How Parents Dress Their Kids, Unbelievable!

[Blackcat31]

I guess it's that I really don't care what the kids come dressed in either, but it is just that sometimes they are dressed where they look uncomfortable. Even asking parents to dress them comfortably, I still see this.
I guess it just gets to me when parents, and it is their choice and money, but have to have their kids dressed in total fashion,the dress or skirt with the lacy leggings under the dress or skirt,the layers on top,which the kids get so warm and then over the feet of the leggings have a pair of socks on and then the shoes, then that are too tight because they have the legging feet and then the socks on their feet and then try and get the shoes on over all that.
I'm all for kids looking nice, but also being able to move in their clothes.
I guess it goes way back to when my kids were toddlers and my sister in law would dress her girls like they were dolls and had to have them in the most fashionable and expensive dresses and liked to let you know that she payed x amount of dollars for this dress and would hold that over you knowing that she spent more then others. I guess it's more the parents that grip me then the kids coming in whatever clothes,but it just seems like parents today want their kids to be fashion diva's and not thinking about how practical the clothes are for daycare. It's just me!

Sadly I think that is just another sign that material things are what define people now days.

I know what you mean though about comfy clothes. I too grew up in the era of having "play clothes", "school clothes" and "Sunday clothes"....NONE of which were allowed to be worn at a non-designated time...

My daughter wants to wear a dress, EVERY SINGLE DAY. So, as I am the daycare owner... I tell her fine, but when we go outside, you need to go upstairs and put on pants to go outside and play in. (Or pants under her skirt, if it isn't TOO nice). As for bows.... I used to use them... nice... fancy ones... but I don't have time for that much anymore. Bows are cute, until they fall off (hers did NOT), and babies start eating them, etc.

Yes, it is frustrating, and I would definitely make them aware that the childs clothing could get very dirty, and you are not responsible for that, and I would say those are so cute, but it is a shame, because they will probably get dirty.

This is a good point. Parents have enough to fight with their kids about now days....I am sure clothing is just not a battle everyone chooses to put on their list. Your DD is lucky that she does have the option to go to her room and change when her choice is not appropriate to the activity.

[Unregistered]

I have one little girl that comes once a week in pure white?!?! Usually a white sundress with white sandals and bow or white leggings with a pink and white sweater and I kid you not-white fuzzy boots(Like ****) I make sure we get nice and dirty that day! Why? I'll never understand!

[Play Care]

My assumption is that if the parents are sending them in dressed in certain clothing, they are saying they don't mind if it gets dirty or paint or whatever. No client has ever told me to not let their child get dirty, or complained over grass stains on their knees. I wouldn't be passive aggressive and purposely go out of my way to get the child extra dirty, but I would stick to our usual routine. If the child seems uncomfy or I have issues changing them because of their attire, I either change their outfit with a spare of theirs, or one of my spare outfits. Clothes are changed back before pick up - though I usually let parents know if the child had to have an outfit change up and why.

[Luna]

I don't treat any stains or glue any bows. Everyone has an old adult tshirt to cover their clothes for messy play, but that's all. Bows and hairdo business that falls out or falls apart go into the child's bag or pocket to go back home. If their clothes get wet or dirty they go into a bag and the child wears fresh clothes from their stash or my stash.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Buttons bother me (if I have to snap them or button them). Nice clothing doesn't if they don't mind it getting some food on it or a little bit of dirt when we're outside. Messy indoor projects require that the children wear long sleeve "bib" style things.

[JoseyJo]

I have one little girl that comes once a week in pure white?!?! Usually a white sundress with white sandals and bow or white leggings with a pink and white sweater and I kid you not-white fuzzy boots(Like ****) I make sure we get nice and dirty that day! Why? I'll never understand!

We had a new dcg4 this spring whose mom dressed her to the 9's even though we specifically talk about comfort and getting dirty at the interview. Her 3rd or 4th day here she wore a white sundress, a white bow, little white lace socks and white church shoes- on field trip day, to the baseball diamond!! The dirt was so nice and fine she just couldn't resist making dirt-angels, castles and moats, pouring dirt all over her legs and arms...

Mom still sent her in dresses every day, but never white again!

[TwinKristi]

I have a mom who let's her then 3 and now 4yr old in dresses or skirts with no shorts!! This girl has ZERO modesty and spends half her day with her booty showing. I made her put on her baby brother's PJ shorts once. I even sent mom a pic of her doing a puzzle with her dress up over her butt with her undies showing and one butt cheek hanging out. It was obviously a cute funny pic, not a weirdo pic and it was quiet time so it was just her up but I was hoping her mom would realize "oh Jeeze, maybe she should wear shorts!" She goes to PreK
4 days a week and I know they require kids wear shorts or leggings under their dresses or skirts, why wouldn't she do the same here??

[Lil'DinoEggs]

After my first year, I put in my contract what clothing is allowed. I refuse to deal with tights, i dont not allow shoe ties (we practice but too dangeroous and time consuming for real shoes) nor do i allow any other type of shoe other than a sneaker. Also, if I can't slip off
Their pants with one hand then the clothes are too tight. I try not to say too much about the last item because I do feel that people have different comfort zones about size. I tend to put loose clothing on my own children. Other than that I very verbal. One family had about five pairs of sneakers. I told them they had to bring a specific pair because it was not distracting, they fit very well and she can put them on herself which is important in her development to have this accomplishment. They said oh she picks out her shoes. I said great then just tleave the sneakers here. This was a child that had daily tantrums yet when I made her put on the easiest and most comfortable shoes, we never had a problem.

[cheerfuldom]

Most of my daycare parents are good about this but I have had some issues in the past, the biggest ones being cheap croc shoes that ripped apart and did not have support, skinny jeans (why would you do that to a child?), bows/clips/jewelry for little girls, babies and toddlers in onesies like that is a complete outfit no matter what the weather. My pet peeve is skimpy bikinis on little girls. tiny tiny string bikinis for babies....how is that supposed to work over a diaper? or on an active child that wants to play and climb without a constant wedgie!

[blessed mom]

I have one parent that does this. Also sends her kid in top of the line shoes that my own kids don't have. It's fine by me I just let mom know they will get dirty...and they do. Sometimes the shoes have mud on them. Drives me crazy but if mom doesn't mind spending the money what do I care?

The only issue I have had with clothes is one mom who put their child in clothes that were way too tight. The child was a little chunky and the clothes were so tight. The child started to complain so then mom bought bigger sizes.

[Angelsj]

I couldn't care less what the kids come dressed in.

I only require that ALL clothing is well fitting and easy for the child to manage.

I do require shoes with laces though. NO open toed or Velcro shoes.

If I had a parent that sent their child in something that prohibited them from participating, I would just talk to the parent and let them know my concern and what I'd like them to do to remedy the situation.

Ok, I am curious. Why laces? I despise laces, probably because I spend all day tying shoes. I am all for velcro!

[Blackcat31]

Ok, I am curious. Why laces? I despise laces, probably because I spend all day tying shoes. I am all for velcro!

:: For the same reason.

Velcro gets dirty, clogged and stupid after a bit. Then the shoes don't/won't stay on.

So then I spend all day fixing that. Ugh!

I prefer shoes with laces because I can tie them tight and securely. NO loose shoes, NO straggling laces....

I tie them double knotted. Shoes stay securely on their feet.

I also start teaching them to tie the laces as soon as they are interested/able.

I probably tie about 10 pairs of shoes daily each time we go outside but I do things assembly line so it gets done fast and then I don't have to deal with them again until we go outside again.

To me, THAT seems easier than continually re-doing the Velcro that isn't gonna stay stuck anyways.

...and slip on shoes? Don't even get me started on those..

[JoseyJo]

I have a mom who let's her then 3 and now 4yr old in dresses or skirts with no shorts!! This girl has ZERO modesty and spends half her day with her booty showing. I made her put on her baby brother's PJ shorts once. I even sent mom a pic of her doing a puzzle with her dress up over her butt with her undies showing and one butt cheek hanging out. It was obviously a cute funny pic, not a weirdo pic and it was quiet time so it was just her up but I was hoping her mom would realize "oh Jeeze, maybe she should wear shorts!" She goes to PreK
4 days a week and I know they require kids wear shorts or leggings under their dresses or skirts, why wouldn't she do the same here??

I had to put in my enrollment info and send out a note, and post it on the door for a while to get my 2 dcg's to start wearing shorts or leggings under dresses. Craziness!

[Angelsj]

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...and slip on shoes? Don't even get me started on those..

No slip on shoes, ick.

Velcro gets stupid... ::::

Agreed, and "don't tell the parents.." but I will throw several pairs of shoes in the washer and dryer, and clear up that stupid velcro. I have even been known to replace ridiculous shoes with my own, but that is a different story.

If I could trust them to send me reasonable shoes with reasonable length laces, I might, but good grief. They either have teeny laces that can't be double knotted or super extra long ones that have to be tied around the poor kid's ankles to work.

Funny the stuff we have to think about!

[BlackBear]

Or....

You could all make play clothes from your curtains like from The Sound of Music :: :: ::