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Hi I just joined this group and I have a question for all of you. I have a 6 year old boy, almost 7 who engages in what I believe are attention seeking behaviors. (Noises in peoples face, jumping on you etc) He doesn't like Halloween decorations and flipps out. He is not autistic, he's been tested for it and the results came back as Disruptive Behavior Disorder. So, if he was autistic I would be more understanding. However, the mom has sent me an email and requested I move some of my decorations. He doesn't like witches or skeletons. My issues is that I don't believe that's fair to my own child or the other children in daycare. Any suggestions on how you would handle this situation or respond to the mother?
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Dear DCM
Sounds like my program is not a good fit for Jimmy.
The last day I am willing to provide care is XXXX.
Sincerely,
Daycare Provider.
That would be MY response.
I am not into meeting the needs of individual families when it simply sounds like the child needs more parental intervention than anything. -
Dear DCM
Sounds like my program is not a good fit for Jimmy.
The last day I am willing to provide care is XXXX.
Sincerely,
Daycare Provider.
That would be MY response.
I am not into meeting the needs of individual families when it simply sounds like the child needs more parental intervention than anything.
This. If someone doesn't like my couch, I'm not going to go get a new one. Holidays are important to me and my family. I always decorate. If someone didn't want me too I would tell them its not a good fit.
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Dear DC Mom,
I have loved caring for your child, but find he has outgrown my care. The last day I will be available to provide care is October 18. Should you need assistance with your child care search the phone number for the referral agency is 555-555-5555. Thank you for allowing me to care for your child. I wish you all the best in the future.
Sincerely,
Happy Provider
Honestly, that's how I would handle it.
Oh and I'd verbally tell her "Sally, I can't take those down as all the other children and families love the decorations."Comment
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We posted at the same time - great minds...:Dear DCM
Sounds like my program is not a good fit for Jimmy.
The last day I am willing to provide care is XXXX.
Sincerely,
Daycare Provider.
That would be MY response.
I am not into meeting the needs of individual families when it simply sounds like the child needs more parental intervention than anything.
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There is no definitive test for autism. He very well could be on the autism spectrum. (mom of an autistic son here.)
I personally don't think witches and skeletons are appropriate for dck age children; but I'm more conservative than many.
If you feel that strongly about those decorations, I wouldn't change it for them either. Just be open and honest with the parents.Comment
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I would decorate more child friendly such as pumpkins. You could always put the scary stuff in your child's bedroom if they will be deprived with out it.
I guess I do not understand why one disability is acceptable and the other is not? Can the child control his fear ?Probably not. just use pumpkins instead of stressing the poor child for an entire month.It:
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I would understand if he was younger that the decorations might scare him but you say he is almost 7. Have you talked with him about how its fake. Also i would sit with him and mom about him jumping on people and getting close in people faces. I personally wouldn't move any decorations for one parent. What happens when the rest of the parents come in and ask why you aren't decorating this year.Comment
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I strongly disagree. Home daycare providers give up so much of their personal space at home in order to run their business. What other job encroaches on anyone's personal life so much?
A provider's whole family has to remember to put things away correctly so dangerous items aren't left out... kids of the daycare provider have to share their toys when daycare kids are over. Every person needs to decide how much is too much. The OP thinks that taking down her family's decorations is too much sacrifice for her business. Stick to how you feel, OP! If you give in and sacrifice/change things in your home, you will grow resentful and unhappy, and no one's job should do that to them.Comment
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I also agree with Brooksie. If mom says "Bryce doesn't like your Christmas tree, can you take it down? Bryce is sensitive to blinds, can you change to curtains? Bryce doesn't like beef, can you not serve it anymore?", is the OP supposed to give into that too?
I'm sure his school isn't going to take down their decorations.Comment
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Thank you everyone! I was afraid I was being unreasonable but as one responded, we do give up so much. I love my job and not to complain but we do give up a lot at times. The other children love them and many helped decorate and chose them with me.
I do have pumpkins and scarecrows as well but the witch is not scary. It's cartoonish and smiling even. Definately not scary or unfriendly. The skeleton is a plastic glow in the dark smily face as well.
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This exactly.
I also agree with Brooksie. If mom says "Bryce doesn't like your Christmas tree, can you take it down? Bryce is sensitive to blinds, can you change to curtains? Bryce doesn't like beef, can you not serve it anymore?", is the OP supposed to give into that too?
I'm sure his school isn't going to take down their decorations.
I'm going to venture that the OP's decorations are not completely out of line with children being present and that DCP is being unreasonable.
Is she going to tell all her neighbors what they can and can't decorate with because junior doesn't like it?
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