Is This Unfair Of Me?

[Crazy8]

not unfair at all, 2 hours a day can EASILY be done on parent's shift. But I am not at all surprised at parents pawning it off on you - I'm finding thats the case with a lot of things lately.

My friend's son wears glasses during the day and the eye patch for a few hours before bed each night.

[Childminder]

Play pirates.

[Brooksie]

No..

You are providing group care . You tried it, but 2 hours does NOT have to be at daycare.

She can bring him with it, and you can encourage him to leave it on. Then, tell her how long that was, add the car ride, and she can do the "rest" of the time after daycare.

Boom.

[Michael]

I have a dck with a lazy eye. He got glasses about 3 months ago and there were issues with that, taking them off, trying to break them when angry, etc. We resolved those (mostly).

Now he is supposed to wear an eye patch for 2 hours/day. Dcm brought me a box of eye patches today, telling me this. Um, its for 2 hours, why can't he wear them at home? He is picked up at 4! So I tell her that I will try it. He took 2 off and bent them so that they cannot be reapplied in the first few minutes. I told dcm it was difficult and that it needs to be done at home. She asked if she can bring him with it on (sure, but he doesn't LEAVE IT ON!) She got a little irritated that he used two because they are expensive.

Am I being unfair?

My son had similar issues. We placed glasses over his eye patch and it seemed to keep him from tearing the patches off.

[julie]

I had this problem in Kindergarten and was 4.5 at the time. I had to wear my patch throughout the day, not two hours. You are not being unreasonable at all to not be able to totally focus on this during daycare hours.

One thing that really helped me was to have a stuffed animal that wore the patch same as me. The teacher made it my job to make sure the stuffed animal was all right and comfortable, which distracted me from my own patch. We went as pirates for Halloween. Anyway, there are ways to support the kid at your daycare, but I agree that the hard part should be at home. And no way should the mom be getting mad at you for having to use more than one patch! That's life!

[Soccermom]

A friend of mine has to patch her DD's eye for 4 hours every day and she says it is awful. DD hates it.
I would never expect my DP to take care of this kind of thing for me.
You are not being unreasonable at all!
Guaranteed that DCM tried it at home and found it hard so she is pawning the job off on you. Some parents need a handbook on how to treat their DP!

[daycarediva]

He refused to wear it at home. He was not patched AT ALL yesterday. Today Mom brought him with it on and I said I would do my best to get him to leave it on but no promises. He wore it for about 30 minutes.

Does the 2 hours need to be consecutive for it to help? UGH!

[Soccermom]

He refused to wear it at home. He was not patched AT ALL yesterday. Today Mom brought him with it on and I said I would do my best to get him to leave it on but no promises. He wore it for about 30 minutes.

Does the 2 hours need to be consecutive for it to help? UGH!

I believe it does need to be for the entire 2 hours.

[blessed mom]

You're not being unfair. I like the idea of everyone wearing one but you can only do what you can do. You are not a doctor and you are not the parent. Parents need to be parents and if he isn't keeping it on then mom and dad need to be responsible parents and do it themselves.

[Scout]

No, and I have a permanent lazy eye so that mom needs to be sure he wears it, that should not fall on you. If he doesn't wear it his eye may not straighten itself out and then he will need surgery, which I could never afford. If I had that surgery it would do wonders for my self esteem. I took ds to his first eye appt when he was 18 mos and his pediatric dr wanted to fix my eye!:: If only I could afford that deductable! It is something I have wanted done my whole life and I did wear the eye patches too. I hope she takes care of this! It is not your fault he bent them. He doesn't want to be any different than the others and she should've thought of that. I do like the pirate party idea though! Very cute.