Well My Mom Says..........................

[melilley]

Dcd dropped off and not a word was said.
Dcd said see you this evening so I'm assuming he will be picking up too.

Good, I hope she thinks about what she said and hope she's too embarrassed to face you today.

[daycare]

Good, I hope she thinks about what she said and hope she's too embarrassed to face you today.

me too because I can't help but be mad about it.......

[lovemykidstoo]

Wow this is crazy. I was mad at first and then cracking up by the end of the thread. So glad that you said those things to her. That is hilarious! I would have loved to see her face!!!! Does dad usually drop off/ pick up or does mom? She should be extremely embarrassed.

[daycare]

Wow this is crazy. I was mad at first and then cracking up by the end of the thread. So glad that you said those things to her. That is hilarious! I would have loved to see her face!!!! Does dad usually drop off/ pick up or does mom? She should be extremely embarrassed.

dcm usually always picks up. in 3 years I think maybe 2 times dad has picked up. so I am just assuming that DCM is embarrassed because her kid sold her out...

my assts were teasing me all day today just making jokes.

[Josiegirl]

I would have been livid. And speechless. And hard-pressed to keep them. But you deserve an award for how you've handled it. Also, I believe you deserve a huge raise, seeing as how you're so underprivileged and underfed.
Was dcb listening as you told dcm all the things he said? Wonder what was said to him about the whole thing? Ooh I detest snobby rich people.

[daycare]

I would have been livid. And speechless. And hard-pressed to keep them. But you deserve an award for how you've handled it. Also, I believe you deserve a huge raise, seeing as how you're so underprivileged and underfed.
Was dcb listening as you told dcm all the things he said? Wonder what was said to him about the whole thing? Ooh I detest snobby rich people.

I do too. I can't stand people who have money and feel the need to rub it other peoples faces or feel that they are above everyone else. I will admit though that I really thought that this family was not like this. BUT now that dck can talk and retell stories I have been proven wrong. Now I wonder what else has been said in the past that the kid was never able to retell to anyone......

funny that the kid sold her out and I hope that she feels bad. At least if she feels bad about it I will know she has some sense of morals and respect......

[lovemykidstoo]

dcm usually always picks up. in 3 years I think maybe 2 times dad has picked up. so I am just assuming that DCM is embarrassed because her kid sold her out...

my assts were teasing me all day today just making jokes.

That is so funny that she's got such egg on her face that she can't come to your house. She should be so ashamed. You could have a lot of fun with this!!!

[Laurel]

I would have been livid. And speechless. And hard-pressed to keep them. But you deserve an award for how you've handled it. Also, I believe you deserve a huge raise, seeing as how you're so underprivileged and underfed.
Was dcb listening as you told dcm all the things he said? Wonder what was said to him about the whole thing? Ooh I detest snobby rich people.

What a great idea! Tell them she is going to raise their rates because on her current salary she can't afford pie ingredients. ::

Laurel

[Cradle2crayons]

I would have been livid. And speechless. And hard-pressed to keep them. But you deserve an award for how you've handled it. Also, I believe you deserve a huge raise, seeing as how you're so underprivileged and underfed.
Was dcb listening as you told dcm all the things he said? Wonder what was said to him about the whole thing? Ooh I detest snobby rich people.

I absolutely agree. You need a DEFINATELY raise...since you are all skinny and stuff ... Maybe hen you could afford pie??


Kids say some monster things but here's no way the kid made that up. I have a six year old in care and I can trust what he says. Even though his mom constantly lies to cover up.

[BABYLUVER21]

I would not be very happy with someone looking at me as if I were 'less than.' They signed up with you so obviously they know that your care isn't lacking.

That being said, they also probably don't respect what you do enough to realize you deserve better pay!

I had a pretty crappy-in-comparison home to many of the military 'snob' moms. They always signed up with me but decided that my house was too ugly and eventually left for a 'prettier' home. I kept it clean and safe so IDK what their problem was but it was really irritating. I felt like I was just the "in between' daycare until they found someone just like them.

Now I moved to a much nicer house, still not nice 'enough' for most people, and now I get calls some from the same parents who dismissed me before.


The problem? I don't do child care now

[Blackcat31]

Personally, I wouldn't waste a single second worrying about what someone else thought of me.

Their opinion of me is none of my business.

If they feel superior or in a higher pay class or just better than me over all, then good for them.

If that's what it takes for them to get through life, then I am pretty sure I know which one of us has the problem.

I wouldn't waste time stressing over something as silly as this.

If the daycare boy made a comment during the day such as the one in original post, I would have just said that we don't talk about others like that and left it at that.

If his mother is that shallow I highly doubt there is anything you can do to change her. You can control what is and isn't said in your house but that's about it.

Talking with mom, calling her out, embarrassing her etc are all things that may make you feel better for the moment but unless it actually changes her thought process, I see no point in stooping to her level.

Just my two cents.

[Michael]

I have strong feelings about this family. This is not only snobbish, it is negative and destructive to be teaching such bad behavior to a child.

I've read about children in Tijuana who's playground is the local dump, but this kids where happy. It was their state of mind to cherish. They didn't need someone to contaminate their happiness with comparisons of what they didn't have.

I also know people that are worth hundreds of millions that are snobs. Deep down they are really not happy. Even if they had a billion dollars they would still be the same negative "farce".

Happiness and a positive state of mind is priceless. A parent that teaches their child empathy and kindness is constructing a future positive "force". A parent that teaches their kids that material things make them better is so destructive to the maturity of their children. They will have a warped view of reality as they grow.

It's one thing to say to a child; "be appreciative for what you have" then to say "look how good we are and how bad they are".

I would have sat that parent down and let them know how they were hurting their child and the results of what they have taught them.

[daycare]

all joking aside, this is a very sad situation. Adults often don't realize the damage they do to their children by the negative things that they do or say in front of their children.

Kind of like when people make jokes about race, religion, and etc. It's really no different. It's not appropriate to talk about, especially in front of young forming minds that don't know any better.

While what I said to the mom may have been to make me feel better, it was my way of letting her know that her child is repeating what she is saying. I didn't need to say anymore or play games with it. If she is embarrassed about it, that is her problem. I have no intentions of trying to change her, but if everyone in her life just stands back and continues to be her doormat, perhaps she will never know the people she is hurting and the harm that she is doing to her children. My saying what I did could also have zero impact on her as well and that's ok too.

I am human and when people say negative things about me, it does upset me. Will I lose sleep over it, of course not, but it did bother me that this mother feels the need to put me down, especially in front of her kid. It really shows her child that she has no respect for me or for his friends that go to school here too.

Unfortunately, this type of attitude is one that I am all too familiar with having lived in an area where majority of the people think and act this way.
I am sure Michael can relate being that he lives close to where I just moved from.

All that I can do is make sure that this child knows that he can't say hurtful things to anyone, including me. I don't plan to bring this up again to this mother. Should she feel the need to bring it up, I will kindly shut it down.