lovethislovethis to you!
I know at times I come across as cold or uncaring but nothing could be further from the truth. I care. I care a lot.
I care enough to help parents understand what it means to be a part of a group setting, I care enough to help parents see the harm they can do to their children by not working with their providers. I care enough to try and help other providers see that this job can be easy and enjoyable and that you don't have to be a doormat to entice and keep clients.
This is a very respectable and important job and I care enough to make sure I always keep my financial needs and the emotional stability of myself and the other kids (and parents) as separate issues.
Do I need money? Yes. We all do but that doesn't mean we have to do something that we can't physically, emotionally or legally.
We are SELF employed child care providers. We don't work for anyone other than ourselves. I DO take the requests from parents and their wishes as to how their child is raised into consideration but NEVER will one families wishes/beliefs be allowed to be MORE important than the group as a whole or my own family.
I provide a service. One that comes with emotions, attachments and feelings but that still doesn't mean the business side of this is negotiable.
If I can help a parent out with something that truly doesn't ask more of me than I am willing to give, I will gladly do so.
I've provided free care.
I've waived a late fee or charged less than normal
I've stayed late
I've opened early
I've given treats for nothing
I've done "special"
I HAVE done those things before and I will probably continue to do them. Not because a parent expects it but because I WANT to. But only if it really and truly works for me.
People shouldn't have to lose something in order to do something....kwim?
You shouldn't have to lose pay to be a professional
You shouldn't have to lose time with your family to give it to someone else's
You shouldn't have to feel guilty for not doing something that should be done by a parent
You shouldn't have to bend YOUR rules just to keep a family
You shouldn't have to say ok, when it's not.
This IS a tough job and sadly most providers don't make it.
One thing I do know is the ones who do make it are the ones who realize early on that every parent thinks they are "special" in their own way and you don't have to actually do all that special....you just have to figure out a way to communicate to those families that you care about them and want to build a good relationship but a good relationship goes TWO ways and a good relationship doesn't mean you (the provider) do all the giving while the parent reaps the rewards.
(Stepping down off my soapbox now
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I know at times I come across as cold or uncaring but nothing could be further from the truth. I care. I care a lot.
I care enough to help parents understand what it means to be a part of a group setting, I care enough to help parents see the harm they can do to their children by not working with their providers. I care enough to try and help other providers see that this job can be easy and enjoyable and that you don't have to be a doormat to entice and keep clients.
This is a very respectable and important job and I care enough to make sure I always keep my financial needs and the emotional stability of myself and the other kids (and parents) as separate issues.
Do I need money? Yes. We all do but that doesn't mean we have to do something that we can't physically, emotionally or legally.
We are SELF employed child care providers. We don't work for anyone other than ourselves. I DO take the requests from parents and their wishes as to how their child is raised into consideration but NEVER will one families wishes/beliefs be allowed to be MORE important than the group as a whole or my own family.
I provide a service. One that comes with emotions, attachments and feelings but that still doesn't mean the business side of this is negotiable.
If I can help a parent out with something that truly doesn't ask more of me than I am willing to give, I will gladly do so.
I've provided free care.
I've waived a late fee or charged less than normal
I've stayed late
I've opened early
I've given treats for nothing
I've done "special"
I HAVE done those things before and I will probably continue to do them. Not because a parent expects it but because I WANT to. But only if it really and truly works for me.
People shouldn't have to lose something in order to do something....kwim?
You shouldn't have to lose pay to be a professional
You shouldn't have to lose time with your family to give it to someone else's
You shouldn't have to feel guilty for not doing something that should be done by a parent
You shouldn't have to bend YOUR rules just to keep a family
You shouldn't have to say ok, when it's not.
This IS a tough job and sadly most providers don't make it.
One thing I do know is the ones who do make it are the ones who realize early on that every parent thinks they are "special" in their own way and you don't have to actually do all that special....you just have to figure out a way to communicate to those families that you care about them and want to build a good relationship but a good relationship goes TWO ways and a good relationship doesn't mean you (the provider) do all the giving while the parent reaps the rewards.
(Stepping down off my soapbox now

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