Advice Please

[jenboo]

I have a 4yr old dcg (almost 5) who doesn't have the best behavior. We dont ride bikes on the grass and if she does it, I tell her she needs to get off since she rode the bike onto the grass. she will tell me that she didn't do it, the bike did.
If i ask her to not stand on something, she will tell me she isn't even though she really is.
etc etc

If i ask her to do something and she doesn't want to, she says that she can't do it and she will continue to say it every time i ask her.

I can tell that she gets her way at home and is super bossy with mom. She even told me that when she goes in time-out at home she can only play with her ipad for color

Her behavior drives me crazy..but i deal with it. well today, my sister just called saying that she asked my niece (4 yr old who comes to my daycare 2 days a week) to stop chewing on a balloon and my niece said that she wasnt chewing on one when she clearly was. Also, my sister asked her to do something and she said I cant. My niece has never acted like this before.

I am going to talk to DCM on monday about dcg behavior but im not sure how to address it. I havent mentioned anything to her yet so this will be the first time.

[JoseyJo]

I have a 4yr old dcg (almost 5) who doesn't have the best behavior. We dont ride bikes on the grass and if she does it, I tell her she needs to get off since she rode the bike onto the grass. she will tell me that she didn't do it, the bike did.
If i ask her to not stand on something, she will tell me she isn't even though she really is.
etc etc

If i ask her to do something and she doesn't want to, she says that she can't do it and she will continue to say it every time i ask her.

I can tell that she gets her way at home and is super bossy with mom. She even told me that when she goes in time-out at home she can only play with her ipad for color

Her behavior drives me crazy..but i deal with it. well today, my sister just called saying that she asked my niece (4 yr old who comes to my daycare 2 days a week) to stop chewing on a balloon and my niece said that she wasnt chewing on one when she clearly was. Also, my sister asked her to do something and she said I cant. My niece has never acted like this before.

I am going to talk to DCM on monday about dcg behavior but im not sure how to address it. I havent mentioned anything to her yet so this will be the first time.

***! One of the reasons I prefer boys

I'm not an expert in this, but if I said "Don't ride your bike on the grass" and she says the bike did it, I would respond "DCG, get off the grass now." If she talked back again I would send her to TO saying "we don't talk back, we do what we are asked."

[JoseyJo]

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[jenboo]

thats what i have been doing so thats good!! My niece is so not drama at all! and this girl just gets on nerves with her attitude and disrespect haha.

any advice on how to stop it from spreading to my niece?? My sister and I both give her prep talks in the morning. She is definitely a follower.

[spinnymarie]

Oooh sneaky.
I'd address it with her mom, but it doesn't sound like that's going to help much.
I'd try to put an end to it while you are there.
"The bike did it."
- Well, if you can't control the bike, you can't ride it anymore.
"I can't do it."
- I've seen you do it before, but if you can't anymore, then you must be a baby. Babies have to sit over here by me because they don't know how to play with the big kid toys or use the big kid stuff. I will be happy to treat you like a baby until you feel like you can do what I ask you, when I ask you to do it.
"I'm not standing on the chair."
-I can see what you are doing, and when you tell me you aren't, that's called lying. When we lie we have big trouble and we have to tell your mom why you haven't been telling me the truth.

Lying is a HUGE pet peeve of mine and I will make a HUGE deal out of it.
I agree with telling her that the appropriate response to a request by you is 'Okay', and nothing more. She will lose privileges that are earned by respectful children until she learns how to talk to you.

[cheerfuldom]

ummmm....this is a pretty common tactic for older preschoolers and school agers. I wouldn't blame the daycare girl just because your niece is doing this type of thing now.

I would handle it how the PP handles it, by discussing what lying and truthfulness are, by setting boundaries and being consistent. I don't use timeout but I have no problem at all saying that anyone that breaks a rule (riding on the grass) will lose the privilege of riding on a bike for the day.

[Angelsj]

Lol. Normal, but does need to be challenged.
I have a five year old that uses, "My mom says..."
My mom says I can't pick up toys. My mom says only *I* can ride this bike.
I just roll my eyes.
"DCG, clean up the toys...my mom...clean up the toys now, unless you need a time out first...ok..." :: Sigh.