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One of my little ones notified me Friday at pick up that it was going to be her child's last day. She already paid for the month so no issue there. I just looked at that little one...and the tears just came! I'm thinking "Are you kidding me I'm saying goodbye right now" I couldn't stop it. It was on good terms and all...I was just surprised how emotional I was over it. No time to prepare! Has anyone else had this happen or am I just too in love with these kids? I know it's a job but I love them so much!
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Honestly it bothered me more with my first batch of kids. It feels really unfair because people want a provider that will love their kids like their own. But then we're supposed to just turn that off when they leave and never see them again and wonder how they're doing. I care about the kids but I dont get as affected by it because now I just know they're not my kids and they come and go. I care about them but don't love them like my own because they're not.Comment
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This is similar to how I view things as well.
I do not get attached to my DCK's. I enjoy them while they are in care but I KNOW when they come in that they will only be here for a while and then they'll be leaving.
I am pretty up front with my daycare families about the flaw in expecting a provider to love their child as their own so that neither myself nor the parent has any unrealistic expectations.
I think this helps with a lot of area in care. I have very clear boundaries as to what my role and what the parent's role is in the child's life.
I know that comes across as uncaring or cold to some but it is simply how I choose to run my business. I also think it makes it easier for parents too.
Kids come and go. It's part of the business and I accept that as it is.
@Blessed Mom~ I'm sorry the family didn't give you more than a quick notice at pick up. I can see how that would be hard/difficult. Although I don't get attached to my DCK's I do get more than a minute's notice to prepare and say good bye. (((hugs)))Comment
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This is exactly how I feel...in my mind. However, this sudden notification really caught me off guard. I am not a person who is usually moved to tears easily. I usually keep that stuff under wraps but I guess knowing in your mind that they aren't yours and they will move on and then being confronted with it on the spot like that is two different things for me because I was very surprised by my tears and let me just say it was a little more then just a few tears. I had to send mom an apology text, but she totally understood.
I think it would be hard for me to do this job without involving my heart at all. Somewhere in there is a middle road that I clearly thought I had but don't and I need to find it. I have had other kids leave but with some notice it makes it a lot easier. I think I need to put that in my policy...NO LAST MINUTE LEAVING~! THIS PROVIDER CAN'T HANDLE IT! LOL
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Sigh...
My first family let me know last week that they will be moving out of state in July. I've already cried about it more than once. She was my first, and she'll always have a place in my heart. It's also going to be hard on my youngest; they are 9 months apart and have grown up together.
It's a military move, so things could always change.
Hugs.:hug:Comment
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I've had a few that I got really attached to. They are also the ones I have kept in touch with for many years. Those few I can honestly say I do love. Not like my own, but still love them like extended family.
Others....I have teared up saying goodbye, but I am fine before the car is out of sight.
Others......wellllll.......let's just say dancing and fist pumping was included :
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LOL! Thanks everyone for the support! happyfaceI've had a few that I got really attached to. They are also the ones I have kept in touch with for many years. Those few I can honestly say I do love. Not like my own, but still love them like extended family.
Others....I have teared up saying goodbye, but I am fine before the car is out of sight.
Others......wellllll.......let's just say dancing and fist pumping was included ::Comment
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I had siblings leave 3 weeks ago and even though I had 2 months notice I was so sad. I was able to hold it together until they left. Then, I cried for 15 minutes! I felt so bad I didn't hug them or say that I loved them but, I was sick and didnt want to spread my germs! And I wouldve cried if I said goodbye.
Mom sent me a fb request so I can see what they are up to. It makes me smile to see them doing so well in pre school!
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I was a nanny for 6years and grieved like I had lost my own children when I was no longer needed. It was horrible. You can't tell your heart not to love someone. [[[hugs]]]I see little people.Comment
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I had this happen to me recently. The family gave their 30 day notice. They were moving out of state. I had the girl for a long time and I helped her jump so many hurtles.
Well about 2 weeks into their 30day term DCM comes in and says we sold the house this weekend, we are leaving tonight. HUH what, wait, I need time to cope. I broke down right on the spot. It was even worse when the parents came to pick up. I could not let go. I know it was because I didn't get that time to plan the going away party, remind myself that they were leaving and deal with letting go. The family really got worked up too and felt bad, but I knew that I had to just let go. This one hit me hard while others that leave on good terms I usually have that 30 days to prepare for their departure.Comment
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I was a live in Nanny for 12 years. It broke my heart when i left to get married. Leaving my youngest was the hardest thing ive ever done. We are all still close and they think of me as their mommaComment
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