Can't Take It Anymore!

[hgonzalez]

UGHHHH! I swear I spend half my day trying to deal with things the parents are not doing or not providing for their child. We aren't getting to the fun or educational stuff because their basic needs are not being filled by the parents!

-15 mos old coming in size 3 jeans, falling off of her.
-3 yr old special needs kid going to preschool and coming back with a completely soaked pull up, leaking all over his clothes, due to parents not sending supplies to school.
-kid wearing the same mismatched, filthy socks to daycare for 3 days in a row.
-parents asking me to make a bottle for their child for the 10 min car ride home out of the formula I PAY FOR.
-kids coming to daycare smelling like they haven't had a bath in a week.
-infant dropped off in a poopy diaper with a rash already, so you know he has been sitting in it for a while.

This is all in one day. I JUST DON'T GET IT!!!!

[butterfly]

:hug:

Sounds like some frank conversations need to be had tonight at pickup.

I really dislike dealing with these types of things too, but the older I get the less my filter works and I just tell them what needs to happen. Usually it embarasses the parents enough that it isn't an issue again.

:hug:

[Maria2013]

I had my share of those kinds of incidents :hug: now I've come to the conclusion that some parents just don't have a clue where the line between their and my responsibility, is, and I feel grateful those kids at least have me to take care of them

[Blackcat31]

UGHHHH! I swear I spend half my day trying to deal with things the parents are not doing or not providing for their child. We aren't getting to the fun or educational stuff because their basic needs are not being filled by the parents!

-15 mos old coming in size 3 jeans, falling off of her.

take the jeans off and let child play with diaper on. Tell parents NO services until they have brought atleast 2 pairs of comfy back up pants that fit.

-3 yr old special needs kid going to preschool and coming back with a completely soaked pull up, leaking all over his clothes, due to parents not sending supplies to school.

Upon arrival at your house, I would call parents immediately and ask to have child picked up (he isn't prepared for daycare) OR to bring clothing/pull ups immediately. NOT negotiable

-kid wearing the same mismatched, filthy socks to daycare for 3 days in a row.

NO services until atleast 2-3 pairs of spare socks are brought from home.

-parents asking me to make a bottle for their child for the 10 min car ride home out of the formula I PAY FOR.

NO food brought into daycare and NO FOOD TO BE SENT HOME. If they insist, charge or it.

-kids coming to daycare smelling like they haven't had a bath in a week.

This one, you are just gonna have to either plug your nose or say something. "Wow, mom Timmy sure played hard today...he is definitely going to need a bath tonight."

-infant dropped off in a poopy diaper with a rash already, so you know he has been sitting in it for a while.

Upon arrival, do a quick check...if child smells or appears in need of a change....hand the child back to parents and say "Oops, looks like Janie isn't ready to be dropped off yet...she needs a diaper change. Here are her wipes and a diaper." (Smile BIG).

This is all in one day. I JUST DON'T GET IT!!!!

I responded in bold. I know it's frustrating but honestly, these things won't happen if you don't allow them to. I also know it's hard to speak up but sometimes ya just have to.

:hug: for caring when it seems no one else does.

[Angelsj]

I so gave up on parents doing what is right a LONG time ago. Some will surprise you, but it is easier not to expect it..seriously.

Buy a few tshirts, sweat pants, and socks, and just have the spares. I keep extra diapers and pullups (though I charge for their use) in several sizes.
As to the formula people, just say no. You don't need to explain. Just say, no, can't do that.
I also bathe kids if needed. BlackCat has good ideas, but I just gave up fighting. I still tell them that stuff, but I don't let it be my problem either. I have what I need. She is right though, unless it costs them time or money, they won't change. I suppose you just need to figure out what is ultimately not worth the fight, and what is.

[My3cents]

UGHHHH! I swear I spend half my day trying to deal with things the parents are not doing or not providing for their child. We aren't getting to the fun or educational stuff because their basic needs are not being filled by the parents!

-15 mos old coming in size 3 jeans, falling off of her.
-3 yr old special needs kid going to preschool and coming back with a completely soaked pull up, leaking all over his clothes, due to parents not sending supplies to school.
-kid wearing the same mismatched, filthy socks to daycare for 3 days in a row.
-parents asking me to make a bottle for their child for the 10 min car ride home out of the formula I PAY FOR.
-kids coming to daycare smelling like they haven't had a bath in a week.
-infant dropped off in a poopy diaper with a rash already, so you know he has been sitting in it for a while.

This is all in one day. I JUST DON'T GET IT!!!!

you shouldn't take it anymore!

I blame you for this..... don't allow it. Stop mom at the door, or call her and request she bring the child pants that fit and changes- at least two other outfits

Tell the parent no to the bottle.

Call the parent out on not bathing the child.

Have parents change that dirty diaper

Have good clear rules/handbook/policy book and contract that states all these issues- and go over them in detail at any interviews.

you can be nice about these issues and have them resolved. Parent doesn't want to comply I wouldn't want to work with those clients. They would not respect me and how I want my daycare to run. Only you can rectify these issues by putting your foot down and saying no more to it.....

sorry not trying to be harsh, but yet I am and this is how I see this.

[My3cents]

:hug:

Sounds like some frank conversations need to be had tonight at pickup.

I really dislike dealing with these types of things too, but the older I get the less my filter works and I just tell them what needs to happen. Usually it embarasses the parents enough that it isn't an issue again.

:hug:

happy to hear you say this. I feel this is me too, the older I get the less filter I have. I do try to be kind until I have had enough of it- then I am still kind just not willing to comply myself anymore.

[My3cents]

I responded in bold. I know it's frustrating but honestly, these things won't happen if you don't allow them to. I also know it's hard to speak up but sometimes ya just have to.

:hug: for caring when it seems no one else does.

I was going to respond this same way.

OP I do say what I do with kindness but you just can't operate this way- put your foot down now and you will be better off.
lovethis

[hgonzalez]

Day 4, I mentioned the dirty socks. He has them back on today, day 4 wearing a pair of dirty mismatched socks.

The soaked kid from preschool: I was told that the school said he must be having so much fun that he is filling his pants on the bus. My response: it is their responsibility to make sure he has emptied his bladder on the toilet before he comes back to daycare on the bus. It is your job (the parents) to communicate with the staff that this needs to be done. They are now off for a week, so we will see if this is actually done.

Clothes that actually fit today on the toddler! Yay~!

[Blackcat31]

Day 4, I mentioned the dirty socks. He has them back on today, day 4 wearing a pair of dirty mismatched socks.

The soaked kid from preschool: I was told that the school said he must be having so much fun that he is filling his pants on the bus. My response: it is their responsibility to make sure he has emptied his bladder on the toilet before he comes back to daycare on the bus. It is your job (the parents) to communicate with the staff that this needs to be done. They are now off for a week, so we will see if this is actually done.

Clothes that actually fit today on the toddler! Yay~!

Well, that's a start!

As for the boy with dirty socks...I'd just take them off and let him be barefoot if you can.

I also agree with you about the preschool. They should be giving him an opportunity to use the bathroom right before boarding the bus. If he continues to arrive soaked like that, I would make sure you let the parents know every time so they can address it with his preschool teachers.

[My3cents]

Well, that's a start!

As for the boy with dirty socks...I'd just take them off and let him be barefoot if you can.

I also agree with you about the preschool. They should be giving him an opportunity to use the bathroom right before boarding the bus. If he continues to arrive soaked like that, I would make sure you let the parents know every time so they can address it with his preschool teachers.

Yah!!! I agree it is a start. Good for you!

take the socks off. I would keep spares and show the parents when they pick up that you would like him to come in clean socks for now on- not acceptable. You can say something and see where it goes from there-

Ask the parents to ask that he use the bathroom before leaving school. He might just relax on the bus ride and wiz up a storm. I would just change him as soon as he arrived.

I agree with BC and just glad to see your making progress with your issues. This forum is awesome for helps. I have had many aha moments with issues I have had in the past, esp first starting out that others have helped me through. Biggest advice to me was, have a good interview--you interviewing the clients and stating your rules and regs, a good handbook/policy/rule book and good contract with clear and concise points addressed. Good luck~

[Unregistered]

wow!
it's a good thing you have a place to go to get "help" here.
all these wonderful supportive ladies on here.
Let's hope that someone doesn't get diagnosed with cancer or something because these ladies would probably blame you for getting cancer in some way
they will put their 3 cents in and say it's your fault
yea way to go

[TwinKristi]

wow!
it's a good thing you have a place to go to get "help" here.
all these wonderful supportive ladies on here.
Let's hope that someone doesn't get diagnosed with cancer or something because these ladies would probably blame you for getting cancer in some way
they will put their 3 cents in and say it's your fault
yea way to go

What the what? :confused:

[Msdunny]

wow!
it's a good thing you have a place to go to get "help" here.
all these wonderful supportive ladies on here.
Let's hope that someone doesn't get diagnosed with cancer or something because these ladies would probably blame you for getting cancer in some way
they will put their 3 cents in and say it's your fault
yea way to go

Huh?!? Are responses direct? Yes! Are they honest and usually helpful? Again yes! What in the world?!

[daycare]

Hi....

I used to have these same problems...That was before BC (blackcat, Hi btw) taught me that I can't let the parents problems become my problems.

I had to be proactive about things or I was going to end up being the once constantly having to react to them.

I made a new and more clear STRICT parent handbook.

I made all parents read and sign it. It really did reduce a lot of the things that were going on, but of course you will always have some of those parents who will just sign it and not read it. Anytime someone broke a rule, I would first send out a friendly reminder of what our policy states, right from the PHB, second time it happened, I would turn them away. Is it hard to do, yes, but the more you do it, the better you get at it. Just like with anything else.

I have not had any parent issues for quite some time now. Well at least none to have to bring me to the board.

Hopefully you will get things under control...hugs to you