Has a DCK Called You a Name?

[Josiegirl]

Oh I HATE it when they do that!! Spitting is one of the worst! What a little ****! I guess I just don't get it. My kids would've never ever done anything like that to anyone. It wouldn't enter their mind. But wow, some of the stuff I've seen kids do in my daycare boggles my mind.

[Sunshine75]

Countrymom-my suggestion to you about the diaper changing thing is to simply say you are giving him a choice. He can come over willingly and get his diaper changed or he can refuse and if you have to go over and get him there will be a consequence. To him this is perceived control which children who are his age range are starting to really press and understand about themselves and their bodies. They want control but don't know how to express it appropriately. You could say I know you think you don't have a poopy diaper but you do and I can show you if you come over. The best kind of consequence for children is one that is as closely related to the negative thing they have done. An example would be if the child spit as in a previous post I would talk to the parents and ask them if I could not only have them clean it up but put tobasco sauce on their tongue for doing it. The parents and you are the ones in charge and in agreement this way with the child being the one who no longer can pull the strings. Just like in a 2 parent family where both are on the same side you can set things up like that between yourself and the parent.

[Angelsj]

Countrymom-my suggestion to you about the diaper changing thing is to simply say you are giving him a choice. He can come over willingly and get his diaper changed or he can refuse and if you have to go over and get him there will be a consequence. To him this is perceived control which children who are his age range are starting to really press and understand about themselves and their bodies. They want control but don't know how to express it appropriately. You could say I know you think you don't have a poopy diaper but you do and I can show you if you come over. The best kind of consequence for children is one that is as closely related to the negative thing they have done. An example would be if the child spit as in a previous post I would talk to the parents and ask them if I could not only have them clean it up but put tobasco sauce on their tongue for doing it. The parents and you are the ones in charge and in agreement this way with the child being the one who no longer can pull the strings. Just like in a 2 parent family where both are on the same side you can set things up like that between yourself and the parent.

That isn't legal according to MN guidelines. I get where you are coming from with having an EXTRA consequence other than just cleaning it up, but we, as providers, cannot punish a child with hot sauce.
Maybe he could do a little extra cleaning, like washing cupboard faces for a bit? Because of "splash?"