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Have any of you every had a kid dropped off dirty? I have this one daycare girl that the parents I am sure not taking her baths. She has had this ink mark on her upper thigh since Monday. Today she has on the same clothes as yesterday, and this is not the first time. I just gave her a bath and put her on my daughters clothes because I did not want to touch her.
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I haven't really had a problem with them being dropped off dirty, but when I was watching my nephew there would be at least 2 days out of the week he would come in the same clothes he wore the previous day! It was b/c his dad was in charge of getting all of the kids ready in the morning, and he would use the excuse of "He got himself dressed this morning. I didn't notice it was the same clothes." He was 4, which is the appropriate age to dress himself; but still! Be a parent here! When my SIL would pick him up and see the clothes he was wearing, she would always be sooo mad! -
One time yes. I had 2 brothers that would smell like pee. Even their extra change of clothes smelled like it. I felt bad because like you I did not want to touch them. Did you get the ink mark off in the bath? Sometimes those can stick around, but considering she has on the same clothes she probably did not have a bath.
The only reason I ask about the ink mark is that sometimes my kids will get something on them that just won't come off. For example, my son has had red in his hair now for 3 weeks. It was crazy hair day at school, I sprayed it in and it just won't come out. The same spray comes out of the rest of my families hair. I just didn't know, it would stain his white blond hair. I wonder sometimes if the preschool thinks that I don't bathe him enough.:confused:Comment
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Hello Ladies,
Yes the dad does dress her that is probably the problem...he probably has not clue. The ink did come off of her thigh when I took her a bath. I feel bad because she always wants me to hold her and I do but I don't want to because I feel she is dirty.
Some of the things she wears looks dingy with pellets on tights and sweats they are so disgusting they need to be burned.Comment
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are the parents this way also? is there a money or water service issue? or are the parents well groomed and just not grooming their kids?Comment
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I have no advice but this is so sad. Thrift stores and garage sales have plenty of nice clothes! I dont know what I would say to the parents...maybe say she spilled something on them and they need to be washed??
I'm not saying you should but I knwo what I would do is wash her clothes myself. Even though it isnt my job, its just another way I can bless someone else..them or their child, for whatever reason they are not.Comment
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The mom looks nice the dad is a mess. I just figure they think because she is going to a home daycare it doesn't matter how she looks. she has even worn dirty socks here
I don't think they have money problems, both parents work they pay on time never complain about paying for days she is not here or holidays.
Sometimes I think parents get so caught up in their life they don't make time for their children she is a bit of a hard one to handle, cries a lot, hits bites, starving for attention.Comment
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Before I got licensed I was watching a family of 4 kids at their home. The home was disgustingly filthy - food everywhere, dirty and clean clothes all over the floor, floor nasty, etc. Add to that the kids were always sick - runny, snotty noses all the time, green snot crusted on their faces, etc. So one day I go over there and the youngest boy (18 mos) was in bed for afternoon nap. He got up shortly after and he comes out in only a diaper (it was December in MI, and very cold in the house, and he was just a little guy), crusted everywhere with snot, and holding a pb sandwhich smushed in his little hand. He was so disgusting that I didn't want to touch him, but I felt so sorry for him! I gave him a bath, to warm him and clean him without having to scrub him, but couldn't find a clean towel or clean clothes to put on him!! Of course, it was dad who took care of the kids in the mornings - mom worked full time and went to school full time and just didn't have time to do everything. Dad worked full time, but certainly could have picked up a vacuum once in a while, or throw a load of wash in the washer!!Comment
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I have a full-timer with this issue too. I make a game every week of counting how many days he has on the same shirt and/or pants, and whether they've been washed. My running tally was four days with the same dried food stain he got from spilling lunch on Monday
. Thing is, he has awesome parents. They love him to bits, they make good money, they always pay on time, they bring random gift cards to thank me for doing a good job, if one has a day off, they keep him home and still pay, etc., etc. I think clean clothes or even wearing different clothes each day, just may not be that important to them. And really, wearing clean or different clothes each day is a cultural standard that really isn't that important in the grand scheme of things. Same as bathing every day. For years and years, my own 3 kids got baths every night. Then I realized that they weren't actually dirty every day, so we cut it down a bit. Now, as they get older, of course we'll have to go to daily showers (as they approach the ripe teenage years), but in the meantime, we're saving a TON of money by bathing them only when they actually need it.
Point is, how are these parents in other areas? Are they "good" parents in other ways?Comment
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I would tell the parents that if they do not clean her and put her in clean clothes that you will be contacting social services and reporting neglect. Then if she shows up dirty again call and report them. Her not being clean could mean that there is more going on at home than you know and maybe they need the help of social services.Celebrate! :
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I wouldn't mind it as long as they aren't dirty, but if the clothes have food stains and are crusty? Gross.
Not to threadjack, but do parents ever get upset by a dcp bathing their child w/o permission? I know it's not much different than changing a diaper, but I also know how paranoid some parents can be... Not trying to stir up trouble, just curious.Comment
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I have one girl that comes stinky and has dirty clothes on a lot..her mom claims she is too busy to get the laundry done.Comment
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i love friday night because my kids don't have school on saturday and i don't feel like messing with bathtime! there's nothing wrong with skipping a bath if a kid's not dirty - like if they fell asleep before you got them in there or WHATEVER. i do find it odd though when kids wear the same clothes. i'm a nut about clothes - so much that i find new ones they never wore before they outgrew them and there are clothes in every room of the house. but i knew a dc family once whose son always wore the same clothes! he was clean and his clothes seemed clean - and they made PLENTY of money - way more than me, but he would wear the same damn 2-3 outfits OVER and OVER and OVER. i just thought it was super weird. then again, i thought - my laundry and clothing situation might not be such a nightmare if i weren't a clothes hoarder and could just get rid of them all except 2-3 outfits like this guy!I have a full-timer with this issue too. I make a game every week of counting how many days he has on the same shirt and/or pants, and whether they've been washed. My running tally was four days with the same dried food stain he got from spilling lunch on Monday. Thing is, he has awesome parents. They love him to bits, they make good money, they always pay on time, they bring random gift cards to thank me for doing a good job, if one has a day off, they keep him home and still pay, etc., etc. I think clean clothes or even wearing different clothes each day, just may not be that important to them. And really, wearing clean or different clothes each day is a cultural standard that really isn't that important in the grand scheme of things. Same as bathing every day. For years and years, my own 3 kids got baths every night. Then I realized that they weren't actually dirty every day, so we cut it down a bit. Now, as they get older, of course we'll have to go to daily showers (as they approach the ripe teenage years), but in the meantime, we're saving a TON of money by bathing them only when they actually need it.
Point is, how are these parents in other areas? Are they "good" parents in other ways?Comment
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you're right about the ink. i've had to tell my kid's daycare teachers before, "i gave them a bath, but that ink will NOT come off!" just bc i knew they'd wonder like this poster is wondering. same thing with temporary tattoos - UGH! i hate those things cus i know ppl have to think my kids don't bathe, but i still stick 'em on there every time.Comment
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I have the same issue
I have 2 boys (brothers) that have not had a bath in a week. The mom goes and gets her hair done regularly and is always buying herself new clothes. These boys come in dirty and in clothes either way too big or way too small. The youngest he's 3 1/2 has had the same ewwy messy gunk in his ears for over a week. I finally asked him yesterday if he had a bath last night. He said not since our pumpkin trip. That was on the 15th. The older boy 4 1/2 came in with clothes on that was small enough to fit a newborn. I said I don't want to see those clothes on him again, he looks like an orphan child. Mom said well they dress themselves. I said that's all fine and dandy, but hey ya know what SUPERVISE them! So if they come in today without a bath I am clearly gonna say something to the mom. Good luck with yours.
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