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  • melilley
    Daycare.com Member
    • Oct 2012
    • 5155

    Then Mental Part Of Providing Childcare-Vent-Sort Of

    I have to admit that it is the mental part of taking care of children that wears me down. Physically, I could chase the kids around, pick them up, play, etc..., all day and it doesn't bother me. But when I have a dck who scream/cries, that I constantly have to talk to and tell not to hit or put things in his mouth or don't do this, don't do that, blah, blah, blah day after day, and then an almost 3 year old who cries if someone looks at her-even the dog and who is very bossy and yells at the other kids, so there I go again "M, I will tell them they can/can't do what ever it is, not you or M he just touched your sock, you don't need to scream about it"...... it just really wears me out sometimes! Don't get me wrong, I love having my fcc (most days ). I just wish that people could see the mental side!
    My dh knows (well thinks) that I am exhausted because of the physical aspect of this profession and sees that I do get a pretty long (most days) break at nap, but once they are up......

    I know, I know it's part of the job. Does anyone else feel like this? I am really not trying to complain, I get to stay home with my ds and do something that I love! Today was just one of those "mental" days....
  • Kabob
    Daycare.com Member
    • Jun 2013
    • 1106

    #2
    Right there with you! Some days I'm completely worn out and others are easy and I work the same hours or more daily. The days that exhaust me are the days where everyone is crabby and ready to crash by 11 am but they don't wanna nap for beans. Mondays usually. Today is a breeze so far...

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    • butterfly
      Daycare.com Member
      • Nov 2012
      • 1627

      #3
      ME!! I'm right there with you too! I'm dreaming about next year. My kids are mostly the same age, so I'm thinking that when they are another year older and more mature, they'll have less tantrums. Maybe it'll just be bigger, more physical fights, but I can dream...

      :hug:

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      • melilley
        Daycare.com Member
        • Oct 2012
        • 5155

        #4
        Originally posted by butterfly
        ME!! I'm right there with you too! I'm dreaming about next year. My kids are mostly the same age, so I'm thinking that when they are another year older and more mature, they'll have less tantrums. Maybe it'll just be bigger, more physical fights, but I can dream...

        :hug:
        Lol, then we'll be on here saying it's the physical, not mental part...

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        • butterfly
          Daycare.com Member
          • Nov 2012
          • 1627

          #5
          Originally posted by melilley
          Lol, then we'll be on here saying it's the physical, not mental part...
          Darn, I didn't think that through far enough... ::

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          • WImom
            Advanced Daycare.com Member
            • Jun 2010
            • 1639

            #6
            YES!!! I'm still tired from being on my feet all day but it's not the same tired. I have two challenging children right now and I'm just exhausted at the end of the day.

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            • Jack Sprat
              New Daycare.com Member
              • Jul 2013
              • 882

              #7
              Yep!!! Thank God for Nap Time!! It's my time to decompress and reboot mentally! Some days are harder then others. Today was one of those days. :hug:

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              • Blackcat31
                • Oct 2010
                • 36124

                #8
                Originally posted by melilley
                Lol, then we'll be on here saying it's the physical, not mental part...
                Yes, be careful what you wish for

                I no longer find this job to be half as mentally challenging as I used to (when I was younger).

                Now that I am older and am more aware of what my personal "stress triggers" are the mental stress of this job is non-existent.

                It's the physical part that gets me now.

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                • crazydaycarelady
                  Not really crazy
                  • Jul 2012
                  • 1457

                  #9
                  I have often told my hubby at the end of the day that I am "mentally drained." I am sure he thinks I must be simple-minded if a bunch of toddlers mentally drained me! But it is like you said, just constantly answering questions, and mindless chatter, and the crying, and the whining, and the constant reminders to be nice, don't hit your friends, be gentle around the baby, do you have to go potty, ugh.....ugh........ugh!

                  After one dcm was here for about 10 minutes yesterday she remarked "I don't know how you do it!"

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                  • Unregistered

                    #10
                    I'm tired of dealing with the "everything goes, non parenting parents "

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                    • Josiegirl
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Jun 2013
                      • 10834

                      #11
                      And on the 8th day God invented chocolate for child care providers.::

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                      • e.j.
                        Daycare.com Member
                        • Dec 2010
                        • 3738

                        #12
                        Originally posted by melilley
                        I have to admit that it is the mental part of taking care of children that wears me down. Physically, I could chase the kids around, pick them up, play, etc..., all day and it doesn't bother me. But when I have a dck who scream/cries, that I constantly have to talk to and tell not to hit or put things in his mouth or don't do this, don't do that, blah, blah, blah day after day, and then an almost 3 year old who cries if someone looks at her-even the dog and who is very bossy and yells at the other kids, so there I go again "M, I will tell them they can/can't do what ever it is, not you or M he just touched your sock, you don't need to scream about it"...... it just really wears me out sometimes! Don't get me wrong, I love having my fcc (most days ). I just wish that people could see the mental side!
                        My dh knows (well thinks) that I am exhausted because of the physical aspect of this profession and sees that I do get a pretty long (most days) break at nap, but once they are up......

                        I know, I know it's part of the job. Does anyone else feel like this? I am really not trying to complain, I get to stay home with my ds and do something that I love! Today was just one of those "mental" days....
                        I just had a conversation with my husband yesterday about this same thing. I told him that as physically tired as I can get some days, it's the daily mental drain that gets to me more than anything.

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                        • MotherNature
                          Matilda Jane Addict
                          • Feb 2013
                          • 1120

                          #13
                          I totally get the mental drain, especially as my spirited kid is the one that usually causes issues....not like I can call myself to come pick him up. :: He's at that age where he doesn't want to share & take turns & acts up to get the extra attention. Some days e just completely drains me. At least my husband will tell me he's going to make dinner, and I should go to Goodwill for a bit when the dck leave. lovethis

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                          • KidGrind
                            Daycare.com Member
                            • Sep 2013
                            • 1099

                            #14
                            The mental for me is being on high alert until the last parent picks up. It can be a drain.

                            Crying, whining doesn't bother me.

                            The physical wears me down. My body is perpetually sore.

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                            • Sunshine75
                              Daycare.com Member
                              • Sep 2013
                              • 109

                              #15
                              Blackcat 31...what are some of your stress triggers and how do you manage them? I know right now for me it is that I have a screamer and not always happy. Right away in the morning when he comes I have his breakfast ready as otherwise he literally screams a high pitch wail, and I kid you not, he will wake up my whole family as he is the first to arrive.

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