Very Rude When Picking Up Kids...

[Lucy]

I guess I am superhuman then - my father attempted suicide and when I found out 1 hour before pick ups - I still managed a smile and have a good night.

Really..it isnt THAT difficult to muster up in any situation.

I agree. I can fake a smile and a cheery sounding greeting no matter what. Some people are just cut out like that where we don't want others to know our feelings, so we fake it. I remember seeing Marie Osmond on Larry King and he was asking her if she was so depressed (post-partum depression) then why was she able to go on tv and act all bubbly. She said "it's what we do" - meaning she's an actress and knows when to turn it on and be as fake as humanly possible. Some of us can do that. It's like we don't want to burden someone else with our bad mood, so we fake a good one. I've done it often.

ETA: Also, I have a mom who (twice) has taken a minute in the car to wipe her eyes and check herself in the mirror, then come in and I can tell she had been crying, but she still turns on the charm while in my house. Smiling, asking how her daughter's day was, wishing me a good evening, etc. I have no idea what she was so devastated over, and it's none of my business. But it CAN be done, and she's proof.

[tenderhearts]

I am just like Dancemom, I always have a smile and am pleasant no matter how I am feeling, just how I am.

[My4SunshineGirlsNY]

Yes, I had a mom that was always quiet, not a single word to me and just left. It made me uncomfortable because looking at her facebook, she's quick to swear or say negative things (not to anyone, just about her day).

To me, it felt very rude and made me wonder if she even appreciated what I do all day long for her child. Or if she cared that he didn't listen and disrespected my home many days. I did term her mosty because I felt uncomfortable with this, the rest of the reason was I felt overbooked and overwhelmed as it was summer.

When someone shows up like that and you don't know if they had a bad day or what the reason is, it makes you feel like "gee, did I do something wrong?"...you wonder if they are mad at you for some reason. I get like that now, wondering if they are mad because their child picked up a bad habbit from one of my own kids. So then I'm left feeling stressed wondering if they are mad at me and want to leave and if I will be out income.

So ya, I know exactly what you are saying here. It is not a comfortable feeling, bad day or not, at least let me know if it's me, or something in my daycare so I'm not left feeling stressed over it.

[QualiTcare]

i dunno, i agree with the unregistered poster too. i'd be more worried about a parent who normally told me thank you, etc. than mad because i didn't like the parting words - or lack of.

we're talking about a nice, grateful parent who expresses her appreciation who didn't say goodbye ONCE - right?

it seems odd.

[Jewels]

I can understand that but if you are annoyed about something how does it help the situation to not voice your concerns to the provider? The provider can do nothing about changing things if she knows nothing of the problem. Just saying. . . .

But see that was the problem with the provider I had, whenever I did voice something she would get super defensive and annoyed at me, so sometimes it would get hard to speak up, But this is all why I dont have my kid in daycare anymore.

[Jewels]

So are you saying she was probably annoyed with me ? :: Screw her..if she is then take your child somewhere else. I have ZERO time for people that treat me like crap no matter how bad of a day you are having. I take care of your child for 11 hours everyday...I think a "Have a nice weekend" isnt so hard to do. **** it up - I sure wouldnt treat the person caring for MY child like crap. ( Unless of course I hated her then my kid wouldnt be there to begin with ) But I know this isnt the case with me as she usually is very bubbly, gives me thank you cards and says how blessed her family is to have me caring for her daughters )

Everyone is allowed a bad day of course, but it gives you no right to be a jerk to another person - it just doesnt. You can Fake a smile if you have to.

And no I wasnt saying they were annoyed with you, I was just saying that I once did that.

[DanceMom]

i dunno, i agree with the unregistered poster too. i'd be more worried about a parent who normally told me thank you, etc. than mad because i didn't like the parting words - or lack of.

we're talking about a nice, grateful parent who expresses her appreciation who didn't say goodbye ONCE - right?

it seems odd.

Yes, the no goodbye, no smile, no thank you, no have a great weekend..was once. She has come in before looking like she has had a bad day but I at least get a bye. or a thank you. To come into my home, where I give care to your child for 11 hours a day - and not say a WORD to me, and not even look at me...was off ... for her. I think that is why I vented. Because I was like WTH ?

She dropped off today...and was normal. I of course, chalk it up to her having a bad day..and I was/am over it. I just thought it was rude but I am the type of person that says hi to everyone, thank you/have a nice day to the grocery store clerk etc. I never give anyone the cold shoulder esp if *I* am the one having a bad day..the people that I come in contact with that day doesnt deserve my wrath.