Child Who Has Never Been in a PNP- at Wits End!

[legomom922]

As you may recall, I posted a while back about the problem that I was having with a 16 mo old rocking the PNP. Well the situation has gotten worse..he is a month older and stronger, and almost rolled it over on Tues. I am at my wits end and don't know what to do about this boy! He is way too wild, has way too much energy and is rough with everything he gets his hands on, and CANNOT be left to roam freely, all the time. I must put him in there during clean up, bathroom breaks, and when I am feeding or tending to the 3 mo old.

So I finally brought this up to the mom, to find out if he does it at home, or if he did it at his other sitters house. She told me that she NEVER used a PNP, and neither did her sister when she had watched him. She seemed a little annoyed with me that I even have the nerve to put him in a PNP. I told her I have to have someplace safe to put him where he will be safe while I use the bathroom, clean up after lunch etc. She said well I always let him roam when I clean up, why cant u? I CANT! This kid is ruining my home! He throws toys at my entertainment center which has glass doors, he tries to run over the 3 m old with ride on toys, he dumps the cat food bowl, etc. If she doesnt mind him ruining her house, that is one thing, biut this is NOT my kid!

What can I do? Where else can I put him or how do I get him used to be in there? I have had him since June and its getting worse, not better!

[marniewon]

Can you strap him in to a highchair for those times that you need to be tending to something/someone else?

[legomom922]

Well I dont want to leave him in a highchair when I leave the room though..is that safe??

The other issue with him in a highchair though, is that he is the same way in that!! He will struggle to get out and kick and scream, unless he is eating, but the MOMENT he is done, I go through hell with him in there too!! I give him stuff to play with an dthen he just throws it on the floor. He is a very strong willed child, and I have considered letting him go many times, and would in a heartbeat, if I didnt need the money so badly at the moment..I dread him showing up everyday..

[melskids]

i have one who does the same thing. i bought one of those gated play yard XL things. he sits in that much better cause he's directly on the floor, so i think he thinks he's still free i actually bought two and put them together, so he has a pretty big space to still roam around. he still gets mad and shakes it and screams when he wants out, but its not as bad. he definetely sits there longer.

[legomom922]

Could he knock it over?

What do I do for naps? Let him sleep in that too? Only problem there would be is that I couldnt fit one of those in my nap room...And I dont want him napping in my living room, because when he naps, then I do all my cleaning.

[melskids]

mine cant really knock it over, he can move it when he pushes on it though.

it is pretty big, and does take up alot of room....

[Live and Learn]

Do you have an actual crib?
maybe that would be better for naps.
he sounds very disruptive...can you set up a crib in a bedroom and let him nap there?
I don't use pnp except to nap.
I think I would hold it for your potty break.
I think I would do your clean up during his nap time.
may the force be with you::

[legomom922]

No crib and no room for one either..this one drives me nuts, I will NOT hold it for this one. He keeps me running too much..

I am thinking of terminating him..like you said too disruptive

[Lilbutterflie]

I would say try to keep him in one of those XL Play Yard Gates (the kind that go around and make a hexagon shape).
And for sleeping, you might want to try a portable crib instead of a PNP. They take up pretty much the same space a PNP would, but made tough like a crib. And most of them fold up for easy storage. You could probably get a new one for less than $100. Used would even be cheaper.
Good luck!

[DancingQueen]

I have one that is sort of like this.
I always time my pee breaks when I put them in their highchairs buckled in.
I pee fast and even if I don't have to go I make myself go...LOL

I ONLY use the PNP for nap times. and when I put the PNP against a bare wall he wasn't able to reallly rock it too much anymore.

He has calmed down a little bit recently. It helped that I spent two weeks trying to catch him in the act of being destructive. (which was exhausting). And everytime I caught him mid air (or mid swing - or mid toss - or mid dump) I'd stop his arms in motion and calmly say "no. no. We have to be gentle" and for some reason this was enough to redirect him. i did this all day long (a LOT) for about 2 weeks and he has improved a TON. Still not perfect but really has gotten much better.
And he now naps on a mat and does an amazing job - lays right down..

[DancingQueen]

oh and the xl playgates never worked on him.. he was too strong he knocked it over or tilted it so hard that the other end lifted up. They were more of a hazzard than a help for my small house.

[melskids]

sit him on the floor and turn the PNP over on top of him like a cage...


I'M ONLY KIDDING !!!!:: i was just a thought....

[laundryduchess@yahoo.com]

I would have another talk with mom, explain that while you respect how she does things, it isnt managable to have him run free in the house. That he has to remain safe while your attention is focused on other tasks through the day,.. That the other childrens safety is also a concern of yours. That he doesnt seem to react well to boundaries. At his age he should know not to run over the baby with a ride on, if not remove the ride on. He will be out of this phase soon enough. Or you have the option of terming him if he cant adjust to your rules.

I wouldnt mention yoru tv stand because to be honest,... if you know a glass stand is a problem, you should remove the glass or find another stand without it. You cant assume that the kids in your home will have the respect that yours have.

Thats what ****s about our jobs,... we have to make so many changes,.. to have a safe environment for the little ones.

As you may recall, I posted a while back about the problem that I was having with a 16 mo old rocking the PNP. Well the situation has gotten worse..he is a month older and stronger, and almost rolled it over on Tues. I am at my wits end and don't know what to do about this boy! He is way too wild, has way too much energy and is rough with everything he gets his hands on, and CANNOT be left to roam freely, all the time. I must put him in there during clean up, bathroom breaks, and when I am feeding or tending to the 3 mo old.

So I finally brought this up to the mom, to find out if he does it at home, or if he did it at his other sitters house. She told me that she NEVER used a PNP, and neither did her sister when she had watched him. She seemed a little annoyed with me that I even have the nerve to put him in a PNP. I told her I have to have someplace safe to put him where he will be safe while I use the bathroom, clean up after lunch etc. She said well I always let him roam when I clean up, why cant u? I CANT! This kid is ruining my home! He throws toys at my entertainment center which has glass doors, he tries to run over the 3 m old with ride on toys, he dumps the cat food bowl, etc. If she doesnt mind him ruining her house, that is one thing, biut this is NOT my kid!

What can I do? Where else can I put him or how do I get him used to be in there? I have had him since June and its getting worse, not better!

[marniewon]

sit him on the floor and turn the PNP over on top of him like a cage...


I'M ONLY KIDDING !!!!:: i was just a thought....

HA!!! Love it!!! We always joke (me and my teenage kids) about letting the dog out and putting the kids in the dog crate. Just a joke!! But funny at the time.

[laundryduchess@yahoo.com]

I call my pack n plays "crates". I have one who can not be trusted, she is as mischevious as she is cute! ,.. I say,.. Miss Jill Needs to potty,.. Katheryne to the crate for a minute.