Do You Address Behavior Issues With Parents Or????

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Would you address this with mom/dad or deal with it within daycare?

4 (5 in a month) yr old boy has gone from sweet to increasingly difficult. Spiderman jumps off my couch, on my walls ( eeek), refuses to pick up-wanders around helplessly during clean up, acts up when we have music lady here, refuses to sit at table (goofs around but is starving for treats).

A few months ago he was swearing and I addressed it with dad , saying that we had to chat at pick up. Dcd and dcm showed up (divorced) and dcd blamed it on dcm. She accepted and little boy never tried it again.

I have tried time outs, taking away privileges, removing from table but this kid is really digging in. Weeks of disobedience.

Do I bring it up to dad or deal here? Feel like I am not capable of doing my job telling dad on his kid. But it worked last time. Help !?!

[Blackcat31]

I would deal with the immediate behaviors as they happen AT your house while AT your house.

Dad and/or mom can't very well stop him from jumping off your furniture if they aren't there...kwim?

I would however, relay to the parent the behaviors you are seeing and dealing with and ask them to talk with their child in regards to listening and following rules.

See if you can get them to come up with a plan of action. (Their kid, their responsibility... ) and then follow that plan. If they want you to call them for pick up, do so.. if they ask that he not be allowed to play a certain activity...then follow what they are suggesting AS LONG AS IT IS FEASIBLE in your program.

I would personally put a limit on how long you are willing to continue trying to manage this child's behavior (like 30 days etc) without improvement and then YOU decide if you are willing to term, wanting to term or are going to term them.

HTH

[Maria2013]

Would you address this with mom/dad or deal with it within daycare?

4 (5 in a month) yr old boy has gone from sweet to increasingly difficult. Spiderman jumps off my couch, on my walls ( eeek), refuses to pick up-wanders around helplessly during clean up, acts up when we have music lady here, refuses to sit at table (goofs around but is starving for treats).

A few months ago he was swearing and I addressed it with dad , saying that we had to chat at pick up. Dcd and dcm showed up (divorced) and dcd blamed it on dcm. She accepted and little boy never tried it again.

I have tried time outs, taking away privileges, removing from table but this kid is really digging in. Weeks of disobedience.

Do I bring it up to dad or deal here? Feel like I am not capable of doing my job telling dad on his kid. But it worked last time. Help !?!

I allow a "bad day" now and then, but a sudden change in personality that doesn't seem to get any better no matter what I do, yes I would discuss that with parents, I feel they need to know, in case I decide I've had enough and it's time to term

[Brooksie]

I allow a "bad day" now and then, but a sudden change in personality that doesn't seem to get any better no matter what I do, yes I would discuss that with parents, I feel they need to know, in case I decide I've had enough and it's time to term

My policy states::

I will discuss any serious behavior problems with you promptly and maintain a record of them in your Child’s file. If the problem persists, and we cannot work out a mutually satisfactory solution, I will have to terminate this Agreement.

good luck!

[Unregistered]

I talked with dcm. She made excuses and blew me off. So, today I called dad. He is awesome! Dealt with it and said we should check in to see if improvement is made. Yipee!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

If bad behavior continues I make a behavior plan. The child can only have a certain # of incidents after that is implemented and then a suspension occurs. After the suspension, if another incident occurs they are terminated. I have terminated before with this.