausting for me. I dont know that she actually missed her parents because she came and went pretty well, it was just during the day that she repeated over and over and worked herself up. Honestly I thought the okay transitions combined with the obsessive repeating was really more about a undiagnosed special need than anything else. once I FINALLY got her to move past this (a couple months ) she then picked up another phrase to focus on. I also started to see some other odd behaviors. I would suggest you consider phone calls/skype for temporary relief and ask that her parents make a small, kid friendly album of pictures of them for her to look at when she is upset. Require her to sit in one corner to look at her pictures and there is where she stays unless she is cooperative and can join the group. Make another spot for her to sit outside. When she asks where they are, direct her to her book and her spot. Also keep an eye out for any other odd behaviors, just in case.

[nannyde]

I tell them I miss mommy too. I just say it the same way with the same intensity and the same face.

Then GO PLAY TOYS for them and go work for me.

[Blackcat31]

I don't give those things any energy. I just say ok, go play now.

I tell them I miss mommy too. I just say it the same way with the same intensity and the same face.

Then GO PLAY TOYS for them and go work for me.

The more you feed into that kind of thing, the worse it gets.

[Play Care]

The more you feed into that kind of thing, the worse it gets.

I have a 4 yo dcb and two 3 yo dck's that do this all.day.long. I seriously thought about videotaping it just to get some feedback I've done the "I miss mommy too!" Or, when that didn't work I've done the "go play toys" but my guys become overwrought. Just this morning we were trying to get out the door to pick kids up at school and my 3 yo DCG had a "want Daddy" meltdown because I asked her to help pick up toys... Then she refused to put on her shoes, hit another child once in the car and cried/ gagged with the intent of making herself sick...

No sooner do I get one dck over it then another starts. And yes, it's always when they have to do something they don't want or are being spoken to for behavior, etc. I don't ever recall a genuine "want mommy" moment

[ihop]

Cherry on top, her parents didn't bring her snuggly for nap.(she already spends half of nap crying).etc the meltdown begin

[dingledine]

I have one that does this sometimes. She is three. I've always said, I know you do, you have a great mommy. She will be here tonight. Then I direct her to play.

[sharlan]

I don't feed into it either. I give a quick hug, say I miss my mommy too and tell them to go play toys.

[daycarediva]

I don't feed into it either. I give a quick hug, say I miss my mommy too and tell them to go play toys.

that's how I handle it.

My poor Mom when she comes in to sub for me "Why you not come and pick up ****** Nani? Her misses you!" ::

[daycarediva]

I have one child who says he cannot be friends with other kids because he is only friends with his Mom. It's SO ODD and in the last year I have been unable to 'curb' it. He won't eat certain food (his favorites) because Mommy isn't here to share it, or I didn't cut it like Mommy. Almost 4, still cries at drop off (bye bye outside), can't sleep here without his Mom, showers with her, talks about her CONSTANTLY and nobody else can do with him what he/Mom do/share/like/talk about. It's OVER THE TOP to say the least. I just ignore the heck out of it now.

[Michelle]

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/but-i-still-miss-my-mommy-teresa-johnston/1030382430?cm_mmc=googlepla-_-book_5to14-_-q000000633-_-9781460961070&cm_mmca2=pla&ean=9781460961070&isbn=9781460961070&r=1

this is a good book to read to them
I really feel for these kids
when I have kids that cry for their moms I just give them lots of extra hugs and read to them
it seems to work for me