Family Matter Or Daycare Issue?

[Unregistered]

Okay, try to stay with me:

16 year old son of day care provider is babysitting two siblings outside of daycare hours. He has sex with gf with siblings in room- apparently under blanket, but older sibling (13) is aware of what happens and later tells a friend's dad (who is not a daycare parent). This dad is livid, writes provider very nasty letter, claims she is running a sex den. Provider didn't know the event had occured, thanks parent for the letter, says she's handling it as a family matter. He is not satisfied, notifies siblings' schools, takes it upon himself to make it a personal mission to close her daycare. She ends up having to get a restraining order against him. Provider notifies daycare parents of situation, they understand and see it as a family issue, feel that their kids are not in danger. Licensing has been notified by the angry parent, they've scheduled a visit.

Should the provider be worried? As a parent, would you keep your kids in the daycare? Thoughts?

[SSWonders]

In my opinion it's a family matter. I understand why they dad would be upset that it happened with his children in the room. But it's not like he was molesting one of the kids. He made a poor decision on where to do his thing, but that has nothing to do with what's doing on at the provider's home. Nor was the provider involved in what happened. It really had nothing to do with her.

[Unregistered]

Sorry, wasn't clear.

It was the provider's 16 year old son. Father I mentioned is just a family friend, no relation at all. His kids were not in room.

[SSWonders]

I understood that the 16 year old was provider's son. Still didn't happen on site so I don't think it should affect that provider's business. Does this friend have children in the daycare?

[Unregistered]

oh, sorry. no, he has no children there.

I agree, it's a family issue. Just curious what others think and wondering if she should be worried.

[Willow]

oh, sorry. no, he has no children there.

I agree, it's a family issue. Just curious what others think and wondering if she should be worried.

I would be.

I agree it's a family issue but anything can affect ones reputation. I don't think licensing could say or do squat about it, but if the dad is nuts enough he could spread rumor enough to do lasting damage unfortunately.

[Play Care]

Wait a minute - so essentially a 16 year old was babysitting at another person's home, had sex with his girlfriend while there (in front of the kids?! ) and because mom happens to be a child care provider, another parent feels she should be run out of business?

Did I understand that?

[MNMommy2]

Wait a minute - so essentially a 16 year old was babysitting at another person's home, had sex with his girlfriend while there (in front of the kids?! ) and because mom happens to be a child care provider, another parent feels she should be run out of business?

Did I understand that?

I think it is saying the 16 yo was babysitting his OWN siblings in his OWN house, but not during daycare house. Proceeds to have sex with girlfriend with other kids in the room (why? that is pretty perverted). The 16 year old's 13 yo brother tells a friends dad, whose kids are not in care at all, but is disturbed by it.

I would say it is none of this guy's business, especially since he has no kids in care there. A 16 yo making a REALLY disgusting choice does not equal a sex den.

[TwinKristi]

I think it is saying the 16 yo was babysitting his OWN siblings in his OWN house, but not during daycare house. Proceeds to have sex with girlfriend with other kids in the room (why? that is pretty perverted). The 16 year old's 13 yo brother tells a friends dad, whose kids are not in care at all, but is disturbed by it.

I would say it is none of this guy's business, especially since he has no kids in care there. A 16 yo making a REALLY disgusting choice does not equal a sex den.

Yep this! I have 16yr olds.... <gag>

[Play Care]

I think it is saying the 16 yo was babysitting his OWN siblings in his OWN house, but not during daycare house. Proceeds to have sex with girlfriend with other kids in the room (why? that is pretty perverted). The 16 year old's 13 yo brother tells a friends dad, whose kids are not in care at all, but is disturbed by it.

I would say it is none of this guy's business, especially since he has no kids in care there. A 16 yo making a REALLY disgusting choice does not equal a sex den.

Ahhhh, now I understand!

This was not during work hours and no dck's were present. Family issue, period.

[KidGrind]

I think it could develop into a legal issue.

I don't know which state it took place or the age of the girlfriend and if she is of legal age to consent.

Frankly I think at this point it's a family issue. If my child was in her care I'd would remove them immediately.

[Unregistered]

good point, no one has mentioned anything about the girl. Wonder if her parents are aware of the issue. Messy, messy situation- stupid, stupid kid!

[sharlan]

IMHO, this is a personal family matter. This is between the provider, her son, the girl, and the girl's parents. No one else needs to get involved.

Teenaged boys don't think much beyond their penises. As the mother of that boy, I would be beyond upset with him. First he had sex, probably unprotected sex with his teenaged gf in the home. Second, he did it in front of his siblings (great lack of respect, there). Millions of teenagers have sex every day. I'm not saying that it's right or wrong, just that it's a fact of life and it happens.

As the mother of the girl, I wouldn't be too thrilled, either. It sounds like the girl was a willing participant. After I got done ranting and raving, we'd be off to the dr to get bc pills.

As a daycare parent, it really is NONE of my business. This didn't happen during daycare hours. Daycare children were not present. This boy is not left in charge of daycare kids (let's just assume he's not). Drugs nor alcohol were involved.

The man involved did the right thing by notifying the provider of what took place. Now, he needs to mind his own business and butt out. He doesn't have children involved.

[sharlan]

I think it could develop into a legal issue.

I don't know which state it took place or the age of the girlfriend and if she is of legal age to consent.

Frankly I think at this point it's a family issue. If my child was in her care I'd would remove them immediately.

Just curious, why?

[renodeb]

Totally a family matter! I have a 17 year old son who has a gf. Her son should of used better judgment to begin with. I dont really see why it should reflect on her dc. To be honest I would be more worried about the fact that there having sex at all! Well put sharlan, I agree but the guy didnt need to make such a stink about it. Threatening her dc and all.
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