OMG - I Can NOT Believe What This Parent Did After Terming Services

[missnikki]

Maybe a relative of yours will get sick with flu and you can have them cough on it ... or have your DC kids pick their boogies and smear some on the paperwork

Poop for poop.

[MarinaVanessa]

:::: Ha ha ha, those are perfect words for this situation.

[MommyMuffin]

So how did it go???

[sierrastreasures]

It's now 11:15 AM and they have not shown up as yet. Since their normal arrival time at Childcare from the the child's Jewish preschool is at 11:45 I don't expect them before then.

As stated before, I am soooooooooooooo looking forward to informing them that their claims to the Childcare administration were investigated with no merit also, those that live in glass houses should not throw stones since I'm thinking about having them investigated for allowing their child to defecate and urinate outside in their backyard as well as in the corner of his room because as he states according to his mom that "he wants to be like his dog".

[MarinaVanessa]

As stated before, I am soooooooooooooo looking forward to informing them that their claims to the Childcare administration were investigated with no merit

I grew up as a young kid in the 80's so the phrase "Ooooooh, moded!" comes to mind for some reason .

Just as a thought however, I know you are looking forward to telling them about having them investigated and all but what if you just tell them the first part and the last part instead and let them come to their own conclusions?

Those that live in glass houses should not throw stones. You allow your child to defecate and urinate outside in your backyard as well as in the corner of his room.

Then this way it doesn't sound like you are threatening them, you were just bringing up a good point. It'll make her think twice and , hopefully, just make her nervous. Sometimes just knowing they're squirming is enough.

[sierrastreasures]

I grew up as a young kid in the 80's so the phrase "Ooooooh, moded!" comes to mind for some reason .

Just as a thought however, I know you are looking forward to telling them about having them investigated and all but what if you just tell them the first part and the last part instead and let them come to their own conclusions?

Those that live in glass houses should not throw stones. You allow your child to defecate and urinate outside in your backyard as well as in the corner of his room.

Then this way it doesn't sound like you are threatening them, you were just bringing up a good point. It'll make her think twice and , hopefully, just make her nervous. Sometimes just knowing they're squirming is enough.

Good point indeed! After giving some thought I'm not going to bring myself down to their level. My 6 page formal termination letter which includes "You allow your child to defecate and urinate outside in your backyard as well as in the corner of his room" says it all.

Thanks for the good advice!

[Crystal]

As much as it all sux, I would just let it go. I would not give them the termination letter. What purpouse, other than stirring the pot, will it serve? I know it's hard to take the high road, but it's not going to accomplish anything giving them the letter, and they might find a way to use it against you. If you have to give them a termination letter, I would make it short, and to the point. "Due to irreconcialable differences between child care provider and parents of ________________ ,effective ________, child care services are terminated. Should you have any questions, please schedule an appointment to meet with me outside of regularly scheduled business hours so that my time and attention is not taken away from children in care." Sign it, date it, MAIL IT, CERTIFIED. And be done.
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BTW, I highly recommend to all providers that you do not use text mesaaging as a communication tool, ESPECIALLY when discussing termination.

[Crystal]

One other point I'd like to make....you need to leave ANYTHING that is not personally related to his care in your home and their treatment of you in your home OUT of the letter. What they allow their child to do in their own home, unless they are abusing him, has absolutely nothing to do with you and should have absolutley nothing to do with termination ( as far as they know)

I HIGHLY recommend keeping it all very professional and business related. They could easily use that letter to damage your reputation as a provider if they want too.

Please do NOT be offended, I am only telling you what I think is in your best interest.....I am not trying to be offensive or judgemental in any way.

[Unregistered]

I know many on the message board don't choose to acknowledge unregistered replies but for what it's worth, I totally agree with the above messages written by Crystal. The termination letter is not necessary; it's obvious they are not coming back. The last thing you want to do in this situation is add fuel to the fire. The more professional and detached you can be, the better. Don't give them the satisfaction of knowing they "got" to you.

[sierrastreasures]

Crystal, I would like nothing better than to stay as unemotional as you but the fact is they forged a letter, altering facts and faxed it to the child care administration. The dcm stated I wrote it which I did not. Anything I give to parents has both my signature as well as theirs. In truth the paper was a verbal conversation I had with the dcm. The parents had ignored my immediate termination 2 days ago and texted me stating that their dc son would not be here yesterday so I had to give them a formal termination today.

In the letter I gave them today were reasons for my reason for immediate termination including reasons why dc son could not be admitted with diarrhea.

Anyway it's over, dcd came and got dc son's things and stated he had no idea dcm pursued charges against me with the childcare association however never apologized for this nor the mess his wife left on my floor.

My husband called him back and told him not to bother me again either by phone or text.

[Crystal]

I did not see a post from you re. the "forged letter" See, that would be a reason for a civil lawsuit. I'd be looking into that, if they did such a thing, then they were attempting to cause you to lose your license, and should be held liable for that. (Did they sign your name on it? that's forging, saying you wrote it is not forging"

I STILL wouldn't have given the letter...especially considering they already sent one letter to licensing that wasn't a valid letter, I can only imagine what they might do with the real deal that you gave them.

[missnikki]

I would say that now is the time to forget that you ever had to deal with this wacko family, and move on! Don't dwell on it anymore, they've absorbed enough of your energy already.
If anything else pops up, we're always here for encouragement!!!