advise?

[BentleysBands]

looking for some advice or am i just over reacting?

in all the years i have never had this problem so any adivce is appreciated.

my screamer (3m dcg) comes at 630a ...w/in 10mins she starts it first question i always ask parents is when baby ate last so i know and how they slept, etc...well this whole week mom and dad have 'overslept' she says and that "A" is starving...so i kindly tell her yesterday that our mornings have been very hectic since i'm not having to console a screaming , hungry THEN tired baby when IMO she should be fed before coming. esp. since they drive almost 25mins to me...so my question is how do you feel about babies arriving hungry? she IS dry and changed clothes so why not just feed?? not sure what to do as my stress level is diminishing each morning from this child helppp

[DancingQueen]

so baby is 3 months old - they've woken her, changed her diaper and clothes and put her in the car for a 25 minute drive with no food?

That is just bizzare - when was the last time baby would have eaten? I mean, if baby woke up just a couple hours earlier for a feeding I *might* understand that - but even then - not really getting it.

[BentleysBands]

baby sleeps thru night they say. she normally eats at 5a give or take. but 'they have overslept' i guess baby too idk....yeah i woudl understand if she ate at 2-3a and was hungry..

[Jewels]

I think I would just have a bottle ready for her when she arrived, take her and start feeding her, I think there were times when my son was a baby and in daycare that I brought him needing a bottle, granted my daycare was 2 houses away, but not everyday, If I had the time to feed him I did, But I liked to let him sleep as long as he could, and he was never screaming. she might have a job where she could get in trouble for being late, and she just gets to rushed and stressed in the morning, and if the baby isnt screaming until after she arrives at your house, the mom probably assumes shes okay, and the baby probably sleeps on the 25 minute ride, I have a mom whos boss is not understanding of her being even a little late, so she used to bring her little one, needing a bottle, so I always had one sitting on the counter nice and warm, and I would take her right away and feed her, and I liked that, because then she was good, through me getting everyone else breakfast. I guess for me, if her baby isnt screaming right when she wakes up, and screaming the whole way to your house, I dont see the big deal, its still so early.

[mac60]

Some parents just don't get it. I ended up putting in my handbook that "babies need to be fed their first bottle of the day before arrival", because I had a 10 mo old, and morning after morning he would come in screaming, and mom would say.....when I pick him up he stops crying, when I put him down he starts again......the baby was hungry. Mornings at drop off are extremely busy here. There is absolutely no reason why mom can't get up 15 min earlier and give the infant a bottle. I never as a mom would of thought about taking my baby out of the house before feeding them. You will pry have to speak up. There is simply no reason for not feeding that infant before taking them out of the house except for pure laziness on parents part.

[Jewels]

I', Im sorry you are such harsh judges of parents my god, This is not neglect, there is no abuse going on, was I neglecting my son, by walking him down 2 houses before giving him his morning bottle, when he JUST woke up? Is it that hectic at 6:30am? I'm sorry but I would rather my baby sleep more in the morning, than waking him up to make sure he gets a bottle before I take him to daycare, so I dont have to put the provider out, and make them give the baby a bottle, lets always make sure its the easiest on the provider, I"m sure most moms would much rather have an extra hour in the morning, to stay home and feed and rock their baby, but they have to work to make sure their babies have diapers and food and a place to sleep, not to mention pay us, so we can feed our kids and have a place to live. So many of you say you have no desire to wake up earlier, you love your sleep, these moms with babies most are still waking up through the night, and it is hard to drag yourself out of bed, baby is sleeping thank god, so you can get yourself ready, lets hit snooze a few times because who doesnt, take a shower get makeup on, iron clothes if you have to, they leave their house, so they have to be more presentable, can't be late, and this mom even says usually the baby gets a bottle at 5am. Get the crown off the heads already, your not all that perfect.

[BentleysBands]

I', Im sorry you are such harsh judges of parents my god, This is not neglect, there is no abuse going on, was I neglecting my son, by walking him down 2 houses before giving him his morning bottle, when he JUST woke up? Is it that hectic at 6:30am? I'm sorry but I would rather my baby sleep more in the morning, than waking him up to make sure he gets a bottle before I take him to daycare, so I dont have to put the provider out, and make them give the baby a bottle, lets always make sure its the easiest on the provider, I"m sure most moms would much rather have an extra hour in the morning, to stay home and feed and rock their baby, but they have to work to make sure their babies have diapers and food and a place to sleep, not to mention pay us, so we can feed our kids and have a place to live. So many of you say you have no desire to wake up earlier, you love your sleep, these moms with babies most are still waking up through the night, and it is hard to drag yourself out of bed, baby is sleeping thank god, so you can get yourself ready, lets hit snooze a few times because who doesnt, take a shower get makeup on, iron clothes if you have to, they leave their house, so they have to be more presentable, can't be late, and this mom even says usually the baby gets a bottle at 5am. Get the crown off the heads already, your not all that perfect.

WOW...this was not called for. I just asked for advice not a mean response. we are all entitled to our opinions...or so i thought...If you do not have anything nice, keep your mouth closed is my motto

[Jewels]

I wasnt really meaning that towards you bentleybands

[MN Mom]

I don't have a problem feeding babies in the AM. I do not like feeding the SA kids who never want the cereal I have on hand. My kids eat pretty healthy cereals most of the time; Raisin Bran Crunch, Cheerios, Kashi U, Kashi Strawberry Fields and another Kashi one with blueberries. My SA day care kids do not like cereal unless it's teeming with sugar, and do nothing but complain about what I have in stock. Those are the days I just give them toast, jelly and juice and tell them they have to wait for snack/lunch if they don't like what I have.

[missnikki]

Since we are all differring in our opinion on this, it's obvious that same goes for parents. Some may think it's OK, some would never do that. SO, what you would need to do is: if it bothers you, have a talk with mom and ask for what you want to have happen. Keep the communication open and honest, and she will probably appreciate it. If it doesn't bother you, you could try to feed the baby once she gets there, as a pp said. Some topics aren't too sensitive in nature to discuss freely, this is one I think.

[BentleysBands]

Since we are all differring in our opinion on this, it's obvious that same goes for parents. Some may think it's OK, some would never do that. SO, what you would need to do is: if it bothers you, have a talk with mom and ask for what you want to have happen. Keep the communication open and honest, and she will probably appreciate it. If it doesn't bother you, you could try to feed the baby once she gets there, as a pp said. Some topics aren't too sensitive in nature to discuss freely, this is one I think.

I will talk with her tonight and see if we can figure it out thanks!

[Blackcat31]

I have this issue sometimes too, depending on how crazy our mornings get. The baby I have though comes with a big sister so I sometimes have her hold the baby's bottle until I am free to do so. Some of my other SA girls LOVE helping out so I always have an extra hand. Mom of baby is very laid back and says things like "Looks like I will have lots of babysitters to choose from when I need one!" The baby seems to love all eyes on him as well so it is a win-win situation for all. I don't know if that solution is possible with your infant being so young, I'd be too nervous to allow the other kids to feed. I feel for you though, it is tough to be overwhelmed IMMEDIATELY in the a.m. makes the day seem longer.

[katie]

My dcb is 5 months. His mom lives 2 streets over. She brings him at 8:45 so it's not like the crack of dawn. He is never fed. He starts screaming the second she leaves. He hasn't eaten since the night before. She had the nerve to tell me, "Could you make sure he is fed before he leaves." really?

[mac60]

I wasnt really meaning that towards you bentleybands

Pry was meant for me, which is par for the course here.

I will say, that my own two kids went to daycare for 8 years. I was up at 4:30 each and every morning to get myself ready for work, got my children up at 5:30 to hold and feed them before we left the house to drop them off at daycare at 6:30. I never would of thought about leaving my home and taking them out of the house without changing them and feeding them. It never happened. It was my responsibility as a parent, not the responsibility of the daycare.

[Live and Learn]

Parents need to feed their own kiddos breakfast everyday. No matter what. I understand that parents need to get to work on time...hey all of us moms are super busy...that is no excuse. parents should set their alarms for a half hour earlier wake their child up and feed them. A hungry baby is way worse off than a baby who got a half hour less sleep.
I would make it clear with the parents that baby has first bottle before arrival at your house.