Spin Off Of Daycare Is So Expensive

[godiva83]

People sometimes just have no class, tact, or know when to mind their business.

Thankfully my hubby is the major bread winner and we live in a very modest home but we are able to afford other luxuries like vacations, and ppl always feel the need to make a remark.
"If I didn't have to pay for daycare I could meet you guys on the beach."
Or
"It's pay day guess you get to go shopping again!"

Umm really

[melilley]

People sometimes just have no class, tact, or know when to mind their business.

Thankfully my hubby is the major bread winner and we live in a very modest home but we are able to afford other luxuries like vacations, and ppl always feel the need to make a remark.
"If I didn't have to pay for daycare I could meet you guys on the beach."
Or
"It's pay day guess you get to go shopping again!"

Umm really

I really don't think that people think of the other people, like dh's or whoever you live with, and that they make money too.
Maybe that's why we have or do things, because I'm definitely not rich making money from dc...::

[safechner]

I have not had parents say to me directly that dc is too expensive but I have gotten comments in a different way.

~We have been replacing the flooring in our house, taking out the carpet and putting down wood laminate. We are doing the work ourselves and getting inexpensive laminate at Costco, so while it is still expensive it's not as if we hired someone to come put real wood in or anything.

But we also had to get a new car because I had an accident on the freeway and our Suburban was totaled. Since it was paid for so we only had liability insurance on it and only got $2000 when we sold it for parts! We bought a new car but got a used Honda!

My dcparents have sweet houses and nice cars but for some reason I am overpaid if I have nice things.

I lost some weight and to reward myself bought a pair of *** boots and a Northface jacket but I feel like I don't want the dcparents to see me wear any name brand stuff "that they paid for!"

You work hard so you deserve to get a nice things. It is none of their business. I worked 12 years and we always buy name brands clothes, shoes, etc.... We also buy a brand new vehicles all the time. I dont care what parents think of us. The parents have jobs and buy whatever they want. It is the same things... About two weeks ago, my husband bought a used Toyota Sequoia for the first time for me. I dont want a used one and he knew I refused to buy a used vehicle but he did. I originally plan to buy a brand new Toyota Sequoia next year because I am not rushed on anything and there is nothing wrong with my jeep. We need a bigger vehicle since we now have 3 kids. He is so excited but I don't. He was mad at me because I dont feel excited to drive that because it is not brand new to me. He keeps tell me that it looks like a brand new and it is perfect condition inside and outside of vehicle. He also argued with me about the price. He said $13,000 is a best deal with low miles that he bought from individual than $58, 000 on a brand new. Oh well, that is why I prefer brand new and name brand on everything. I had parents never said any words to me at all.

Enjoy your money and whatever you want. Not to worry about the parents think. happyface

[godiva83]

Oh man if I was rich off of daycare WOULD LOVE IT!!
Nobody has ever said, " I do daycare because of the GREAT PAY."

I wish every parent would sit down before they complain about cost and calculate the hourly wage they are paying.

For example you pay $40/day and your day consists of 8hrs. That is only
$5/hr doing a rewarding but HARD TAXING job at times.

That $5/hr doesn't include any taxes, benefits, insurance, operating fees, CPP (Canada pension plan) ect

So if you account for all of that I am now working for $3.5/hr

Excuse me while I roll in the dough I'm making off my daycare families

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Whatevah to the naysayers. I would think of something sassy to say back and then smile.

Enjoy your belongings.

[Leigh]

People sometimes just have no class, tact, or know when to mind their business.

Thankfully my hubby is the major bread winner and we live in a very modest home but we are able to afford other luxuries like vacations, and ppl always feel the need to make a remark.
"If I didn't have to pay for daycare I could meet you guys on the beach."
Or
"It's pay day guess you get to go shopping again!"

Umm really

Um, yes, I AM going shopping today-for GROCERIES to feed to YOUR kids.

[countrymom]

I get other comments, not daycare related. Like, how can I afford to go on vacation with 4 kids all the time. How can I afford all the activities for them.

well, I watch my money, my house is almost paid off and I don't do things to impress people and I don't own a gazillion credit cards. Oh, I do try to pay cash for things. But its comments like this that drive me crazy, I guess I just have more common sense than some of the people out there.

[daycare]

funny you should say this. I was just talking to my hubby about it.

I was nominated for an award for a program I run here and some of my dcf would be there among many members of my community. I told my husband I have to change my purse and watch what I wear, I don't want them to think that I am sitting pretty rolling in DC cash.

I do have a lot of nice things, but when my husband was employed, he made great money and spolied me rotten. ahhhh those were the days....

[KidGrind]

I’ve heard from DCPs, “Oh it must be nice to drive a ***.”

My reply, “It sure is.”

[Leigh]

I’ve heard from DCPs, “Oh it must be nice to drive a ***.”

My reply, “It sure is.”

I have a DCP who has made comments about my SUV, too. I agree with them that it was expensive, but it is what I required to drive kids on field trips. I point to the car in my driveway that is 12 years old and was my car BEFORE I had to have a bigger one and that gets 2.5 times the gas mileage (and 1/3 the insurance premium)...just another daycare expense that parents don't consider.

[littlemissmuffet]

Wow, I'd have NO problem terming a parent on the spot for talking to me the way that some of the parents have talked to you guys.

I don't care if a parent is paying me - I more than EARNED that pay (which IMO is no where near the amount I actually should get for the job I do) so I will be damned if a parent would comment about where that money is going. I don't tolerate disrespect like that, certainly not in my own home - that *I* paid for.

[blandino]

Wow, I'd have NO problem terming a parent on the spot for talking to me the way that some of the parents have talked to you guys.

I don't care if a parent is paying me - I more than EARNED that pay (which IMO is no where near the amount I actually should get for the job I do) so I will be damned if a parent would comment about where that money is going. I don't tolerate disrespect like that, certainly not in my own home - that *I* paid for.

ABSOLUTELY ! What I charge is very little for the actual work I do. I work (am open) 52.5 hours a week + 30 min of cleaning after close each day + grocery shopping time + lesson planning time. I work about 59 hours a week. So almost 20 more (or two work days) more than most of my clients. I would be damned if I allowed anyone to tell me I charge a lot. I would take it to mean I charge more than I work/am worth - and those would be fighting words.

I make no qualms about the amount of money I make, considering I work hard for it.

Nannyde, had a great post about why people feel that daycare cost is high. I can't remember all the points, but one was that they don't see it as work because it is their child that they love and that kind of blinds them from seeing the amount of work it actually is. Another point is that we are home anyway, so we are just basically getting bonus money for staying home (NOT the way I look at it, but the way some DCP think). There were a lot of other good points. Forgive me if I am not doing your points justice Nannyde. They were really really eye opening for me.

Parents are so quick to point out that they could never do my job, but are also very quick to complain about the cost.

[misslori50]

Its so frustrating to have a parent resent having to pay you to watch their children. I know one of my parents resents it. Im sorry you are having to work for 10$ and hour and have to pay me. Its not my fault you are getting a divorce. The only reason I do this is to help my family not be so poor.

[Annalee]

Same here! Just last week one of my dcp let me know she was expecting child number 3...and could she have a discount to avoid being broke. I do not give discounts for siblings and they just don't get it.....Having these children is a choice......accountability/responsibility go hand in hand.

[Unregistered]

I always get jabs about how much I make. A few years back I raised my fee from $140 to $150 a week, I had a mom complain because the bank machine only gives 20 dollar bills......I told her that her fee could be $160 if it made it easier....that put a zipper on that.
I also recently had a parent say to me "no one makes as much money as you!" so I said "I guess they choose the wrong profession"
Yes, I can make great money, but there are a lot of expenses parents don't know (or choose to ignore) about.....but why do we have to address it at all??? Do they discuss what their friends and co-workers make? I think not!