2y Old Behavior - Beside Redirect What Works?

[WImom]

What do you do besides redirect for 2y old behavior?

Mainly when the child is continuing to bother the older kids and I've tried redirecting and that isn't working. Or he is hitting kids with toys or throwing toys.

I did have a supergate BUT he was just throwing everything out, trying to climb it and he takes all his clothes off when he's done doing that.

I'm just trying to figure out what else I can do....I feel like I'm at a loss.

This morning he threw markers so he was then done with the markers and I had him wipe up the marker mess he mad by throwing them since the cap was off.

He was hitting kids this morning with a bucket so he had to go to the table with books after I talked to him about it once and he kept doing it. When ever I have him at the table though he either wrecks the books (He know only has access to those two books he wrecked) or what ever I give him or he picks up his chair or climbs under the table.

[Soccermom]

What do you do besides redirect for 2y old behavior?

Mainly when the child is continuing to bother the older kids and I've tried redirecting and that isn't working. Or he is hitting kids with toys or throwing toys.

I did have a supergate BUT he was just throwing everything out, trying to climb it and he takes all his clothes off when he's done doing that.

I'm just trying to figure out what else I can do....I feel like I'm at a loss.

This morning he threw markers so he was then done with the markers and I had him wipe up the marker mess he mad by throwing them since the cap was off.

He was hitting kids this morning with a bucket so he had to go to the table with books after I talked to him about it once and he kept doing it. When ever I have him at the table though he either wrecks the books (He know only has access to those two books he wrecked) or what ever I give him or he picks up his chair or climbs under the table.

I am dealing with this same issue! I am clueless. Time outs don't work, redirecting doesn't work, they just in general could care less what I say.

I am considering setting up an enclosed play area where I can stick one of them when they need to play alone for a bit to save my sanity. I am hoping it might help. I think as long as it is big enough with some decent toys and books to look at, it should be okay. I could also pop in both toddlers when I want to do an activity with the older kids.

[caregiver]

I'm also dealing with two 2 yr old dcg's myself and also am at a loss. They fight,take toys away from each other, one is into hitting, so I have had to deal with that issue, the other one says "mine" all the time and thinks all the toys are hers. The one 2 yr old won't help pick up toys when asked, she will just stand there and give you this stare,like she is saying"I don't have to do that". Time outs also do not work with them, so I am at a loss on how to discipline them. I know that some of this is typical for a 2 yr old behavior, but it is so hard when they just will not listen to you.
I have had to take toys away that they are not playing with nicely and they can get them back when they can behave, taken the little table out of the play room as they keep trying to sit on it, have taken the little chairs away and put them in another room as they were standing on them and I was afraid they were going to fall. My one rocking chair that I have in the playroom for me to sit on, they keep taking the chair pad off when I go out of room to go use the bathroom. Would love some suggestions also on how to handle these kids of issues,

[daycare]

sounds like this kid needs to be shown how to play.

I would get down on the floor with them during their play time. When you see them do nice you can say:

wow johnny you are playing so nice with your friends, that makes them feel happy.

if johnny is not so nice, you can say: "johnny, when you hit your friends, you make them sad" then remove him from the area of his friends and let him sit. when he is done sitting, you can show him to say sorry to his friends and hug it out.


show the child what is expected of him. some children need more guidance than others.

HOw old of a 2 yr old are we talking about?

[Leigh]

At this age, I try to set the kids up for success and praise lavishly for good behaviors (even when they seem like small things, they are big to the kids). I do redirect, and then praise immediately if the child does what I have redirected to. I have recently started reading simple board books about behavior to these kids, and have seen an incredible improvement in behavior and even manners since we started. For some reason, kids will pay attention to what the books say more than what caregivers preach at them. Here are some ideas: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_no...haior%20series

http://www.boystownpress.org/index.php/catalogsearch/result/index/?cat=53&q=books

[Laurel]

At this age, I try to set the kids up for success and praise lavishly for good behaviors (even when they seem like small things, they are big to the kids). I do redirect, and then praise immediately if the child does what I have redirected to. I have recently started reading simple board books about behavior to these kids, and have seen an incredible improvement in behavior and even manners since we started. For some reason, kids will pay attention to what the books say more than what caregivers preach at them. Here are some ideas: http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_no...haior%20series

http://www.boystownpress.org/index.p...cat=53&q=books

Oh thank you! Mine love the kind of books where the baby is doing something wrong and then they show the correct thing to do. At first I thought this would just give them ideas but it doesn't.

I've never seen this series. I'm ordering some today! All of them seem to have good customer ratings too.

Laurel

[WImom]

Thanks for the book suggestions. This is my same DCB that I posted about regarding sleep a week ago. Found out he is getting 8.5-9 hours of sleep at night and a 2 hour nap here and he is 27m old. I still think that is part of the behavior problem.