4 yr old DCB, Would You Do This.....

[kathiemarie]

My totally normal son (who now is 21) had the same problem. He did grow out of it around 5. To me it was no big deal, but then Im his mom. I don't have any advise but I do understand how you feel.

[Blackcat31]

My totally normal son (who now is 21) had the same problem. He did grow out of it around 5. To me it was no big deal, but then Im his mom. I don't have any advise but I do understand how you feel.

LOL!! MY totally normal DS will NOT, has NOT and simply won't poo anywhere but home.

NO idea why. He has just always been that way.

Kids are all different. They all get to where they are going but they all do it differently.....

I'd personally try to work WITH the parents in overcoming this issue. I would much rather put a diaper/pull up on a child to poop verses cleaning up poopy underwear and I don't think it would be right to call the parent and have them come pick up if he did poop in his pants.

He's 4 not 14 so there is definitely some wiggle room as to what's considered developmentally appropriate or not.

[Familycare71]

LOL!! MY totally normal DS will NOT, has NOT and simply won't poo anywhere but home.

NO idea why. He has just always been that way.

Kids are all different. They all get to where they are going but they all do it differently.....

I'd personally try to work WITH the parents in overcoming this issue. I would much rather put a diaper/pull up on a child to poop verses cleaning up poopy underwear and I don't think it would be right to call the parent and have them come pick up if he did poop in his pants.

He's 4 not 14 so there is definitely some wiggle room as to what's considered developmentally appropriate or not.

I also agree with willow and another PP. my son had issues with pooping in the potty- fully trained other wise. He would go into the bathroom, put on a pull up, poop and then I would change him. It was what our dr suggested when he was fearful of pooping in the potty. It didnt last extremely long. He was a very typical child- as he got older he was diagnosed with anxiety.
You just don't really know why sometimes- but I also wouldn't be willing to force a kid to hold it or poop in the potty either. I think if you aren't willing to do it and it is what he needs you should term so he can find someone who will

[caregiver]

Thanks everyone for your suggestions. I will be working with his parents on this and between them and myself we are going to try and get this all worked out for him. I just have never in my 30 yrs of doing daycare have had a child, who is 4 yrs old, ever ask me to put a diaper on so they could go poop. All the kids I have had have been totally trained by 4 and not one of the parents have ever allowed a child to do this, they all have made sure that their child uses the potty for #1& 2. So this seems very strange to me, but it is what it is and I will just try working with him and hopefully down the line, he will want to start going on the toilet for pooping.
I guess doing daycare you will find things that you never have encountered before. So you just deal with it and do the best you can. It is so nice to have the parents support and help. I will let you know down the line here how it is going if anyone is interested.